12

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

I had numerous intake calls with various family disputes that never materialized into cases. I estimate I spent at least 12 hours in these initial calls.

50

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Three generations of a family have members in one local church body (others are at a distance in other States). Elderly parents may be failing health-wise and there are concerns about cognitive abilities and possibly dementia. Assisting in navigating relationships and end of life issues.

4

Mediation

Church/School

No

A church in Texas, multiple staff are in dispute/conflict. 4 pastors, school principle, football coach. While early in the case, it seems to involve broken trust and lack of communication leading to alienating certain staff or spouses.

30

Coaching

Church/School

No

Ongoing dispute between Youth Pastor and Matriarch/Patriarch in the church. Concerns about YP doctrinal position when using certain trigger words.

4

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Mediation to resolve custody of dog. Parties initially made arrangements for moving dog back and forth between their respective homes when then ceased co-habiting. However, the imminent move of one party to another state necessitates a new structure.

24

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching of a mom with a rebellious 20 something daughter. It's ongoing but good progress with the mom & dad in how they respond/moderate impact that the offspring is causing.

58

Mediation

Employment

Yes

A teacher at a Christian school alleged a toxic/abusive work environment and insufficient accommodation for a disability.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Couple facing ongoing dissatisfaction and ongoing conflict in relationship. Weekly zoom mediation sessions.

12

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Couple referred to me for divorce mediation. In process shifted to mediation to determine if they want to stay married.

6

Coaching

Business

No

This is business dispute between two church members related to a kitchen remodel. Their church has been heavily involved in the coaching process. Still undetermined if the parties will move toward arbitration, which is the church's goal in order to bring final resolution of the issues.

64

Mediation

Employment

Yes

A church staff struggling to work together. They learned how confession & forgiveness is the key to healing relationships.

25

Coaching

Church/School

No

A pastor had inappropriate physical and emotional interactions with another staff member's wife. We supported and coached the elder team as they managed the situation including the investigation process, making decisions about disciplining the pastor, eventually letting two pastors go, leading the church through the crisis, and the various staff members and the emotional fall out for the marriages represented.

17

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Pastor and wife with severe marital conflict

4

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

l serve as a Chaplain to a variety of different companies. An employee at one company learned his fiancé had been unfaithful to him, and he struggled with betrayal and trust issues. His fiancé agreed to meet with us. I walked them through a mediation process using the Peacemaker Principles brochure. They left agreeing to meet again after she returned her engagement ring. I followed up today asking if they still needed to meet. He said they were in a better place. I will keep in touch with them to see if they continue to meet in a positive direction.

24

Coaching

Other

No

Taught 2 different classes to Adults in my church RW360 & Honoring God in Conflict Each course was 6 weeks long, with 1 hour sessions per week. I plan to teach these annually to ensure my congregation has fluency in Reconciliation and Relationships

32

Coaching

Church/School

No

JB - Senior Pastor in conflict with Associate Pastor from 5 years ago. Still working with both pastors in conflict coaching and getting ready for mediation to happen.

25

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Family conflict between parents and their 34 year old son.

1.5

Coaching

Church/School

No

E Free - El Paso County. A couple in leadership sent angry emails to most of the other leaders and then left the church. Coaching pastor to be an instrument of peace.

27

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

This was a follow-up to a GRA engagement in WI. The mediation was between a pastor and principal as well as school board and elders

20

Coaching

Business

No

JP and BW in a business disagreement between employee and boss. Only was in conflict coaching one party (JP) during the process. Mediation was done by another local party.

approximately 5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

On-going coaching of wife regarding marriage conflict. There is much work to be done in this situation and I am one of multiple sources of assistance.

approximately 15

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

On-going coaching of young married couple. Working with them to strengthen three-strand cord with God!

3

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Follow up to mediation between husband and wife in November 2022. Although immediate issue of mediation (how to handle holidays with children in light of couple's separation) was resolved satisfactorily for both parties, other issues arose which have resulted in divorce.

20+

Coaching

Business

No

Case was not resolved between the two parties. The case threatened to divide the church and our coaching with the Pastor and board did have a successful outcome as it pertained to the church as a whole.

2

Coaching

Church/School

No

A church member approached me asking for conflict coaching in relation to another woman at church on the worship team. We met and walked through the slippery slope, Phil 2:3-4, James 4:1. We discussed the 4 promises of forgiveness and I left her with this question to pray about: Is a conversation with this woman needed in order to work through the issues and restore the relationship, or are you able to forgive (according to the 4 promises) without having this conversation? What would most benefit the other woman as well?

10 hours - in process

Mediation

Church/School

No

A young pastor awaiting ordination became involved in significant conflict with his denomination. Thier ordination council required that certain of his attitudes and behaviors change before considering him further for ordination. He became angry with his senior pastor (where he is serving a pastoral residency) for suggesting that he consider his own responsibility in his conflict with their denomination. This conflict with his pastor resulted in his being put on paid leave by the church elders until they could be reconciled. Coaching is in progress.

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

JB was involved in a conflict between he and his son who had come home to live with him again. Worked with him for several hours in conflict coaching.

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This immigrant mother requested coaching regarding communication with her teenage son. During our first coaching session, God prompted me to focus first on her own heart rather than on communication approaches. Has she 100% surrendered her son to the Lord? Like Abraham with Isaac? Currently, she is prayerfully engaging this question. We will meet further.

38

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

This is a sexual abuse case by a father with an adopted child. We are doing the case in 3 stages. We have completed the first stage where we have had a positive result in reconciling the husband and wife. The next stage will be reconciling the daughter with her mother and the final stage will be reconciling the father with the daughter.

23

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Helping mediate between a 14 year old boy and his parents how to manage parental and his outburst. Taught them how to negotiate and problem solve.

4.5

Arbitration

Church/School

No

Assistance in a church case for ICC.

24.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

DW & LW – mediation, and conflict coaching the wife. This is a marital case where the wife is alleging emotional abuse; the mediation sessions did not get to heart issues, so it’s ongoing, and their church is involved.

14

Coaching

Business

No

DB & JB – conflict coaching – The husband owns a business with his sister, but they disagreed on what to do with the business, and a big lawsuit ensued. The lawsuit is now settled but the parties are still estranged, and the sister has refused to meet with the brother, so I’ve been coaching the brother and his wife on how to respond. Ongoing.

17 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Dysfunction family - sexual abuse, inappropriate behaviour, drinking etc trauma

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Mother and daughter fight/disagreements etc

24

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Isabelle navigate her marriage where abuse and addiction are prominent

23

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Casey navigate her broken family relationships after parents' divorce

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Carolyn is addressing her bitterness toward her brother in law

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Working with Andrea and Dave for 2023 marital mediation. Fall out from 'CoViD19' freedom convoy, vax/nonvax, coming to a saving knowledge of Christ

7

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Julie address her abusive husband

29 hours

Coaching

Other

No

Lost job in Military due to his non-vaccinated COVID beliefs

40

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital separation - Abuse

12

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Sukkhuan is addressing remaining relational problems following divorce

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Preparing husband and wife (Ale and Tom) for mediation in 2023

7

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Jeff was dealing with his family relationships.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Josie navigate her marriage where addiction is prominent

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Victoria addressed a failed engagement

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital Issues

13 houre

Coaching

Church/School

No

Struggles as a Pastor

60+

Arbitration

Business

Yes

Don't know how to classify this - does not fit your form. Served on Ken Sande's grievance panel continuing after 2021 primary work -- more work and review in 2022 (and some continues now though sporadic). Officially ended earlier in 2022 with issuance of a report and then there was an appeal later in year -- more interaction on several items after that. I learned more serving on this panel about conciliation work than I could have in dozens of courses or mediations. So, just adding it here -- maybe it fits under education ???

14 hours

Coaching

Church/School

No

Pastor struggling with family issues

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Amanda is addressing problems in her marriage

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Finally dealing with childhood abuse

23 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Various Fmaily Issues

2

Coaching

Other

No

Helping Nathan navigate his broken family of origin

19

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marc and Lisa are trying to salvage their marriage

48

Coaching

Other

No

Addressing relationships between board and employee in pregnancy distress centre working toward mediation (2023?)

14

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Amy navigate life following her parents' divorce

19 hours

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Marital Mediation

15 HOURS

Coaching

Other

No

Individual Conflict Coaching

2

Mediation

Church/School

No

Initial Intake - passed on case to other Mediator (we were too busy)

28

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Marital mediation and report for K and A

29

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Marital mediation and report

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Inna is addressing problems in her marriage

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Emily and Jacob with their marriage and broken family relationships following confrontation of Emily's sister (inappropriate marriage plans)

1.

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Sarah is fighing for her children's safety

37

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching following by marital mediation for Jon and Trish

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Cindy is addressing problems in her marriage

17

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Theresa navigate family relationships involving addictions and health problems

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Julie is addressing her abusive marriage

24

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Sarah is navigating difficulties with her unbelieving mother and siblings

28 hours

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Marital mediation leading to restoration

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Assel navigate her emotionally abusive marriage

2.

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Tracey navigate her marriage where addiction is prominent

22

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Pastor family issues

23

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Candy navigate family relationships broken by abuse and addiction

13

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Shirley addressed changed relationships following the death of her spouse

58.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Marital Mediation Separation Agreement (cannot afford to separate - still living in same house)

19 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital Issues

11

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Noemi navigate her broken marriage

27 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital Breakup - Restablishing

13 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital Issues with Husband

14.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Christianna to navigate loss of her children and negotiate new relships

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital Break-up - moving forward

20 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Relationship issues that ended in engagement break-up

2.

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping ShunLi with her broken marriage

2

Coaching

Church/School

No

Potential church mediation referred to a closer organization

7

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Cadeau is addressing problems in her marriage

31

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Laura addressed the failure of her marriage and loss of children

29

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Family mediation - parent couple and son couple - and report

12

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Monique navigate the relationship with her father, who she previously abused.

14

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Pam addressed the death of her marriage, abandonment of her unbelieving husband and subsequent divorce

17

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Candice navigate family relationships broken due to abuse

27 hours

Coaching

Other

No

Major trauma - rape within family and other family member's friends

11 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital Issues with spouse

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Young child afraid of the dark

52

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching, mediation, reconciliation and restoration of marriage broken by adultery

2.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Aaliyah is dealing with her adoptive parents and siblings

20 hours

Coaching

Other

No

Personal Issues from Trauma

11

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Candice is addressing problems in her marriage

14

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping Jean Claude navigate the relationships he has damaged with his abuse

38 hours

Coaching

Business

No

Issues between Pregnancy Center/the Board/Employee - Working towards Mediation

36.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CR has sought coaching for his role in marital conflict ( married less than one year). He has a history of childhood wounds and maladaptive coping (anxious and avoidant) that he is bravely seeking to face, name and resolve. He has reached out to his father to seek a redemptive conversation leading to confession and forgiveness, has made strides with emotion regulation with his wife and growing security found in Christ. 36.5 hrs.

27

Coaching

Employment

No

SA was overstressed with her senior position work at a non-profit organization; and that stress was impacting her marriage. She was able to set boundaries, take a sabbatical, and ultimately leave that organization to pursue a different career. She has gained a forgiving spirit toward her old bosses, kept contact and is actively learning new skills for more suitable work. She and her husband are working well together to support her aged and disabled parents. 27 hrs.

54.5

Coaching

Other

No

TC has been in a conflictual relationship with his wife for years and sought through 2 churches for help. I consulted with the second church elders, who had tired of the case and decided to "de-fellowship"/excommunicate my client. He ahs pursued couples counseling and marital retreats, but his wife has been unwilling. Due to concern over abuses toward his children he is now pursuing a legal separation, hoping a custody evaluation will prompt his wife to get help. He has continued suffering and continues looking into his reactivity stemming from his father's abuses. There now is a Parent Coordinator involved, so the children can obtain therapy. He ahs continued to hold hope and a forgiving spirit toward his wife. 54.5 hrs.

24

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CM and AM have weathered and healed through confession and forgiveness an adulterous affair. They are now continuing to build their family, working through adoption. They are both seeking to resolve broken relationships with families of origin and to support one another in those pursuits. 24 hrs.

22

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

BR and KR came to me 2 years ago due to KR's extramarital affairs, and through confession and forgiveness resolved and reconciled. As they were working out reintegrating their lives, KR decided she did not want to be married. I am now helping them with parenting and a viable parenting plan as they pursue a divorce through mediation. 22 hrs.

91.5

Coaching

Other

No

PR childhood trauma (sexual abuse) and impact on self -identity, family and business. Good progress is being made on all fronts as ongoing challenges continue to present themselves. 91.5 hrs. during 2022

2

Coaching

Other

No

SL came after leaving a high stress senior position in a non-profit Christian organization, complaining about impact on his family and having just taken another high stress position. He is seeking to understand his pursuit of high stress and perfection and its impact on himself, his co-workers and his family. 2 hrs.

26.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

AH and BH were in conflict over parenting, then exacerbated by intrusive action from a counselor for BH. This obscured their original issues. BH has left that counselor, with confrontation and forgiveness. AH is still working on attaining a forgiving spirit with the counselor. Both AH and BH have significant traumas from their childhoods that both inform their parenting and their conflict resolution styles. They are in a solid church now working on joining a safe small group. Both hold a deep faith and are confessant with and forgiving of each other. 26.5 hrs.

16

Coaching

Other

No

GP and HD are pursuing a close dating relationship, determining fit and God's will for potential marriage. Both have trauma histories and are benefiting from growing understanding of what has influenced their attachment and conflict styles. The have both recently secured new employment, moved, found a new church family and plugged into supportive small group ministry. 16 hrs.

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

KW and BS came to resolve ongoing conflict. They are intending to marry (second marriages for both) and have hurtful choices along the way (BS had an affair, KW moved in together with BS, then they separated). BS is facing his promiscuous history and its impact and KW is facing her childhood sexual abuses and its impact on her and her reactivity. Both express repentance and forgiveness and are learning to take responsibility for themselves and to support one another in godly ways. 10 hrs.

48.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CS was abandoned by his wife attendant to her ongoing affair. I referred the couple to Conflict to Peace for conciliation/mediation, but wife continued to stonewall and hey are now are seeking divorce through civil attorneys. I continue to coach him as he seeks God's will, Peace and the welfare of all his family (two children). 48.5 hours

8

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CW seeks to deal with the loss of her mother (auto accident) and struggles with her siblings over the estate. She seeks God's plan and new meaning (she had become her mother's caretaker) and new ways of interacting and peaceful resolution with her siblings (they hold very different views and approaches). CW is a strong Christian and heretofore the submissive youngest of 4. She is hurt, forgiving and grieving over the loss of her mother and feeling dismissed by her siblings. 8 hrs.

53

Mediation

Church/School

No

A former employee alleged her employer discriminated against her when the employer did not renew her contract. After of series of unexpected events connected with getting to the mediation table, the employer made a settlement offer without mediation, though there was no admission or clear evidence of wrongdoing.

1

Coaching

Church/School

No

A church member described various conflict issues related to communication with church leadership. I modeled a sample conversation that she and her husband could have, shared the need for her to participate in a conversation. She thanked me for the coaching that I gave.

103

Mediation

Church/School

No

Church - interpersonal conflict between leaders with inability to resolve within leadership and impacting leadership team, staff, and congregants. Pastor accused of abuse, other leader(s) accused of gossip and divisiveness, conflict of interest and nepotism part

22

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Church conflict between Pastor and congregational head over consistent application of church constitution and bylaws, erosion of trust and differing preferences regarding leadership style. Confession and forgiveness were exchanged in both directions to address hurts and agreements were reached to align expectations and ensure productive communication in advance of congregational and board meetings. Additional agreeements were reached on determining how those meetings will be conducted within the existing constitution and by-laws. There was also an agreement to follow-up after a trial period to see if additional tweaks are needed.

22

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching through difficult divorce. Case is ongoing as husband is now on his third attorney. Client motivated to follow Biblical peacemaking practices even through husband's uncooperative, emotionally abusive actions.

hundreds

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Client from 20+ years ago who asked for help walking through her divorce (she had attorneys, etc) and is a nominal Christian. Over past 2 years, started and stopped divorce proceedings and finally finished in December. I unofficially and without pay did coachiing along the way.

14

Arbitration

Business

No

Part of three arbitrator panel to hear and decide breach of business contract case. Respondent did not participate but went through entire arbitration process including pre-arbitration hearing, hearing, and rendering of decision. It appears that the Petitioner was satisfied with the process, but do not have feedback from Respondent.

2.5

Coaching

Church/School

No

This church member began sharing with me regarding his relationship with a church leader. I shared some thoughts and explained mediation, offering to mediate if that would be helpful. We had 2 phone conversations following this in which I cast vision for what a mediated conversation could look like and how it could help, as well as provided some coaching if he decided to have a 1 on 1 conversation first. The 1 on 1 conversation didn't go as he had hoped, but he has not yet approached me to facilitate any next steps.

4

Coaching

Church/School

No

JL – conflict coaching – I conflict-coached this person to respond biblically to a conflict with his pastor. JL responded well and, although they are not reconciled, there is some level of peace between them now.

200

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Group Reconciliation Assistance in WI

204.6

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

26

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

AV and JV came to resolve differences and ultimately to seek a divorce. I co-mediated this case with another conciliator/mediator. While some progress was made, it was a complex case with 6 children (several with special needs) and civil authority involvement due to JV's complaints. Ultimately JV terminated the case as she "could no longer meet with (virtually) or pray with her husband. They are now seeking resolution with civil attorneys. 26 hrs.

11

Coaching

Other

Yes

Female staff director of a ministry at large church losing position soon after new hire of pastor. Accusations of abuse, underhanded dealings, misleading information, and age discrimination. Navigating response to the situation and biblically commendable and wise next steps.

5

Mediation

Other

Yes

In Ecuador - went to do conflict resolution training for a medical ministry my friends run in a poor neighborhood plus did conflict resolution training for a mediation group of attorneys. While there, a friend (who is an attorney in the mediation group) wanted me to mediate an organizational situation that ended up causing a break in her friendship with another woman -- both were board members. Mediation of the two resolved beautifully and we all went to dinner with both families afterwards - plus then ended up spending Christmas together.

17

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

This was a marriage mediation. The couple had multiple unresolved issues that had accumulated over many years. Many beautiful confessions were given and forgiveness was granted as well as solutions to issues agreed upon.

12

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Working with a husband to take responsibility for his part in the breakdown in his marriage. His wife did divorce him, but he worked through the confession, repentance process and seeking her forgiveness.

4

Coaching

Church/School

No

The director of a school asked me for conflict coaching in relation to two staff members in particular. One of the relationships was with her right-hand person and was completely reconciled. I am not sure where the other relationship is at now.

50

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Marriage conciliation with cross cultural component. Husband is middle eastern and raised in Druze religion before converting to Christiantiy. Couple struggling to align wildly different cultural expectations aggravated by hurtful words and actions. Confession and forgiveness exchanged on both sides and agreements reached on material issues related to communication, expectations and household responsibilities. They are young and still have a lot of growth ahead.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This is an amazing story of reconciliation after a year of marital separation in which the husband lived in his car. It included the salvation of the husband! I was involved as an advisor and supervisor. The husband's conciliator and the lead mediator were both students of mine.

80+

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

A church conflict where the church leadership requested peacemaking assistance as the pastor was in personal conflict with each of 8+ active parishioners. Each party required separate personal coaching. Five declined to seek reconciliation after partial coaching, the others required extended coaching. These two and the pastor were reconciled, and the pastor experienced a powerful God-given transformation in his ability to deal with conflict.

10

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

This was a child custody/visitation matter for a couple that are both divorced and remarried. In the end, the wife decided she'd prefer to take her chances with a judge rather than craft an agreed upon solution.

72

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Complex coaching/mediation case between a parishioner and two pastors. Vast majority of this time was coaching. Involved party with significant PTSD and under care of professional who was consulted regularly throughout the case. None of the parties thought they would make as much progress as they experienced.

3

Arbitration

Business

Yes

Plaintiff did consulting work for the Defendant. Plaintiff brought the case against the Defendant for payment negligence and interest payments. Defendant's attorneys deny their client owes these costs.

300

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

complex church case - assessment, consulting, training, coaching, mediation, repentance, victim impact statements, etc. Issues surrounding sexual harassment by leader, conflict and further injury over leadership response to victims, multiple layers and levels of conflict exposed and processed. Work with victims, leadership and church governance.

20

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

marriage mediation with each party on their third marriage. Many issues were discussed, confessions given, forgiveness granted and agreements made. I was assisted by two co-conciliators who have been through school of mediation training and have the reconciliation specialization through ACBC.

46

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

S and C were adult Christian sisters with personal conflict reaching back to childhood that has worsened as they have gotten older. They both wanted reconciliation of personal issues but didn't comprehend Biblical reconciliation as God's precursor for reaching it. At the conclusion of our peacemaking work together they were reconciled on some relational issues (one a good deal more than the other) and intended to continue pursuing God's peace for/with one another.

17

Coaching

Employment

No

Assisted local PRC in working through staff conflicts. Made recommendations for potential policies to prevent some of these problems from occurring in the future.

15

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Coaching Marriage. Spouse navigating separation and lack of involvement of spouse, lack of responding to others, involving church assistance, appeals to spouse to work toward reconciliation.

32

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

A former worship leader had a conflict with several pastors in the church, particularly regarding how he was dismissed and conflict was handled. I coached each party doing pre-mediation for at least two sessions, then arranged a mediation with all 4 parties. Those who put in the work made the most progress, and reconcilitation resulted especially between one pastor and the worship leader.

25-30

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

After multiple coaching sessions in re separation (they have had many other therapy and intense marriage counseling events), the couple met in person with me and co-mediator Ann Carey for full day mediation. We finished with a plan of action involving church advisors they knew personally and other terms. Deeply entrenched in their opposing positions.

31

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

AR and DR were in conflict, precipitated in part by DR's abusive father (they living in his basement to save money). They both sought and found better employment to attain independence. They maintained a confessant and forgiving stance with each other and made appeals for peace with DR's father, but he has been unwilling. 31 hrs.

135

Mediation

Church/School

No

Church Staff and Leadership - issues regarding challenges with prior pastor, including bullying, emotional and spiritual abuse of staff, conflict related to leadership response to staff and care for staff as well as among leadership.

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This person requested conflict coaching related to interacting with her mother's behavior. This is an ongoing situation and periodically I provide conflict coaching for her.

25

Mediation

Church/School

No

Church split mediation to agree on division of assets after court decision. Parties came to agreement, expressed satisfaction

6

Mediation

Church/School

No

Mediation situation between a para-church ministry and a local church. Dealt with how to handle differences in opinion between leaders of both.

1.66

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This is was an ongoing coaching from a previous mediation/coaching. I counseled one party regarding her thoughts on separation from her husband, and the need for a counselor that would help her see her own contribution; we discussed her position on divorce. Spoke with her husband for 45 mn prior to this, but no notes on that coaching discussion. I recommended this couple to more advanced marriage conciliators, which they took seriously.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Marriage mediation with a newly married couple on each of their second marriages. Work done to reconcile financial issues and traveling expectations.

17.5

Coaching

Employment

No

I supported a Christian ministry by coaching it's departing employees after organizational disruptions. The individuals sought further Christian work and to leave in Peace through grieving losses of relationships and forgiveness. God blessed them with follow-on opportunities. 17.5 hrs.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Periodic post mediation follow-up to a marriage conciliation performed in 2022. Despite confession and forgiveness during the mediation, the couple continues to struggle with trust issues. They welcome us to touch base from time to time.

120

Mediation

Church/School

No

church conflict - accusations of power abuse, leadership issues, demeaning women - loss of membership, conflict over vision and direction of church

80+

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Conflict involving leadership and pastors of large church and school, where conflict connects with and is exasperated by prior conflicts which were not addressed biblically. Mediation opportunities were complicated by the likely terminal illness of a key party who did not have the emotional resources to be fully addressed for his contribution, and a few key parties who remained unrepentant of using sinful means of resolving conflict including gossip despite direct teaching and confrontation. There was much positive work done with other parties to help them address things biblically, as well as the blessing of reconciliation among multiple pastors at the church among whom conflict had been crippling, and the opportunity to equip laypeople in leadership teams which was well-received.

6

Coaching

Church/School

No

Coached a woman who was one of the founding members of a church to navigate the best way to communicate with church leaders the problems her and her husband were seeing. Helped her to navigate leaving the church graciously with clear communication of the reasons.

20.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

AS had separated from her husband and was considering divorce. Through individual coaching and one joint session, parties reconciled with husband's attending anger management and repenting, confessing. Both parties reconciled through forgiveness and recommitment to each other and their marriage. 20.5 hrs

25 minimum

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

The past 10 months, I’ve been working with three married (professional) sisters to secure an agreement on their next step for the caretaking (assisted living? retirement community? private home)? nursing home? etc.) of their 82 year old mother who has been residing with ONE of the daughters (and her family) for the past three years. I’ve interacted with all three siblings individually, all three together and the last several meetings, we have included their husbands. The goal is to assist them in making this critical decision regarding what to do with mom. Currently, a temporary decision has been made with the sisters and husbands to “share” the load by taking mom into their home more regularly and consistently, giving the one sister some relief! However, mom and one of her daughters are pushing back on the idea of a residential site. We (the girls and I) have scheduled another Zoom meeting for this month (Monday, March 20 @ 4:00 pm) AFTER the three of them have met (Thursday, Mar 16) to discuss their current feelings.

2

Coaching

Church/School

No

AK – conflict coaching – I conflict-coached this person to respond biblically to accusations made by a former church member. This person responded well but the larger dispute is ongoing. 2 hrs.

33

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Church and Church school were attempting to negotiate a new lease agreement that would lead to the school eventually finding a new location. The church and school had outgrown each other. There are major communication issues. Parties did not come to an agreement on a new lease; the school was given a deadline for moving out.

8

Coaching

Other

No

Taught Resolving Everyday Conflict to a group of pastors in Maryland for an entire day

8

Coaching

Other

No

This was a conflict with a missionary coming back from the Mission field with her pastor. Helped her to draft a letter to him, identify issues, take responsibility for some of her faults and ask him to take responsibility for his faults. He only partially took responsibility, but the missionary was satisfied and felt she could continue to attend the church.

63

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Marriage - issues of broken trust, work, conflict over education and health care of children, church and doctrine

85

Mediation

Church/School

No

church - division in members over church governance and retaining pastor

35

Coaching

Employment

No

University - HR issues at administrative level. Assessment, Coaching, Consultation, Training.

110

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Family conflict with issues of childhood sexual abuse, family business, generational relationships, sharing property, as well as deep injury in relationship.

26 hours

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Family Marital Mediation

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Family Issues Resolved

185

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Issues including long term and newer pastoral staff regarding organizational leadership structure and potential change, past agreements and follow through, integrity, potential abuse of staff, ministry effectiveness or quality and treatment of those involved, behavior of pastoral leaders, authority as stated on organizational chart or otherwise, possible fear culture within ministry or some ministries. Very large multi site church.

27

Mediation

Employment

Yes

This was a wrongful termination case. The Plaintiff was accusing the Defendant of wrongful termination and wanted compensation for her being released. Parties did come to an acceptable resolution.

27

Mediation

Employment

Yes

This was a wrongful termination case. There was an offer made and a follow-up phone call was scheduled. Parties cancelled the follow-up call and decided to go to arbitration.

100

Coaching

Other

Yes

My client was evicted from mother's home about 5 years ago by his brother. He was just recently evicted from Housing Authority room due to breach of housekeeping and health and safety. I continue to work with him and his brother on family issues, mental health, and social services. He is currently living in a motel.