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Service
Type
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07/10/2024
5 so far
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Met with family of two parents and seven adult children to discuss and work through fall out from father's recent adulterous relationship.
06/03/2024
5
Coaching
Church/School
No
Provided coaching for church leaders and individuals in conflict with the hope that they can resolve the issues and reconcile.
06/03/2024
123
Mediation
Marriage/Family
Yes
dispute
05/08/2024
2
Arbitration
Other
No
Selected by random draw to be Grievance Officer for complaint against reconciler. Exchanged emails with parties but did not have opportunity to interview those involved because Complaintant withdrew grievance. Wrote Grievance Proceding Determination to document .
04/06/2024
18
Coaching
Other
No
The widow of a deceased pastor whose friends (and eventually, the widow ) had contacted me for assistance. The case potentially involves the church he was pastoring as well as family and business relationships. I have not yet completed the case and at this stage it involves Conflict Coaching in preparation for and possibly leading to mediation. As the case continues to move forward to possible completion, feedback will be requested.
04/06/2024
3
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
This case involves a dear friend (John) and fellow church member experiencing conflict within his blended family, specifically sibling children of his wife. The conflict carries over into anger directed by one of the children toward his mom and is impacting all relationships. The case is continuing on into 2024 and feedback will be requested at that time.
02/23/2024
3 hours
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
JL - Coaching through relationship struggles with children and girlfriend
02/07/2024
2.5
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Mediation between a mother and her teenage daughter regarding increased disrespect towards the mother. I helped them agree to guidelines, boundaries, and consequences if the disrespect continues after the daughter is warned by her mother.
02/01/2024
38
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
Mediated congregational conflict related to pastoral change.
01/26/2024
To date, approximately 8, but case is on-going
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Young adult estranged from her parents asked me to mediate discussion of the issues that have divided them. Have done pre-mediation work with both sides, but have not yet met with parties together. Mediation is scheduled later in January.
01/23/2024
2
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
David, a Navigators minister, has been struggling in his relationship with his only son, a 17 year old teenage boy. I offered to coach him in this using Courageous Parenting resource and we met together for the first time on 1/16 after he completed the first chapter of homework. We will continue to meet, possibly with his wife next time, every other week. I recommended an additional resource from Parent Cue for him to order.
01/15/2024
5 hours
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
DE & ME - coaching and mediation with their new marriage and the struggles that have been going on as they continue to grow in their relationships
01/15/2024
5.0
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Coaching wife after abandonment by husband. Assisted with confession/forgiveness even though husband refused to communicate except through lawyers. The case has just been completed, and an evaluation will be sent.
01/15/2024
5.0 in 2023
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Coaching son regarding unresolved conflict and damaged relationship with abusive father.
01/15/2024
17.3 in 2023
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Severe marital dysfunction for many years. Mediation is ongoing to identify and resolve multiple issues.
01/13/2024
12.5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Marriage coaching which is ongoing.
01/13/2024
12
Coaching
Marriage/Family
Yes
A couple who with very difficult life circumstances. We meet with them monthly to enouragae and guide.
01/13/2024
9
Coaching
Other
Yes
Young single woman with internal conflicts. One-day intensive provided with some ongoing coaching in the future.
01/13/2024
19
Coaching
Other
No
Young single woman needing guidance through past emotional abuse and current family issues.
01/13/2024
25
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
This is a case of domestic abuse. I have been working steadily with this party and continue to do so.
01/13/2024
6
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Older couple dealing with unresolved conflict from the past.
01/13/2024
13
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Premarital coaching, then after married coaching which will continue due to issues they are facing.
01/13/2024
12
Coaching
Other
No
Young single woman struggling with work and personal issues.
01/13/2024
5
Coaching
Other
No
Single young woman with past drug addiction and current dysfunctional relationships with men.
01/13/2024
19
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Emotional abuse situation in which I am serving the wife.
01/13/2024
10
Coaching
Other
No
Currently working with a missionary couple on home assignment that is working through difficult situations on the field.
01/13/2024
25
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Pornography and other issues in the marriage. Likely ongoing. Their church is financing their work with us.
01/13/2024
13
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Couple struggling with his porn habit and physiological issues of the husband.
01/11/2024
8
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
MC Wife is divorcing her husband, who admits that he has been neglectful of his wife and his children, but who now wants to confess and be reconciled with his wife and children. We are working up a confession
01/09/2024
80+ hours
Coaching
Church/School
No
This is not a single coaching case, but I will include here many ongoing informal coaching cases that I have among Hutterite people, where my husband and I have been working as missionaries for the last 15 years. I am in regular contact with Hutterite women, who often share their struggles with me. Their life is especially challenging because when they marry, they move to their husband’s community, where they have to adjust to a different way of life and a new set of rules. There is a strict hierarchy among the group, and tensions among the women arise frequently, since they have to work very closely together in the community kitchen and garden. Most of their relationship issues circle around being judged by others and being oppressed by individuals or by the group. There is no teaching on how to communicate openly and honestly with each other, so there is a lot of distrust and envy and gossip among them. This often leads to anger and the forming of cliques, which divides the group even further. I have been teaching conflict resolution in many colonies now, and slowly, people are catching on to the peacemaking principles (even the men!). Hutterites do not hear the gospel preached in church, but we see more and more people being transformed by God’s Word, and I feel that the Lord has given me the ministry of Biblical peacemaking to help the Hutterite people better understand and live out the Gospel.
01/09/2024
6
Coaching
Other
Yes
Small women's study group were in conflict. I coached various members while I was conducting a peacemaker training for them. We had a resolution by the end of the training.
01/09/2024
35
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
This is an ongoing case where I have been coaching two brothers with the goal of mediating their offenses that developed during their childhood. Part of the problem is that the one brother feels that he was neglected by their mother, who favored the other brother over him. He is struggling with a lot of anger and bitterness towards his brother but is realizing now that he can’t have peace or move on with his life, unless he forgives his brother and also his mother, who is deceased. The other brother has acknowledged that his arrogant attitude towards his older brother has been part of the problem and has taken the first step and apologized to him for his behavior and hurtful words. I am hoping that there will be a mediation soon to address all the remaining issues.
01/06/2024
75
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
4 parties, mom/dad of son, a pastor, and wife. Broken relationships even though a close family. The parties developed a plan to relate to one another including seeing the grandkids.
01/05/2024
16
Arbitration
Marriage/Family
No
a test case
01/04/2024
85
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
The conflict started between a sister and brother-in-law, who had a falling out. Later, the whole family was affected by the conflict, mainly due to miscommunications and unfulfilled expectations. The first meeting involved the parents, their daughter, and son-in-law. They had open and honest conversations and all four parties reconciled with each other. The second meeting was only partially successful because the other daughter was not willing to reconcile with her brother-in-law. Therefore, the parties were only partially satisfied with the result.
01/04/2024
25+
Arbitration
Other
No
BE Arbitration. Award expected February 2024 as this is an ongoing case.
01/03/2024
30.5
Mediation
Business
Yes
This mediation was assigned to me by AofR as the parties requested me as conciliator. It was an employment dispute between the owner and two employees who left the company and were alleged to have taken customers and trade secrets with them. It was complicated by federal litigation with a discovery deadline and trial date within a month of my assignment. After 6 sessions of conflict coaching and an all day mediation the parties got close but were not able to reach an agreement. The litigation will proceed and they may return for further help.
01/02/2024
20
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
C had a breakdown in relationship with her grandmother and aunt following her grandfather's death. She has engaged with the coaching materials well and established reasonable relationships given the circumstances.
01/02/2024
24
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
S and J are trying to save their marriage after it was revealed that he had been unfaithful on numerous occasions. We are continuing to work with them as they address the issues.
01/02/2024
7
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Helping L navigate difficult relationships with grandchildren, daughter and son in law (soon to be 'x')
01/02/2024
12
Coaching
Other
No
S was struggling with judging family members and friends She worked through the coaching materials thoroughly. Her heart has been addressed and she feels she is free from bitterness. We are meeting on a bi-monthly basis for a check in call during 2024
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
New believer A and her unbelieving husband D; she got involved in the Trucker Convoy; this created huge problems in their marriage. She has been drinking and using marijuana. She withdrew from the process "partially satisfied". He stopped answering our follow up calls.
01/02/2024
18
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
A is dealing with an abusive husband and now a baby has been introduced to the mix. She is struggling with anger and bitterness. Temporarily separated on two occasions
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
O has been advocating for her brother (involved in a serious car crash). She is also trying to maintain relship with her mother and other family members
01/02/2024
60
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
L and M - addressing issues in marriage (his addictions and financial irresponsibility); they are now separated.
01/02/2024
6
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Working with U as she confronts the CSA from her childhood
01/02/2024
10
Coaching
Other
No
P is Hindu. I have been sharing the gospel with her through the coaching materials as it relates to her broken abusive marriage and cultural pressures being from India. We are continuing to meet monthly.
01/02/2024
10
Coaching
Church/School
No
Helping Pastor J and T address the pain of betrayal from the church they served for two decades
01/02/2024
30
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
J and JC are associate pastors in a local church. He has been abusive. They both engaged in the conflict coaching to the full extent required. He ended up taking Chris Moles' Men of Peace Program to address his abusive behaviour and attitude. There was great success through this program and their marriage has been changed. I will continue to follow up with Julie on a bi-monthly basis to ensure things are good in their marriage.
01/02/2024
8
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
S is navigating the aftermath of her son's failed marriage and her husband's criminal charges for stalking. She has engaged well with the coaching materials and we are continuing to meet for follow up and check in.
01/02/2024
40
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Pastor T and A engaged in the conflict coaching and this led to mediation in March 2023. The mediation was a success but Thomas was fired from his pastorate several months later. This caused a downward spiral on his part. He has continued to meet with my co-counsellor but has returned to old patterns. I'm continuing to meet with Alejandra for conflict coaching through these difficult times.
01/02/2024
10
Coaching
Other
No
Helping W address broken relationships and failed marriage
01/02/2024
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
M was referred by the County Mental Health in 2022. We have spent the year working through challenges in her relationship with her senior citizen father. Things have gone well and she finds her anger has been substantially addressed.
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
C has been struggling with bitterness toward her abusive sister. She has engaged with the coaching materials and has been able to establish a safe and reasonable relationship with her sister.
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
I is still working through her difficult marriage to a porn addict
01/02/2024
50
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
C and A submitted to a mediation in 2023. While there were agreements reached, Aristide did not truly engage in the process. I continue to meet with Cadeau on a monthly basis to coach her through this difficult situation. Aristide is inconsistent in meeting with my co-counsellor Dave.
01/02/2024
20
Coaching
Other
No
A is a teenaged girl. She recently revealed she was sexually abused by her adoptive father and a court case will ensue. Her adoptive mother kicked her out of the home. She is navigating a great deal of anger and bitterness. She is doing well considering the circumstances.
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Helping P address his broken marriage and losses due to his abusiveness
01/02/2024
12
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
A and H's marriage was salvaged following infidelity and separation. A mediation in 2022 has been followed up with ongoing check in calls and marital restoration work.
01/02/2024
12
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
N and I meet on a monthly basis to work through her failed marriage and ongoing co-parenting of their 14 yr old daughter with her estranged husband.
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
H is working through her marriage issues and difficulties parenting a severely disabled child. Also addressing problems with church ldrship
01/02/2024
8
Coaching
Church/School
No
Helping L and M address their difficult marriage and former church position
01/01/2024
444+129 = 573 hours minimum
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
As a Marriage & Family Counselor, I handle conflict oriented situations every day, year round. This past year(2023) I did @ 62 cases (Marriage & Fam) and 43 Conflict Coaching situations.
01/01/2024
10+
Coaching
Other
No
Conflict coaching of Ms CC and leader of not for profit organisation
01/01/2024
7+
Coaching
Church/School
No
Individual conflict coaching of young female student leader in conflict with assistant pastor
01/01/2024
30+
Mediation
Church/School
No
3 phase mediation between a couple and their pastor including individual conflict coaching
01/01/2024
11+
Mediation
Church/School
No
2 phase mediation between two assistant pastors including individual conflict coaching
01/01/2024
1.5
Coaching
Church/School
No
Conflict coaching of parishioner unhappy with her pastor
01/01/2024
16
Mediation
Church/School
No
3 phase mediation between a senior and his assistant pastor including individual conflict coaching
01/01/2024
10+
Coaching
Church/School
No
Conflict coaching of female doctor in conflict with her pastor
01/01/2024
21+
Mediation
Church/School
No
2 phase mediation between autistic parents of autistic son in conflict with church leaders, including individual conflict coaching
01/01/2024
1-2
Coaching
Church/School
No
Conflict coaching of assistant pastor in conflict with his previous senior pastor
12/30/2023
8
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
BJS Husband and wife, owners of a counseling firm, are in conflict. She feels "missed" and "not heard" by her husband. Both have a past involving severe addictions. He is currently an elder at a church. They are responding beautifully to our coaching. God used Psalm 32:5 (I will confess my sin against myself to the Lord) to galvanize him to make a beautiful confession to her. Excited to see how their relationship develops.
12/30/2023
20
Coaching
Church/School
No
O The two paid pastors of a church are in conflict. The lead pastor apparently is driven, critical, and insensitive. I have met with the three unpaid elders several times and the paid pastors several times. Plan to meet with all of them together soon for a mediation.
12/30/2023
30
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
RJT Husband is emotionally abusive to his wife and his children. The more I listen to him, the more I see him as embodying the ksil, one of the fools in Proverbs. He is so prone to aggressive, out-of-control criticism! He believes he is being mistreated and disrespected, so he lashes out and makes demands. We see him making some changes some of the time, but are not confident that he will repent in a long-term way. His wife is benefiting greatly from Susie's coaching.
12/30/2023
24
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
I primarily coach JD, but his wife LD has recently asked to join. JD came to me overwhelmed and disenchanted with his marriage. They struggle to have children, then had 2, then triplets. JD has suffered a fantasy life that has colored his view of L. J is making good progress. They are both faithful Christians and engaged with a supportive church body. More recently J's parents have entered into a precarious stage: Mom has MS and falls; Dad is not able to support her physically and they both want to continue snow birding from NJ to FL. J's brother is nearer them, but not a Christian, dismissive and going though a divorce. EW are working on the practical issues they face and encouraging them to communicate and rely on one another as well as God and the Christian community they have.
12/28/2023
5.6
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Dispute between two brothers over multiple business issues. Previously assisted them in mediation, which resulted in an impasse. One brother sows discord with other family members and threatens libelous statements. Assisted with the formulation of responses. The case just concluded. Evaluations will be sent.
12/28/2023
8
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Husband and wife experiencing intense conflict after 10 years of marriage. Discipline of children, house renovation, finance and unwanted employments has created considerable tension as they fail to work through issues without sinful anger.
12/24/2023
4
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
C: Case ongoing at end of year. Client's wife had filed for divorce several months earlier. We are working with client to own and address his contributions to his wife's desire to divorce, as well as to address tensions with his daughter. Sadly, the divorce will probably come to completion. The client's attorney has advised him to not deliver any confessions before the divorce settlement is determined. However, his work will help him with coparenting challenges, hopefully still provide an avenue to restore the marriage and help improve tensions with his daughter. He is doing very well.
12/23/2023
1.0
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
The conflict involved family relationships between a wife and husband and the children and father
12/23/2023
2.0
Coaching
Estate
No
The dispute involved conflict between a brother and a sister involving inheritance and personal relational issues.
12/22/2023
78
Coaching
Other
No
PR; identity and relational struggles; stemming from childhood sexual abuse and unfavored son, he struggles with self-perception and projects his (false) guilt on others, resulting in relational struggles. He is growing in accepting His identity in Christ as overriding all others (including his own). He also suffers ADHD which impacts his work productivity.
12/22/2023
3
Coaching
Employment
No
Woman recently hired for a position struggling with whether to continue or quit over perceived slight form boss, and if continue, how to share with boss how his emails had impacted her. Coaching her helped her realize boss could not have known the sensitivities she was reacting to and that she was responding out of presumptions as to his motives (potentially sexual/racial discrimination). Her engagement with boss in desire to continue in new role built sound employment relationship.
12/21/2023
36.5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
CS is now in a litigated divorce process. His wife has maintained an affair and moved out. They attended a Christian conciliation mediation process, but did not complete it due to his wife's refusal to come to agreement on an ongoing schedule for their children and to discuss final resolution of finances. We have walked trough getting the children into therapy and the vagaries of his wife's stonewalling and seeming disinterest in concluding the case (she already views them as 'not married'). CS is maintaining a strong faith, working through the grief and maintaining good relationships with his children and faithful friends. He is now holding a forgiving attitude toward his wife and praying she will repent....
12/20/2023
32.5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
TC is in a litigated divorce process. He both wants separation and wants to preserve the marriage, but his wife has been unwilling to engage in marriage therapy, marital retreat or Christian conciliation. He grew up with a controlling and hypercritical father (parents divorced) and is strengthening his faith and practical walking in obedience as he suffers. He has been consistently stonewalled and is seeking to do the next right thing as he suffers.
12/20/2023
48
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
KW & BS have had an on/off relationship since grade-school. The are both Christians, both previously married and divorced. BS has struggled with infidelity for years, and recently ahs become celibate and devoted to KW. KW suffered serial sexual abuse for family members as a young child and is making good progress on noticing and controlling her reactivity and fearful suspicions of BS. Her reactivity has been a barrier to them moving forward on marriage, until recently. They are now engaged and both working on their growing relationship.
12/20/2023
27.5
Coaching
Other
No
KR suffers severe PTSD stemming from multiple TBIs incurred during his active duty service in the Marine Corps. He is often depressed which impacts his availability to work and relationships, but holds a strong faith that keeps him. He is twice divorced and has a girlfriend who seems understanding and supportive, but takes some of his limited energy. I am working in concert with his physician and the TBI clinic. Much of our work is faith oriented and focused on healthy routine, NOT overextending himself, so he can rebuild his emotional and energy reserves.
12/20/2023
17
Coaching
Marriage/Family
Yes
Pre-premarital coaching and then premarital coaching. Parties gave strong verbal feedback of how much they appreciated the coaching.
12/16/2023
12
Coaching
Employment
No
Issues with manager at work. Difficult work situation. Mental health issues involved. Lack of support in work environment. Family support nil. I believe this case is now resolved with this employer.
12/16/2023
2
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
BH (friend) asked me to coach him regarding a long-standing conflict with his brother. No miraculous breakthrough, but progress was made.
12/15/2023
53
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
A&BH came to me after suffering injury from a previous Christian therapist. WE have focused on healing through forgiveness and looking at what God is illuminating in their lives together (they also have 4 children). B suffered sexual abuse as child and is sensitive and often demurring with A. A can be very matter-of-fact which can feel harsh to B. We are working on improved deeper, more honest conversations and holding one another with the love of Christ, including tenderness, truth and forgiveness.
12/14/2023
8.05
Mediation
Church/School
No
Case involved a personal injury sustained by student at Christian school event. The case had been previously mediated and an impasse reached. Plaintiff increased their demand by 50% at mediation, shocking everyone, and with no movement towards compromise. Case resulted in an Impasse, and is going to binding arbitration.
12/13/2023
55
Mediation
Church/School
No
Virtual and onsite coaching and mediation with congregational involvement. Key parties repaired their relationships and created a 'going forward plan'. They reported to the board and all were grateful for God's mercy and grace!
12/13/2023
30
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Highly conflicted couple. Adultery discovered after a two day mediation.
12/13/2023
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
DH experiences relational struggles, particularly with his brother who suffers SMI and is often institutionalized or incarcerated. DM himself suffers Bipolar Disorder and severe effects of Lyme Disease. He is 'disabled' and receiving disability. DH has a clear identity in Christ that sustains his hope; and he suffers mightily. We focus on daily activities and how to interact with difficult and aggressive people.
12/12/2023
24.4
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Family dispute regarding finances and control of trusts. (Father-daughter) Although there was initial confession and forgiveness, old habits continued even during mediation. One of the parties could not be satisfied with any proposal unless they got everything they wanted. An Impasse resulted.
12/12/2023
4
Coaching
Other
No
Friend/next-door neighbor relationship estranged over one the dad's threatening son of neighbor over incident between neighbor's son and his daughter on school bus. Son's father sent scathing e-mail condemnation to neighbor daughter's father. Neighbor responded in kind, denigrating the other parent's parenting and son. Two months of silence and awkward avoidance ensued. Coaching of Son's Dad on living out Mat. 5:23-4, first focusing on his multiple logs and acceptance of gossip about neighbor.
12/12/2023
6
Coaching
Church/School
Yes
BL returned to see me about working to resolve church conflict. He had previously worked with me to resolve loss of his father and his wife's disenchantment with being a pastor's wife. She is now fully supportive. We looked at his communication style and sought resolution through Conflict to Peace (which his elders did not accept). Eventually the church polity refused the elder's efforts to dismiss BL as their pastor and reinforced their need to seek to resolve and make peace. The objecting elder refused again and left the church. BL continues to seek new elders and unite his mall body of hurt believers.
12/12/2023
9
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
RD is in a litigated divorce situation with an abusive spouse. He has a strong faith and is fearful that his daughter will be swayed by her mother and destroy his relationship with the daughter. They go to Court next month. He lost his father to cancer last year. He has also recently lost his job. WE are focusing on God's faithful lovingkindness, regardless of our circumstances and suffering.
12/10/2023
100?
Coaching
Other
No
Ongoing consult with AoR/ICC Case Admin on probably most every case by either ongoing email review or verbal debrief on countless cases, including one I may arbitrate.
12/10/2023
4
Coaching
Estate
No
Ongoing dispute relative to bequest payable to church by estate
12/10/2023
3
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Consult w Couple dealing with family issues
12/10/2023
20
Mediation
Business
Yes
AoR assignment for sums owed by family to Christian school
12/10/2023
25
Coaching
Other
No
RC Grievance from ICC Peace
12/10/2023
2
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Called in by mutual friends to address family dispute involving medical issues.
12/08/2023
23
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
CW lost her mother to an auto accident nearly 2 years ago. she has continued working through grief and finding her way without the mission of caring for her mom. This is complicated by her 3 siblings choosing to blame and litigate the accident. C expressed she did not want to participate or hear about the litigation, yet the mother's estate is encumbered by the litigation process. She is working to restore estranged relationships with her siblings and extended family (they have a family culture of not honestly addressing issues, but cutting off anyone they differ with. C is living out a different model. she is growing in confidence in God and who God ahs made her to be, and now wondering what God ahs for her life going forward.
12/06/2023
31
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
AM & CM are a married couple, having overcome an adulterous affair, they have a young son and have worked to adopt a 17 y/o teen girl 'in the system' with a history of multiple failed placements (she was horribly abused by her biological parents who trafficked her as a child). after about one month 'honeymoon phase' the girl started rebelling, acting out and ultimately fled. She also made false allegations of abuse (also repeated in her past placements). We have focused on grief, recovery and prayer for this lost soul who does claim Jesus as her savior. Having overcome these trials the couple is now considering another adoption or trying for another natural-born child (AM had near fatal eclampsia with their first child). They continue to hold strong together in their faith and CM has entered seminary, wondering what God has for him in the future. It is a privilege to walk with them.
12/05/2023
18
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
AS2, after reconciling with her husband, returned to work through an emergent diagnosis of stage 4 breast cancer and the whirlwind of issues that ensued with radiation, surgery and more radiation while her parents and brother remained cold and distant. Much loss and disorientation. Her husband remains a rock for her, and she is grieving, forgiving and not presenting herself to her dismissive family of origin yet willing for God to work a miracle. She is now reconsidering her professional goals and seeing God working. She quit and has now resumed radiation therapy.
12/04/2023
16.4
Mediation
Marriage/Family
Yes
Marital abuse by husband. Plan for security and stability reached and memorialized in comprehensive MOU. Parties remain together.
12/02/2023
2.25
Coaching
Church/School
No
G and K wanted to meet again following a mediation that I led last year. G hoped that he had done everything needed, but after hearing from him, I encouraged him to keep working towards peace with those who continued to wound him. I have not heard yet about the outcome.
12/02/2023
8
Coaching
Other
No
NR Young adult woman, a first generation immigrant to the US, wanted help dealing with same sex attraction. She has experienced much chaos and abuse in her childhood and adolescence. She saw clearly how her beliefs developed and wants freedom from her same sex temptation.
12/02/2023
3
Coaching
Church/School
No
K agreed to have me help her in her relationship with D, her colleague. I gave her homework from the Peacemaker and sought to help her process what she needs to communicate that isn’t yet resolved.
12/02/2023
2
Coaching
Other
No
D has run into conflict with several others in his ministry. D initially was open to working towards reconciliation, but his wife told him he’d done enough, so I will work with K and then D to probe further.
12/02/2023
1.25
Coaching
Church/School
No
R has had ongoing relational tension with a pastor who now leads the fellowship he began, J. R struggled as to how to address this conflict and with the ambiguity of the leadership structure. R has continued to be able to work collaboratively with the church since then.
12/02/2023
1
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
D has been having problems with his father-in-law, whom he called “abusive.” After having listened and asked questions, and offered counsel, D said that he had gained some very important perspective. This has led him to be able to relate with his father-in-law in a better light.
12/02/2023
5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
D desired to have me coach her regarding her strained relationship with her mother and father-in-law. Although this dispute involved a business, there was no paperwork to prove the substantive matter, so I focused on coaching her regarding her relationship with her mother, who seemed most open to working things through. I have not heard about the outcome.
12/02/2023
25
Coaching
Church/School
No
Pastor J contacted me about an ongoing between the elders at the church he now leads in Owosso and two families that left the church. The elders decided to work with Anne B. Fifer and I, and we approached the other parties, who seemed to initially agree for us to mediate. We mostly shuttled back and forth between the parties after that, coaching them and seeking to bring them together. However, we were ultimately unable to get them to come together, exhausting all of our efforts.
12/02/2023
5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
B’s son A is living with his parents but not respecting their boundaries. His parents met with me to have me help them decide on a plan of action. They came up with a plan, and I have sought to encourage them to follow through rather than giving into his bad behavior. He was not open to meeting with me. I do not believe that the son has been responding very positively.
12/01/2023
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
CW is a pastor's wife, needing help in her relationships in church and home.
11/28/2023
55
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
A senior pastor and associate pastor were deeply distrustful because of past actions by each of them. Thier conflict worsened over 2-3 years until they we unable to work together and asked for Christian conciliation assistance.
11/24/2023
25+
Arbitration
Other
No
AB Arbitration
11/22/2023
60
Coaching
Other
No
Pregnancy Distress Centre started in 2022. There was a disagreement between the board and the executive director. The ED completed all of the conflict coaching, with thoroughness. By the end of the process, she felt her heart had been changed and she was walking in full forgiveness. The Board members did not engage and were seemingly blind to their contribution to the issues. The Board prohibited a full investigation. With the ED's agreement we presented our findings of her situation to the Board but 'they didn't get it'. We closed the file at the end of November 2023.
11/21/2023
26
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Highly conflicted couple with a resistant husband. I continue serving the wife occasionally.
11/21/2023
12
Mediation
Church/School
No
This is a case between some parishioners and the Pastor and the Board who supports her. The issues relate to resources Pastor uses to preach and teach. There are also issues related to how the Pastor treated these parishioners, most of whom who have since left. There were private caucuses. Two trainings were prepared for 2024, one of which was Biblical Principles for Peacemaking, to be reported in 2024.
11/19/2023
30
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
A husband and wife with four young boys at home with high needs asked for help as they were "living like roommates and not like husband and wife." There wasn't any one event that led to the distance that they experienced emotionally, mentally, physically, and sexually, but many small conflicts that multiplied over time. They wanted help addressing the repeated conflicts they had had over many years about money, sex, and parenting.
11/18/2023
59
Coaching
Church/School
No
Coaching led the elders to accept a mediation process (church conciliation) occurring in 2024
11/17/2023
0.8
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Two brief coaching sessions with wife separated from husband in DC. She moved to NC. Read my book for specific guidance.
11/17/2023
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
I was working through her difficult marriage. Although she had been thoroughly engaged with the materials, she withdrew in November due to a lack of time.
11/17/2023
8
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Conflict coaching and mediation related to family conflict.
11/17/2023
14.5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
SA is struggling in conflict with her husband (occasionally) and her sister (often). Her parents are aged, unsaved and ill: Mom, angry, with Parkinson's and wheelchair-bound with a health care aid; Dad, often non-compliant with his boundaries has growing dementia. How to help them is often a source of conflict with her sister (her brother is withdrawn), and that has overflowed into her marriage. She is making good progress in separating issues from people and relying on God's grace for the tense moments.
11/16/2023
40 up to delivery of report, lots more since
Coaching
Church/School
No
Vineyard church board (2 pastors of other V. churches plus pastor of the involved V. church) ask for an "investigation" but as I worked with them we changed it to an Independent Review like an advisory non-binding opinion as set out in Rule 22. Church staff had handled (poorly) a situation with a church family and their teens who were in youth group and reported to the youth leader a situation requiring mandatory reporting. She did not handle it well, mother of the teens is quite a handful and was upset with leader's delay - reported to District Attorney and charges eventually were filed. Church told family to leave church -- sees it as something the family caused, etc. Plus waited 2 years before coming to me - negative gossip was upsetting them. I was able to interview the mother at the end of interviewing all other involved staff - my report delivered in Feb. 2024 and am still working with them. The Lord is at work -- the V. board has expressed much appreciation and I have great cooperation from the V. staff. Believe we will have a full mediation in a few months.
11/08/2023
1.90
Mediation
Employment
No
The dispute involved the amount and timing of payment of compensation owed by a church to a former employee and other post termination issues.
11/08/2023
37
Arbitration
Church/School
No
Allison Pickering and I are doing an investigation regarding pastoral sexual misconduct. We're in it now but hoping to wrap up by the end of the year.
11/04/2023
7
Mediation
Business
No
Small business owners who have worked with us off and on over the past 2 years to resolve conflicts.
11/04/2023
8
Mediation
Business
No
AC Owners of a small business have been in conflict. We have met with them quite a bit. On this occasion the most critical party changed her beliefs about imposing "Woke" beliefs on her parters. The reconciliation was beautiful!
11/02/2023
16
Coaching
Other
No
Woman seeking guidance through difficult issues.
11/01/2023
21
Mediation
Marriage/Family
Yes
An individual wrestling with issues. This party participated in classes we taught and sought further help.
11/01/2023
6
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
L has been navigating her failed marriage and re-engaging with her children. She and I met on a bi-monthly basis for follow up.
11/01/2023
25+ so far
Coaching
Church/School
No
Providing conflict coaching to multiple staff members and elders of a large church in Rochester, NY arising out of moral and ethical lapses of the former Executive Pastor and resulting staff allegations of leadership failures.
10/31/2023
6
Coaching
Marriage/Family
Yes
Provided a man with confict coaching in how to deal with extended family in the care of his elderly mother. The man felt that his siblings were excluding him from the decision making process. We Utilized many principles from Romans 12.
10/30/2023
2
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Marriage case - abuse dynamics.
10/30/2023
22 hours
Coaching
Church/School
No
JB - Senior Pastor in Conflict with Associate. (Working from April through the end of October each month in 2023 with him). Allowing him to have the holiday's and then will start back up in 2024 when he is ready. He has made progress and it is beautiful, but he doesn't want to end yet.
10/29/2023
2
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
After teaching a class at my church on biblical peacemaking combined with spiritual warfare, I had been approached by one of the students regarding the situation with her family. The marital couple was involved in divorce proceedings and this was crossing over into the relationship with other family members. This involved several hours of Conflict Coaching for which I am claiming two hours.
10/28/2023
3
Mediation
Church/School
No
Performed 3 weeks of facilitation with church members in an effort to resolve issues over worship music. The outcome was given to the pastor and presented to the board. Many church members expressed appreciation for the process.
10/27/2023
9
Coaching
Church/School
No
Staff member in conflict with church over housing issues. Worked through logistics of the move, bitterness and reconciling with leaders.
10/27/2023
45
Mediation
Church/School
No
Regional staff of a denomination where they oversaw local churches. They repaired their relationships and reported to their Board their progress.
10/26/2023
20
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
Co-mediated a case between a senior pastor and worship pastor. Parties reconciled. We prepared a Gospel Celebration Document that the pastors could share with their elder board.
10/23/2023
28
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Very difficult family case with Allison Pickering. The aging parents were determined to judge their adult son who was running the family business. They refused to bend throughout the coaching and 2 day mediation. I almost stopped it early because they were becoming abusive. I explained that to them and we did finish it. In the end, they remained bitter, unforgiving and opposed to their own son. Very sad! I do believe we served them well.
10/22/2023
100
Mediation
Church/School
No
Church conciliation involving leaders and members after a long dispute and many leaving the church. Most of those upset refused to mediate, even though thay participated and appreciated our work with them. the leaders of the church applied our work and harnessed the congregation to move forward in ministry.
10/21/2023
44
Mediation
Marriage/Family
Yes
H: Interestingly this couple was referred by a previous client (H-H) who we believed was dissatisfied because we did not facilitate convincing his girlfriend to marry him after it had been confirmed that he had cheated on her during the conciliation process. This couple of 8 years did wonderfully resolving relational issues in their marriage and referred another couple to us.
10/21/2023
10
Coaching
Church/School
No
Conflict coaching offered to pastors and church leaders at the annual meeting of our General Assembly in Ohio. I offer conflict coaching to our pastors and churches every year at this meeting.
10/20/2023
2 hours
Coaching
Church/School
No
Taught Young Peacemaker to the local elementary school in my area
10/19/2023
17
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
J &K H came with marital conflict and communication struggles. Their strong faith and deep love for one another offered a basis for good work to speak the truth in love, engage in active forgiveness and develop deeper understanding as they raise their young family.
10/18/2023
8
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Division of property. I stopped mediation as consensual process with support was no longer appropriate or possible. Mental health issues and domestic violence part of history. One party started to ignore then refused support people and acted against legal advice (which is legal requirement in NZ for this issue) as the case progressed.
10/17/2023
3
Coaching
Estate
No
Mom/Grandma struggling with discord among children/adult grandchildren and how it was impacting her estate distribution choices to try to preclude further discord. She was in the avoidance mode and thinking that money could solve their issues. Coached on engaging to address underlying issues out of her love for them, and recognizing a role she had in some of the conflict.
10/15/2023
60
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Mediation between siblings and parents with a sister/daughter who chose to not divorce her husband who was convicted of sexual assault of her adopted teenage daughter. Some of the siblings were dissatisfied with their sister for not divorcing him and struggling in her relationship with her daughter. Communication, over the course of 2 years had become almost non-existent.
10/15/2023
52
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
This was an extended family mediation, following a nuclear family mediation involving abuse by a father/husband, brother in law, son in law. This particular mediation was just for the extended family, grandparents, and adult siblings and their spouses. By God’s grace, reconciliation was reached by all parties involved in the mediation (7 adult parties). My wife Debby co-mediated this with me.
10/05/2023
38.80
Arbitration
Business
No
The dispute involved the performance by a fundraising consultant for a non-profit ministry entity. The entity claimed that the consultant did not perform pursuant to the agreement and that the consultant was not owed money. The consultant asserted a claim for payment pursuant to the agreement.
10/05/2023
26
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
NDP Adultery was revealed when we were meeting with the couple over marital conflict. Wife is bitter and angry. The husband recognizes that he should not have committed adultery, but he did. They are heading toward divorce.
10/02/2023
8
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
ZM Young adult male has never met his father. Raised by his mother and by an emotionally abusive grandpa. He is not yet a Christ follower. He struggles greatly with self-image and with not having a girlfriend. He accepted that he struggles greatly with shame. But he would/could not accept that Jesus' death. He comes back once a year (or so), still seeking acceptance from a girl and still not accepting Jesus' salvation.
09/29/2023
70
Mediation
Church/School
No
Complex church conciliation for a denomination of house churches. The key leaders were opposed by a group who split from the church. the opposition group refused to work with us. But I did do one mediation between two key people that reconciled well. Also, Dave Schlachter and I spent 3 days onsite with the people to do a peacemaking seminar, meet with leaders, youth, and lots of interviews with anyone who wanted coaching. It was a good experience and the group seems to be doing much better now.
09/28/2023
13.5
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Marriage case in our church; we mediated marital issues last year, but the Wife filed for divorce in June, so we offered to try to mediate their divorce issues (children, property). They did not reach agreement, so their attorneys are negotiating, but they may ask us to help them again.
09/28/2023
4
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
We did a marriage conciliation for this couple in 2020. This couple have worked their way back from a case of adultery and are working very well together. They reached out to me to help them work through several very sticky ongoing issues as their attempts at these conversations have not been fruitful. We are meeting every two weeks to work through the issues that they have on their list. With each meeting that passes, I am passing more and more of the ownership of the conversation back to them to drive the conversation. I started as more of a mediator and slowly this will become more of a coaching role. I will ask for feedback at the end of these sessions when the case is completed.
09/28/2023
20
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
E and J fully participated in the conflict coaching process together and engaged with the materials in a thorough fashion. They completed the process and were completely satisfied. This has helped them in their marriage and extended family relationships.
09/27/2023
65
Mediation
Other
No
Mediation between counsel and counselor and counseling service. Still in progress.
09/27/2023
12
Mediation
Other
No
In progress. Mediation between injured student and school/insurer.
09/27/2023
50
Mediation
Church/School
No
In progress - Church dispute.
09/25/2023
50
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
3 day marriage intensive preceded by around 20 hours of coaching and prep. They were separated. The mediation was difficult but they did reconcile, move in together and are doing very well today. God saved their marriage!
09/22/2023
4
Mediation
Church/School
No
Mediation between 2 church leaders.
09/21/2023
15
Coaching
Church/School
Yes
I offered conflict coaching to a Canadian Pastor and his spouse, the Church board and their denomination leadership team concerning issues between laypersons and the Senior Pastor. The coaching was in preparation for a week mediation in February, 2024. Parties offered the feedback to engage in the mediation and engage with me as the Peacemaker.
09/20/2023
75
Arbitration
Business
No
Arbitration of business dissolution between two partners. Single arbitrator. 7 figure value dispute.
09/15/2023
3
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Helping C address her failed marriage and abuse. She disappeared
09/13/2023
20
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
CR presented for working on his side of marital conflict. He and his wife have now entered marital therapy, CR grew up with dismissive parents and suffered sexual abuse as s a child. He was hypercritical and demanding towards his wife, triggered by any criticism or ask for change. He has grown tremendously, is moving toward a secure attachment and much less likely to be triggered by his wife or others. He embraced having difficult discussions, including asking for and granting forgiveness.
09/06/2023
20+ hrs
Mediation
Marriage/Family
Yes
Living separately, had done years of counseling, each been to a therapist (who ended up being wife's Spiritual Advisor), husband emotionally volatile and had hard time controlling his outbursts, negative words. Young children being impacted. Therapist put a diagnosis on him - wife needed assistance communicating with him. We worked separately and husband chose a godly man to be his Spiritual Advisor - I had more separate meetings prior to mediation with them. Good work done, but the divorce being filed was an action wife had to take in her opinion to gain sanity and safety (mentally). Mediation was difficult but both said helpful - worked through next steps. Recently checked in as I prayed for them and husband thanked me repeatedly for the work done.
09/06/2023
25
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
Conflict at a daycare/preschool run by a church between 30 year director and 5 year instructor undergoing the closure of the preschool and a transition to roles that changed the authority structure under which the two women interact. Accusations of harrassment had been filed, district had been contacted for relevant resources, and I was asked by the pastor to serve these two ladies. After coaching through CRvR we met for mediation for a full day and were able to come to agreement on core issues. More work was needed after, but I was able to offer some coaching to the pastor to help him work through addressing the remaining issues, and a working relationship going forward was established.
08/31/2023
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Helping B navigate her troubled relationships with boyfriend and addicted son
08/30/2023
11
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
This coaching work followed a marital mediation in 2022. T remained bitter and did not complete the process. She dropped out in August 2023
08/30/2023
20
Coaching
Church/School
No
Church member accused former pastor of embezzlement, then left the church and slandered pastor on FaceBook. Church leaders wanted to resolve and reconcile, so we were able to coach them somewhat, but, despite coaching, former member ultimately refused to agree to mediation. We probably put in 20 hours on this case, but maybe only half of that was direct coaching.
08/30/2023
20
Mediation
Employment
Yes
This is the continuing ministry case - this mediation was between the Chairman of the board and the executive director. This was a very difficult case between an executive director of a ministry and two executive level employees and the chairman of the ministry board.
08/24/2023
7
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Married couple of 29 years where husband was seeking separation citing irreconcilable differences and wife was seeking to reconcile. Long history of conflict and past hurt in the relationship hindered open communication. Unfortunately mediation was ended by one of the parties when they refused to continue, citing a misunderstanding of the process and unmet expectations, rendering them unable to continue further and a desire to settle everything in court.
08/24/2023
35
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Business dispute between two brothers, with relational issues. Mediation did not resolve. One party withdrew.
08/23/2023
21
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
G: Marriage case involving a couple in which the husband had filed for divorce at least twice but let the clock run out each time. The husband was not a born-again believer but attended church with his wife. The husband participated in several pre-mediation conflict coaching sessions but after continued fights with his wife abandoned the process. I was unsuccessful in getting him to re engage.
08/23/2023
18+
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
Folks in my church - past piano player and past choir leader and his wife. All had been friends before for many years through singing/playing at churches and my church. Choir leader (in my observation) was showing signs of dementia as Covid was descending on U.S. and our 2-session Sundays were cut to one and the choir leader was let leaving the "progressive" singer/leader of the other service in charge. Choir leader offended, says he was told not to come back to church (not true) and stayed away -- his wife was serving as elder and continued in her duties. Both women had been good friends in past. Whole church knew of the rift - many had observed the piano player's unhappiness with choir leader. I began to talk to each side and eventually had personal sessions and brought them all into a mediation with Spiritual Advisors. Beautiful result -- even with the choir leader who truly could not remember anything he had done or his interactions well enough to talk about them but his ending response to my question of what has happened for you today was "I think I need a heart change" and he stood up and sang "Change my Heart O Lord". The wife had shared the diagnosis by Drs of dementia (severe) and the two women hugged and renewed their friendship. Great spiritual advisors were key.
08/18/2023
12
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
Dispute between leaders of Christian not for profit concerning both personal issues and organizational issues. Mediation lasted two days with partial settlement. The negotiations between them continue.
08/18/2023
14
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Mediation for ongoing marital conflict.
08/18/2023
8
Mediation
Other
No
Mediated with a couple who had been dating for a couple years. Both felt that the relationship was stagnant and they needed help working through some differences they felt were keeping the relationship from moving forward. At the end of the day they both realized that they had a different view of what they wanted from a potential marriage and chose to end the relationship. I believe there was a little frustration with the mediation because it did not reveal anything they both did not already know. Both were satisfied with the role that I played as mediator and the process.
08/14/2023
36
Mediation
Business
No
Christian Non-profit organization - dispute between senior management and a member of the board. After attempts to reconcile issues, conducted mediation between the parties.
08/11/2023
10
Mediation
Other
No
Led training for the Ambassador of Reconciliation Annual Meeting. I led three different sessions.
08/09/2023
20
Mediation
Marriage/Family
Yes
A married Christian Couple (pastor & wife) that had grown apart. Both of their behaviors were un-Christ like and condescending towards one another. They were able to recognize their sin before God and made necessary GOdly changes
08/09/2023
20
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
This was a very difficult case between an executive director of a ministry and two executive level employees and the chairman of the ministry board. This is a mediation between the Executive Director and Operations Manager.
08/08/2023
15
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
Church conflict involving 3 staff members who worked together in the same ministry. History of gossip, slander, and backbiting among the three staff created tension in the workplace and affected each person's ability to fulfill their roles and obligations to the ministry, while also negatively impacting their Christian witness. Through a process of intake, pre-mediation coaching, and mediation, parties were able to own their part, ask and seek forgiveness, and reconcile. They were encouraged to address the barriers to working together effectively in a Christ-like manner and see each other as co-laborers in Christ.
08/08/2023
6
Coaching
Church/School
No
I was contacted by a pastor who was being served by pastoral consultant at his congregation. The pastor expressed distress at being asked to provide detailed logs of visits and calls that were of such detail that they were a violation of his conscience. I referred him to GaBR materials and prayed for him. I notified the district president that I had been contacted and was asked to contact the consultant. My conversation with the consultant led to some productive reconciliation between pastor and consultant shortly after my check-in call with the consultant because he recognized the issues of conscience that had been created and agreed to support the pastor in this area while still addressing other existing issues with him. Additional existing issues came to the surface soon after, and were more appropriately addressed through the district authority rather than coaching/mediation, so that concluded my involvement.
08/07/2023
5
Coaching
Church/School
Yes
I met privately with pastors at the National Association of the Church of God. Feedback was requested while with each person as I inquired if I was helpful and if I could be helpful in any other way. I meet with these pastors every year at their August meeting.
07/31/2023
5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Helping D address his abusiveness in marriage. He withdrew.
07/30/2023
1
Coaching
Marriage/Family
Yes
DT does not have a good relationship with her aunt who lives in another city. Every time the aunt sees DT, she speaks negative words. The aunt has always looked down on a certain side of the family. The coaching homework included reading Ch.8 of "The Peacemaker". We spoke in depth about some ways to approach and communicate with her aunt. She actually put some of the principles into practice during the next visit she had with her aunt. Her aunt responded positively to a couple of things, but other things were the same as usual.
07/28/2023
40
Coaching
Church/School
No
Coaching and assessment that led to acceptance of a conciliation effort later this year and reported separately below.
07/26/2023
17
Mediation
Employment
No
Dispute between two co-workers involving hostile workplace claims. Engagement was to review and advise organization's Board of Directors.
07/26/2023
12
Mediation
Business
No
This was a mediation between a Christian HealthShare and a family who believed that payment was withheld from their son's medical treatment due to his violating the HealthShare's standards of qualification. The case did settle outside of Court. There were no words of confession and forgiveness.
07/24/2023
54
Mediation
Building/Property/Construction
No
Mediation of building dispute between architect, builder, and owner.
07/21/2023
17
Coaching
Marriage/Family
Yes
Marriage coaching of a couple married for many years. One-day intensive provided for the wife.

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06/28/2024
5
Coaching
Reading June Hunt's book: How to Deal with Difficult Relationships. The book focuses on addressing critical spirit issues, manipulation, codependency, confrontation, as well as conflict resolution and forgiveness. Excellent for personal growth as well as coaching others to recognize the characteristics, causes, and steps to solution for each area. (I haven't finished the book yet.)
06/13/2024
6
Coaching
Peacemaker Ministries new The Path Foundational Training. Introduces the Story, Ascend, Reflect, and Connect process and provides opportunity to practice using a role-play scenario.
06/08/2024
1.5 hours
Mediation
This CE was presented by Adrienne Atwell on "Facilitating Effective Communication in Conciliation". The CE focused on the various strategies to help parties be more focused in their listening/hearing and their own ability to express themselves; and focused on how the mediator can help the parties in the process.
06/08/2024
1.5 hours
Mediation
This CE was presented by Tim Sellers and focused on how to use "confrontation" in an effective way. Without being mindful, confrontation can be hurtful and damage the mediation process; with careful consideration, confrontation can be used to draw out issues and needs for repentance.
06/07/2024
1.5 hours
Mediation
This CE was presented by Ron Zabel at the Eastern Regional Reception on "An Alternative Model for Opening a Conciliation and the Role of Music" The use of music was an interesting mechanism for focusing the parties attention on the Lord, His Presence and His Forgiveness as the parties prepare their hearts for mediation.
06/03/2024
2
Mediation
workshop
04/30/2024
10
Mediation
Listing to the 2023 conference tapes per agreement with Kerri
04/10/2024
3
Mediation
I prepared and made a presentation to the Christian Legal Society on "How Christian Conciliation Can Help Clients Resolve Conflicts" -- a discussion of how attorneys can help clients choose the best approach to resolving conflict, and how Christian Conciliation can provide an alternative dispute resolution process that goes beyond legal issues to reconcile parties on spiritual and emotional issues as well.
03/19/2024
4
Mediation
I worked with Adrienne Atwell to prepare and present a discussion forum with the Mediators from Conflict to Peace on "Dealing with Issues of Abuse in Mediation." The forum was a discussion of 1) Assessing Readiness for Mediation; 2) Processing the Impacts of Abuse on Mediation; and 3) Providing individual coaching to individual parties to prepare them for mediation.
03/01/2024
30
Coaching
I was able to read resources, attend webinars. I'm also a part of a new Adventist group who will be working with our Adventist churches in helping with conflict in the United States. I'm excited with helping our churches with other Certified Conciliator who are Adventist.
02/11/2024
5
Coaching
Reading Oletha Barnett's book, Diversity of a Different Kind. I love the idea of "diversity assignments."
02/01/2024
3
Mediation
Read and integrated several main ideas from this paper about how to screen for Intimate Partner Violence into our mediation preparation process. Amy Holtzworth-Munroe, Connie J. A. Beck, and Amy G. Applegate, "THE MEDIATOR’S ASSESSMENT OF SAFETY ISSUES AND CONCERNS (MASIC): A SCREENING INTERVIEW FOR INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE AND ABUSE AVAILABLE IN THE PUBLIC DOMAIN"
02/01/2024
10
Mediation
I was able to read resources and watch webinars.
01/21/2024
6
Coaching
Provided peacemaker training to small group of ministers as part of their continuing education. They had not heard of Peacemaker ministry (or AoR) so this was all new information and it was very well received.
01/09/2024
150+ hours
Coaching
One of the main learning tools for me to become a better conciliator has been to teach Biblical Conflict Resolution to others. I have been teaching seminars on this subject to church and mission settings around the world for over 15 years now, including at least 10 times in the last year. This has helped me greatly to being able to readily apply the Biblical principles of peacemaking during conflict coaching and mediation sessions. Not only that, but the teaching has also opened up many opportunities for me to minister to other people, whether it be through formal or informal conflict coaching. I would therefore like to suggest again to include the teaching of Biblical peacemaking as a continuing education activity. Would it be possible to add a section in the form where this could be noted? Thanks!
01/07/2024
17
Mediation
I attended the all day pre-conference training for the new Coaching course for RW 360 at the annual conference in Billings, Nov. 4-6, and also attended various sessions through Saturday, Nov. 6.
01/01/2024
9
Coaching
Read a number of books - "Seek" by Will Hutcherson, "Unpacking Forgiveness" by Chris Brauns and "Engaging Your Teen's World" by D. Eaton and J. Callihan
01/01/2024
1
Mediation
Listened to Daniel Teater's Talk about Trauma from Rw360 conference audio.
01/01/2024
7
Coaching
Preparation for training elders in peacemaking ministry and leadership
01/01/2024
50+
Coaching
Many books read for my PhD thesis on self-sacrifice as a way forward in conflict. The most impressive is Ways and Power of Love by Pitirim Sorokin.
01/01/2024
20+
Coaching
Book Reading (“TRUST”) by Henry Cloud; Pod casts (Tim Keller, “PRIDE”); Started an on-line course study on CBT therapeutic strategies for anger management.
01/01/2024
4.5
Coaching
Workshop over 3 sessions on Managing Conflict presented by a pastor with expertise in handling conflict.
01/01/2024
10
Mediation
I listened to most of the annual AofR conference including "Cultivating Grace Attitudes", "A Transformative Approach to Coaching Homework", "An Empathy Formula for the Reconciler", "Biblical Principles for Engaging in Difficult Crucial Conversations", "Bitterness" and "Conflict Resolution vs, Reconciliation" Lessons 1-4.
01/01/2024
4
Mediation
Half day conference in working with people with a disability - it was useful for a mediation I had with an autistic family
01/01/2024
40+
Coaching
Reading and prayer with materials that focus on Biblical consideration of peacemaking
01/01/2024
8
Coaching
One day conference on trauma informed care
01/01/2024
25
Coaching
ACBC virtual conference
01/01/2024
9
Mediation
Participated in monthly CRG monthly collaborative learning sessions on case work, spiritual insights, best practices and reviews of ICC Rules
01/01/2024
100+
Coaching
Six months of academic research on self-sacrifice and conflict
12/23/2023
13
Coaching
Read Running Scared by Edward T. Welch. The book addresses the source of fear from a biblical perspective. It also addresses the appropriate biblical response to fear. The book is challenging and encouraging.
12/22/2023
90
Coaching
Masters level course in Diaconal Counseling addressed the different expressions of psychology and the intersection of biblical counseling and psychology
12/19/2023
11
Coaching
Provided peacemaker training to a women's bible study group.
12/19/2023
20
Coaching
Taught or co-taught 20 one-hour Living Reconciled webinars from March through December 2023.
12/19/2023
3
Mediation
Read the book, "Problems in the Church," by R.R. Byrum
12/17/2023
50
Coaching
I have been taking the CCEF counseling certification classes and some of those have specifically dealt with conflict resolution issues, including reading one of Ken Sande’s books.
12/16/2023
10
Coaching
Read Bruce Waltke's 2 volume commentary on Proverbs published in the New International Commentary series. Very useful.
12/16/2023
15
Mediation
I have read throughout the year multiple articles, podcast, and books seeking to learn, especially in the Trauma Informed category.
12/15/2023
2
Coaching
Taught Path App training online.
12/15/2023
1.0
Mediation
I watched "Biblical Principals For Engaging in Difficult, Crucial Conversations". I was challenged and encouraged by the verses in Philippians. I was reminded that difficult conversations are crucial and must be encouraged in coaching and meditation. I was reminded that assisting the parties in preparing for the conversations and actually having these conversations is very important.
12/13/2023
1.0
Arbitration
I watched "Avoiding a Lawsuit and the Legal Pitfalls in Mediation and Arbitration". I was reminded of the importance of using well drafted mediation and arbitration agreements. I was reminded that such agreements are necessary and must be required. I was challenged and encouraged to review the agreements I am using to make sure they are clear and complete.
12/12/2023
40
Mediation
Biblical Peacemaking in Europe. This training included pastors and laypersons from Italy, Spain, Germany, Hungary, and Ukraine.
12/09/2023
1
Mediation
Emotional Intelligence for Leaders based on Matthew 25 by Ed Keinath
12/08/2023
1.0
Coaching
I watched "An Empathy Formula for the Reconciler". I was challenged and encouraged to be aware of the need for empathy and the expression of empathy in coaching and mediation. I learned that the expression of empathy is important in relationship building in the context of coaching and mediation. I learned that encouraging the parties to be empathetic and helping them to be empathic is also important.
12/05/2023
1.0
Coaching
Watched "Transformative Approach to Coaching Homework". I learned about the numerous resources available from Ambassadors of Reconciliation. I learned how to use those resources. I was encouraged regarding the significance of using more coaching homework.
12/02/2023
6
Coaching
Read: The Freedom and Power of Forgiveness. by John MacArthur. 250 pages
12/01/2023
10
Mediation
I had intended to have this year's virtual conference address this requirement. I have started listening to the workshops from this years conference. When it was going on I was consumed dealing with my wife's acute Leukemia. I am in catch up mode. I was going use box 8&9 but they won't allow entry. I thought they were to be depreciated for 2024 reporting, but since it is now 2024 I guess they no longer function. If serving as a cert coach qualifies in any way for this, I have way more than 10 hours for 2023.
12/01/2023
2
Coaching
Taught Path App training online.
11/20/2023
20
Coaching
reading and compiling a simplified class to introduce people to the theology and practice of peacemaking.
11/18/2023
1
Mediation
Ending it Well: Tips in writing a mediation/arbitration agreement by Steve Long
11/18/2023
1
Coaching
Conflict Resolution Strategies for Pastors by Chris Cottrell
11/15/2023
13.5 hours
Coaching
Book by Diane Langberg: Suffering and the Heart of God The book explains that healing is possible for people who have been through a lot of trauma and abuse, and that much patience and the reflection of Jesus’ love and care is needed from all those who are trying to help the suffering.
11/14/2023
16
Coaching
PeaceWise Deeper into Conflict coaching 2 day course. In depth conflict coaching. Great refresher and also new format for the training, so i can be a trainer in this course in the future.
11/13/2023
15
Mediation
Read "Trauma and the body" by Ogden, Minton & Pain
11/07/2023
25
Mediation
Read and discussed 3 books this year in small groups: Saints, Sufferers and Sinners by Michael Emlet: Jesus and The Disinherited by Howard Thurman; and Hope in Times of Fear by Timothy Keller
11/07/2023
8
Coaching
I provided training in conflict coaching skills and approaches to church and denominational leaders.
11/06/2023
14
Mediation
This was an RW360 conference that my wife Debby and I attended,. We also presented for a couple of hours on dealing with abuse and trauma in mediation, when you can and when you cannot proceed, and when to make those decisions.
11/06/2023
10
Mediation
Attended the RW360 conference in Billings, Montana in November. I co-taught one session on mediation with abuse cases. Also attended trainings on church conflict, abuse cases and other mediation trainings.
11/06/2023
10
Coaching
Attended plenary, workshops at RW Conference.
11/04/2023
10
Coaching
Participated in AoR Board Retreat in November ? for 1.5 days (not including travel)
11/04/2023
1
Coaching
Building Empahthy and Understanding Through "Story Exchange" - Kristin Lawrence - Gave an example exchanging stories of a difficult time in your life can build empathy.
11/04/2023
1
Coaching
Biblical Sexuality - Law or Love - Vince Vitale - Looked at how to view and interact with those with sinful expressions of sexuality to have productive and redemptive conversations.
11/04/2023
1
Coaching
Our Minds Don't Work the Way We Think They Do - Rankin Wilbourne - A look at how different types of biases impact how we view others and our experiences.
11/04/2023
1
Coaching
Relational Wisdom and Grief Care - Leslie Pair and Steven Schneider - Ideas on dealing with people in pain.
11/04/2023
1
Coaching
A Genesis 1/Romans 1 Approach to Disagreement - Vince Vitale - An overview of how to disagree in a way that doesn't create separation but allows for ongoing conversation.
11/03/2023
1
Mediation
Gary Friesen's closing session - There is no "peace train"
11/03/2023
1
Coaching
Cleansing and healing through Confession by Tim Sellers
11/03/2023
1
Mediation
Earning Passport through Case Administration. Good reminder on opening to closing a case and including the ICC Rules.
11/03/2023
1
Mediation
How to Have Impossible Conversations - Rankin Wilbourne - A very good talk really about how to be an empathetic listener.
11/02/2023
25
Coaching
Attended the RW conference in Billings plus the 2 day preconference on coaching.
11/02/2023
8
Coaching
RW coaching in RW and Peacemaking prior and after mediation.
11/01/2023
20+
Mediation
Presented and attended the RW360 Conference in Billings (not sure of date in Nov.) - workshop presented with Ted Kober and Allison Pickering on the Surprises and Handling Them in Mediation/Coaching situations. In addition, attended all keynote presentations and several workshops - wish I had kept better notes. The one by Theresa Sidebotham on Managing Investigations was excellent & extremely helpful. I could dig out more info with time to list the others. Also did the full day pre-conference which focused on weaving emotional intelligence issues in to the peacemaking traditional legacy materials. Impactful for me.
10/31/2023
4
Mediation
I read (or re-read) several books on peacemaking this year: Forgiveness Tim Keller Five Languages of Apology Gary Chapman Making Peace Jim VanYperen Confession and Forgiveness Ted Kober
10/27/2023
1
Mediation
Building a Peacemaking Ministry in a Denominational Setting by Rick Stein
10/27/2023
1
Mediation
Biblical Principles for Engaging in difficult, crucial conversations by Chris Cottrell
10/26/2023
1
Mediation
Discovering Idolatry using the Idol Template. Seminar was informative and useful.
10/25/2023
1
Coaching
Christ Centric Approach to Dealing with Power Imbalance and Abuse was excellent.
10/22/2023
20
Coaching
CCEF conference including pre-conference training in abuse and difficult marriage situations. The conference was on trauma. Understanding trauma dynamics will help me to be a better coach and mediator
10/22/2023
25
Coaching
I went to the CCEF conference. The pre-conference was a session on abuse. The conference was about Trauma.
10/20/2023
1
Mediation
Avoiding a Lawsuit and the Legal Pitfalls in Mediation and Arbitration by Steve Long
10/20/2023
1
Mediation
Transformative Approach to Coaching Homework by Dwight Schettler
10/13/2023
1
Mediation
Christ Centered Approach to Dealing with Power Imbalance and Abuse Allegations in Christian Conciliation by Laurie Stewart and Candy McCune.
10/07/2023
25+
Arbitration
Preparation and teaching Christian arbitration course at Christian Legal Society Conference.
10/06/2023
15
Coaching
Read "The developing mind" by Daniel Siegel.
09/30/2023
4.5
Coaching
AoR Virtual Conference Workshops - Bitterness with Christina Severinghaus, Unforgiveness by Ted Kober, Addressing Domestic Violence Biblically by Ernie Baker, Domestic Abuse workshop and Diversity Theory by Oletha Barnett
09/29/2023
More than 10
Mediation
Attended by Zoom or listened to recordings of more than 10 hours of presentations made available by Ambassadors of Reconciliation in August remote conference
09/29/2023
2
Coaching
Participation in AoR Virtual Conference
09/29/2023
10
Coaching
Reading through, translating into Chinese, and teaching this book for a team retreat: "Don't Forgive Too Soon." Hours listed here are only for reading.
09/18/2023
15
Coaching
Read and reviewed Chris Mole's book: https://www.bereconciled.com/abuse-dynamics/book-review-of-chris-moles-caring-for-families-caught-in-domestic-abuse/
09/14/2023
6 hours
Mediation
RW 360: Best Practices for Complex Conciliation Issues, by Allison Pickering, Darby Strickland, and Ken Sande. The lectures about Trauma Informed Mediation and Dynamics of Power and Abuse are especially helpful in raising awareness of these issues. A great resource to have!
09/12/2023
25+
Arbitration
Co-taught (with Pres. Dwight Schettler) 5 AoR classes on Foundations of Christian Adjudication of 3 hours each with 2-3 hours prep for each class.
09/08/2023
8
Mediation
Attended a domestic violence intervention training conference sponsored by Chris Moles' PeaceWorks ministry.
09/01/2023
8
Coaching
2023 Reconciler Conference - viewed recordings of various sessions. These sessions addressed topics such as "Earning Passport Through Case Administration, Helping People Discover Their Idolatry, The Art of Intake and many others. The workshops were very practical in a way that can help the beginner to the most seasoned reconciler. They provided clarification when conducting an intake and provided much information about homework whether just mentioning things or actually walking us through the tools online. I appreciate the transparency of the speakers because it lets us know we are not alone in our struggles.
09/01/2023
6 hours
Mediation
RW 360 – Online course: Best Practices for Complex Conciliation Issues, by Allison Pickering, Darby Strickland, and Ken Sande. The lectures about Trauma Informed Mediation and Dynamics of Power and Abuse are especially helpful to gain awareness of these issues. A great resource that I will continue to use!
08/31/2023
1
Coaching
AOR Best Practices Conference session You Will Marry the Wrong Person
08/31/2023
60
Mediation
Online conference
08/31/2023
6
Mediation
Attended six workshops at AoR Annual Conference, including Bob Jones's two Bible studies, Lynn Pace on using our Words, Jolene Kinser on Saving Face, John Richardson, on grief in mediation, and the Panel on incorporating Christian Conciliation into your law practice.
08/31/2023
20 +
Arbitration
Annual virtual AoR conference Ambassadors of Reconciliation August 2023 20 + hrs
08/31/2023
12
Coaching
Taught 2 days Living Reconciled seminar with Brian Noble to a Christian School in Montana.
08/31/2023
11
Mediation
I attended 11 of the webinar sessions produced by AOR--Equipping Reconcilers Conference virtually in August of 2023.
08/30/2023
1
Coaching
Rescue & Restoration Through Careful Confrontation (Video replay from 2023 Ambassadors of Reconciliation Annual Conference)
08/30/2023
11.9
Mediation
Preparation and presentation of two workshops (Confession and Confrontation) for AOR Virtual Conference in August 2023.
08/29/2023
1
Coaching
AOR Best Practices Conference session Teaching Peacemaking Cross Culturally
08/29/2023
1
Mediation
Grief In The Mediation Process (Video replay from 2023 Ambassadors of Reconciliation Annual Conference)
08/29/2023
1
Mediation
AOR Best Practices Conference session Grief & Loss in Mediation
08/28/2023
1
Coaching
How To Excel In Preserving Church Unity (Video replay from 2023 Ambassadors of Reconciliation Annual Conference)
08/25/2023
1
Coaching
AOR Best Practices Conference session Social Media: Breeding Ground for Conflict
08/24/2023
12
Arbitration
10 hrs prep (5 hrs. each) for 2 1 hr workshops at Annual AoR Internet Conference
08/24/2023
15
Mediation
Listened to multiple theological lectures on repentance, heart-level change, conscience, and peacemaking in preparation for teaching workshops on peacemaking with children and youth for AoR's 2023 online Conference.
08/24/2023
1
Mediation
Avoiding a Lawsuit & Legal Pitfalls (video replay of AoR 2023 Conference)
08/23/2023
1.5
Mediation
Prepared and participated on the Counseling Panel as part of online conference.
08/22/2023
1
Mediation
Effective Conciliation Agreements (Video replay from 2023 Ambassadors of Reconciliation Annual Conference)
08/22/2023
1
Mediation
AOR Best Practices Conference session Mediation On Ramps and Off Ramps in Abuse Cases
08/21/2023
1
Mediation
How the ICC Rules Can Improve Your Ministry (Video replay from 2023 Ambassadors of Reconciliation Annual Conference)
08/18/2023
5.0
Coaching
Prepared for and presented 2023 conference session on the truth that being a peacemaker and peacemaking is not optional. I was reminded that as a child of God I am a peacemaker; that is who I am and that is what I am to do. I was reminded that I am to take the initiative to be a peacemaker. I was reminded that I can be a peacemaker because I am a child of God.
08/16/2023
1
Mediation
AOR Best Practices Conference session What to Do When Mediation Brings Little Progress
08/14/2023
7
Mediation
I attended about 6-8 of the AOR virtual conference sessions.
08/14/2023
1
Mediation
AOR Best Practices Conference session Unforgivable?
08/14/2023
1
Mediation
AOR Best Practices Conference session The Mediation Process: When to Flex and When to Hold
08/14/2023
1
Mediation
AOR Best Practices Conference session Thinking About Domestic Violence Biblically
08/11/2023
1
Coaching
Preparing Coaching Homework (Video replay from 2023 Ambassadors of Reconciliation Annual Conference)
08/11/2023
1
Coaching
Helping People Discover Their Idolatry (Video replay from 2023 Ambassadors of Reconciliation Annual Conference)
08/10/2023
1
Coaching
Development of an Idol Template with Scripture to Walk Towards Fruitful Self-Discovery, Candy McCune - An overview and extension of the traditional teaching on the progressio of an idol and an approach/tool to help people discover and address an idol. I had actually forgotten about this talk until I sat down to report my CE hours. I need to review her tool.
08/10/2023
1
Coaching
AOR Best Practices Conference session Helping People Discover their Idolatry
08/08/2023
20
Mediation
Prepare to teach AoR conference workshop on power imbalance and abuse, write article, and teach workshop.
08/08/2023
1
Mediation
AOR Best Practices Conference session What You Need to Know About FACE and Why it Matters
08/08/2023
1
Mediation
AOR Best Practices Conference session Christ Centric Approach to Dealing with Power Imbalance and Abuse Allegations in Christian Conciliation
08/08/2023
1
Mediation
A Christ-Centric Approach to Dealing with Power Imbalance and Abuse Allegations in Christian Conciliation - Laurie Stewart - A very detailed view of handling cases where abuse allegations are involved. A very interesting topic, but a different take than what is promoted, for example by CCEF. It would be interesting to have an expert panel discuss/compare the two approaches.
08/05/2023
1
Coaching
Conflict Resolution Strategies for Pastors (video replay of AoR 2023 Conference)
08/04/2023
1
Mediation
Fundraising for the Christian Reconcilier - Phil Heiser - Discussed how to use AOR's resources to raise tax-free donations to fund training through AOR.
08/03/2023
5.0
Coaching
Prepared for and presented 2023 conference session on God using us to bless others when we are in conflict based upon the story of Joseph. I learned that this is possible and that I need to be aware of this truth. I was reminded of the sovereignty of God. I was reminded of my role and responsibility in conflict. I was reminded that God is in control and I am responsible for being obedient.
08/03/2023
1
Coaching
Course overviewed various kinds of divesity beyond those typically discussed in public discourse on diversity to encourage awareness of the many ways parties' differnences may contribute to how they find themselves in conflict. Also addressed the spiritual component of God given diversity.
08/03/2023
11.5
Coaching
Conversational Coaching course with RW360 and Coaching Practicum with RW360. We were introduced to the new material and then practiced with one another.
08/03/2023
1
Coaching
A Look at Conflict Based Upon the Story of Joseph - Kyle Sears - Overview of the life of Joseph. Looked at the family dynamic of Joseph and how God worked in his conflicts. Emphasized that God is also with us in our conflicts.
08/02/2023
1
Coaching
Bitterness: The Stumbling Block to Forgiveness (Video replay from AoR 2023 Conference)
08/01/2023
5
Coaching
I presented in AoR Virtual conference (and I learned much more as I prepared and presented this so it was a learning experience) -- Title: Helping People Discover Their Idolatry: (subtitle) Using the Development of an Idol Template with scripture to walk towards fruitful self-discovery
07/31/2023
20+
Mediation
Preparation and attendance in ICC bi-annual Rules committee
07/19/2023
8
Coaching
Conversational Coaching (RW360) Chip Zimmer and Patti Damiani. Course is 6 hours - probably spent 2 additional hours in preparation.
07/17/2023
3
Mediation
“Ethical Practice for Couples Therapy” offered a good look at qualifications and skill sets to provide ethical and productive services to struggling couples. It advocated neutrality toward partners and a ‘couple as the client’ perspective, and mindfulness of one’s own countertransference in their story. I also discussed difficult topics such as abuse and when working with a couple is contraindicated.
07/15/2023
6
Coaching
Assisted Certified Peacemakers and Candidates with church marriage workshop to help launch church's reconciliation ministry.
07/12/2023
16
Mediation
CRG Monthly Zoom Meeting - I lead probably half of these 1 hour, monthly meetings so I am guessing an additional 4 hours of preparation.
07/01/2023
10
Coaching
Advanced Coaching and Mediation Ambassadors of Reconciliation June -July 1, 10 hrs. 2023 Christian
06/30/2023
8
Coaching
ICC Rules Committee Meetings and Preparation
06/22/2023
50+
Coaching
Taught Peacemaking daily (and preached) in Africa (S. Sudan, Zambia, Zimbabwe) doing 12 Pastor Conferences training hundreds of pastors (or preaching on Sundays) with and for Global Training Network.
06/13/2023
3
Coaching
When a Narcissist Comes to Church – DeGroat
06/06/2023
6
Mediation
Group Reconciliation Assistance - Lead This was an additional study to the GRAT with details on how to serve as a lead.
06/06/2023
6 hours
Coaching
Book by Wade Mullen: Something’s Not Right The author describes common methods that individuals and organizations use to gain power and cover up their wrongdoings. These will help to identify patterns of abuse and help stop the cycle of destruction in people’s lives.
05/23/2023
18
Mediation
Group Reconciliation Assistance Team Member Training - - This was an excellent exposure to large group mediation. I received many helpful tools and benefited from the interactions in class as well as the assignments.
05/15/2023
4
Coaching
Reach "Becoming a church that cares well for the abused" by Brad Hambrick
05/09/2023
14
Coaching
Facilitated team of peacemaker trainers and did training for online seminary students in the Ukraine in Foundational Skills of Path of a Peacemaker.
04/29/2023
8
Arbitration
Read the book, "Basic Skills for the New Arbitrator." Excellent resource for setting up an arbitration.
04/26/2023
3
Coaching
Good Boundaries and Goodbyes – Lysa Terkeurst
04/14/2023
6
Coaching
"EMDR Refresher Course" Offered detailed processes for conventional EMDR therapies with novel insights and approaches (interludes) to bridge obstacles to progress. It also offered opportunity for practicum and follow-up.
03/31/2023
8
Coaching
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addition – Gabor Maté 522p.
03/31/2023
1
Coaching
“Peace Realized - Experiential Techniques in Restoration Therapy” As emotional memories can internally reference traumatic experiences, explicitly addressing these memories has the opportunity to spur post-traumatic growth. Restoration Therapy employs experiential techniques that address emotional memories.
03/31/2023
1
Mediation
“Navigating Relational Trauma: Affair Recovery and Overcoming Betrayal” defines the many kinds of betrayal and how individual attachment styles affect partners’ perceptions and meanings made. Offered were preventative and restorative measures and techniques, including grieving, reassessing commitment, forgiveness and rebuilding trust.
03/30/2023
3
Coaching
This CAPS Pre-Conference training differentiated different levels of PTSD, focusing on the more complicated and intertwined 'Complex PTSD' and how to work with sufferers and treat them. It recommends the use of ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) at intake to grow awareness of what the clients carry.
03/30/2023
1
Coaching
“Psychological and Theological Perceptions of Hope for Post-traumatic Growth” presented a model of hope applied to post-traumatic growth. It focused on how a theocentric view of hope can aid in reshaping meaning making and reframing of suffering.
03/30/2023
3
Coaching
“Restoring The Shattered Self; The Treatment of Complex Trauma” was a CAPS Pre-Conference training differentiated different levels of PTSD, focusing on the more complicated and intertwined 'Complex PTSD' and how to work with sufferers and treat them. It recommends the use of ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) at intake to grow awareness of what the clients carry.
03/28/2023
3
Coaching
Prepared material and trained a group of pastors about Peacemaking in Pennsylvania via Zoom.
03/26/2023
1
Coaching
Provided training to our Orientation Class so they will have a better understanding of our Reconciliation Ministry and how we can help them. It also allowed them to ask questions that we have all wondered about at one time or another. What if they do not forgive me? What if they are not a believer?
03/13/2023
4
Coaching
NVC course: Bringing Self-Empathy into conversations around Race, Racism, Power and Privilege
03/05/2023
6
Coaching
Domestic abuse training at a church in Tacoma
03/05/2023
35
Mediation
taught Mediating People to Reconcile
03/02/2023
6
Mediation
CRG Quarterly Meetings (we had 3, 2 hour meetings on various topics). Power/Abuse dynamics mostly this past year.
03/01/2023
22
Mediation
In 2023 I completed teaching a course at my church which blended biblical peacemaking along with spiritual warfare and praying the attributes of God. To prepare a curriculum tailored to the class each week which began in November 2022 and continued into 2023, in 2023, I completed reading and preparation. The books included but was not limited to the following: Chip Ingram's, The Invisible War; Ken Sande's, The Peacemaker; Cindy Jacob's, Possessing the Gates of the Enemy; and P. Brian Noble's, The Path of a Peacemaker. I also participated in some AOR webinars.
03/01/2023
3
Coaching
Facilitated Path App training taught by Brian Noble at southern California church.
02/26/2023
24
Mediation
Taught 3 days Advanced Mediation and Living Reconciled with Brian Noble as part of Peacemaker Ministries certification program.
02/21/2023
32
Mediation
Teaching a Reconciliation Workshop (AOR) - course was 24 hours, I estimate I spent at least 8 additional hours in prep
02/20/2023
10
Coaching
An online Non-Violent Communication conference including topics such as: shifting to focusing away from right/wrong thinking, setting loving boundaries, passivee aggressive assertive communication, authenticity, and difficult conversations.
02/19/2023
20
Mediation
Read and reviewed Bully Pulpit. https://www.bereconciled.com/abuse-dynamics/a-christian-conciliators-review-of-michael-krugers-bully-pulpit-part-1/
02/18/2023
30
Mediation
Attended Track 7 of Faith Biblical Counseling Training Conference in Lafayette, IN. This track focused on reconciling conflict with a focus on marriages and families. Much of the Peacemaker Ministries legacy materials were utilized in addition to other sources.
02/16/2023
2
Mediation
"The Parenting Plan, from A Mental Health Perspective" discussed the impact of different parenting plans on children of different ages, considerations of parental capacity, and the need to address any special needs. It was an interactive training with many insightful professional participants.
02/05/2023
30
Coaching
taught Coaching People to Reconcile
02/05/2023
4
Coaching
Seminar for people interested in working with domestic abuse victims. Called to Peace Ministries
02/05/2023
8
Mediation
Taught Living Reconciled seminar with Brian Noble to a church in So. Cal before holding 5 mediations.
01/28/2023
8-10?
Mediation
Participated in either 2 or 3 AoR Board meetings of approx 3 hrs each not counting document review
01/24/2023
14
Mediation
Read "Bullies and Saints" by Church Historian John Dickson
01/22/2023
8 - 12
Coaching
Prepared presentation on practical ways to love your neighbor and presented at our church's women's retreat
01/19/2023
5
Mediation
Leading with Love by Alexander Strauch growing in understanding of role of elders and church leaders. Good reference for recomendations and consultations.
01/17/2023
6
Coaching
Discovering Relational Wisdom 3.0
01/14/2023
3
Coaching
The ‘Flash Technique’ is a newer, more rapid technique to help someone suffering dysregulation due to PTSD flashbacks/dissociation. the course provided instruction handouts and a tracking resource to follow client's responses and progress. It also offered some practicum.
01/13/2023
3
Coaching
This is a newer, more rapid technique to help someone suffering dysregulation due to PTSD flashbacks/dissociation. the course provided instruction handouts and a tracking resource to follow client's responses and progress. It Also offered some practicum.
01/12/2023
1.5
Coaching
"Supporting Adults and Children When New Partners Enter The Picture After Separation/Divorce" Helps provide insight into longitudinal effects on children when a new 'significant other' is introduced. Discussion include cautionaries around too soon (allowing children to solidify their relationships with their natural parents and not feel threatened by 'replacement' or sequential losses.
01/10/2023
6
Mediation
Read, "Conflict and Caring," by the late Dr. Keith Huttonlocker Also, "Repairing the Breach" by Ronald Kraybill
01/02/2023
50 plus
Coaching
Our Counselling Center also has Personal Development Days throughout the year on our experiences and those of others in H2H. These contain educational components as well.
01/01/2023
8
Coaching
Annual Review of Ministries Policies and Procedures
01/01/2023
33
Coaching
ACBS And ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCE HOURS
01/01/2023
30
Coaching
I did reading resources, attended webinars, and watched videos concerning coaching in 2022-2023
01/01/2023
8
Coaching
Reviewing and revising our ministry P and P
01/01/2023
15
Mediation
I had reading resources/books, attended webinars, and watched several videos concerning mediation.
01/01/2023
11
Mediation
served on the ACBC domestic abuse committee researching and writing protocols to be followed by ACBC counselors.
01/01/2023
10
Coaching
READ GENTLY AND LOWLY
01/01/2023
50+
Mediation
20 Restorative conferences were conducted throughout 2022 and into 2023 to date.
01/01/2023
10
Coaching
Read Gentle and Lowly, answered questions and interacted with small group (Healing Hearts post abortion trauma Leader Group)
01/01/2023
8
Coaching
Read Bessel van Der Kolk's, The Body Keeps the Score and listened to numeorus hours of trauma informed counseling presentations.
12/13/2022
2
Mediation
I attended a conference on youth and conflict in the church today. Part of this conference also dealt with youth leaders and conflict in the church.
11/28/2022
9
Coaching
Spent time teaching from "Resolving Everyday Conflict" one time per month for nine months. It was a time to educate our class participants on principles that will enable them to better address conflict. It also gives me an opportunity for coaching.
11/03/2022
1
Coaching
Faith, Hope and Love: The Core of Discipleship and Christian Leadership - Colin Sauskojus - Applications from ministering to the physical needs of people.
11/03/2022
1
Coaching
The Missing Discipline - Paul Cornwell - A look at confession
11/03/2022
1
Coaching
Relational Wisdom and the Spiritual Discipline of Conversation - Vince Vitale - Helpful tips for how to build conversation bridges with people of very different views to create a space to also be heard.

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