1. Remember Whose You Are

How does my identity affect reconciliation?

Understanding my personal view of my own identity affects how I view myself and others in our disagreement. Whether I realize it or not, my personal view of my identity shapes my perspective of the conflict.

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We begin with understanding that while we are sinners, we are also forgiven in Christ!

By nature, I am:    

  • A ______ creature.

       Psalm 51:5; Romans 3:10-12, 23; James 2:10

  • An _______ of God.

       Isaiah 59:2; Romans 5:10

  • One who daily ___________ with my sinful nature.

       Job 14:4; 15:14; Romans 7:14-25; Galatians 5:17

  • Unclean and worthless, a __________ who has nothing to offer God.

       Isaiah 64:6; Romans 3:12; 1 Timothy 6:7

  • Condemned to be ___________ from God eternally.

       Romans 6:23a

We have all become like one who is unclean,

and all our righteous deeds are like a polluted garment.

Isaiah 64:6

In Christ, I am:


  • No longer separated from God, I have been _________  _____ by His blood.

       Ephesians 2:12-13; Romans 8:35-39

  • A ______________ through Him.

       Isaiah 53:5-6; John 3:16; 2 Corinthians 5:16-21

  • Changed from an ________ to an _____.

       Romans 6:2-5; Galatians 3:26-4:7; Titus 3:5-7

  • A beloved ______ of God, precious in His eyes.

       Isaiah 43:4; John 1:12-13; 1 John 3:1

  • _________ and __________ by the precious blood of Christ.

       1 John 1:7; 1 Peter 1:18-19

In other words, I have been given a new identity.


I am a child of God!

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.

1 John 3:1a

How might my identity in Christ affect the way I respond to conflict?

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Acts 2:38; 22:16

2 Corinthians 5:17; 1 John 3:1

2 Corinthians 5:14-15

Romans 6:3-4

Ephesians 4:22-24

Who needs to be reconciled?

First, I need to be reconciled to:


Next, I need to be reconciled to:



Whether or not I need to be reconciled to someone else, I may need:


How should I view others in conflict?

Remembering whose I am changes how I view others with whom I disagree.

They are not just ...

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They are people for whom Christ has died! (John 3:16).



This includes:

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  • an opponent,

  • an enemy

  • a human version of the devil!

  • A brother or sister in Christ (a fellow child of God).

       1 John 3:1, 23

  • Someone who does not yet know Christ.

       1 Peter 2:12; 1 Peter 3:14-17

Distinguishing Conflict Resolution from Reconciliation

Conflict resolution addresses the material or substantive issues of the conflict. We identify problems to be solved and negotiate with the other person to resolve them. 

Material Issues include money, property, roles, structure, rights, etc.

Reconciliation restores the relationship by addressing the relational or personal issues of the conflict. These issues are reconciled through confession and forgiveness.

Personal Issues include hurtful words & actions, gossip, denial, avoidance, etc.

Both conflict resolution and reconciliation are necessary in virtually all conflicts! But our heavenly Father is a God of restored relationships. He gives us the ministry of reconciliation, not simply conflict resolution.

Journal Reflections

Take a moment to journal your personal reflections from this first section, Remember Whose You Are. Apply these questions to a conflict from your own life (current or past).

In spite of your sinful nature, how does your heavenly Father view:

  1. you?

  2. the person with whom you are in conflict?

In light of how your heavenly Father views you both:

  1. What is your worth to God?

  2. What is the other person’s worth to God?

Other reflections:

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