1

Coaching

Church/School

No

Informal coaching for a workplace situation where an upsetting email was received. Discussed options for next steps: 1) Recognize the offense and forgive, Prov 19:11 2) proactively address the issue, seek to understand what led to the other person's assumptions, and discuss how to work better together in the future,

2

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Husband spends "too much" time climbing mountains. He feels controlled by his wife, who does not like him drinking beer excessively. She fears that he values alcohol more than being a loving husband.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Husband wanted coaching for how to respond well to his wife's adultery with a same-sex partner.

2

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Wife does not feel well listened to or understood by her husband.

1.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Retired corporate executive wanted coaching concerning being at peace when he no longer has work to buoy his identity.

14

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Christian couple married 33 years seeking restoration and/or separation due to infidelity on the part of the husband and neglect of the marriage relationship. Wife unable to accept husband's repentance for affair. Completed pre-mediation coaching and mediation and drafted separation agreement which remains to be finalized and signed off by the couple.

9

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital conflict. Mediation may not be necessary.

7

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

A young couple that receives coaching as needed when they are unable to work through conflict on their own.

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Highly conflicted couple.

1.75

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Case 23-006: Couple previously completed coaching and mediation in 2023 and both have recently reached out for help with some issues that have lingered concerning biblical roles and expectations. Husband has also asked for help related to pornography use.

26.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Case 25-003: Couple previously received conflict coaching in preparation for mediation, but we did not feel they were ready. Husband has continued to pursue coaching for a variety of issues including anger management. He is currently preparing a confession as an outcome and we will continue encouraging wife to complete her pre-mediation work.

10.25

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Case 25-017: Couple seeking help after 3 years of marriage. General issues of not feeling understood and not getting their way.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Caase 25-018: Husband seeking help with anger and conflict over excessive phone use interfering with family engagement.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Adult son receiving coaching for doing conflict well with controlling parents

2

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Couple wanted coaching for marital conflict issue.

56.75

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Case 25-006: Couple seeking help with working together. Complications include that wife speaks very poor English, husband works out-of-state 3 weeks per month leaving wife to deal with very rebellious and disprespectful teenage son. Couple did very well and completed 3 days of mediation with reconciliation and plans for how to parent the difficult son. In a recent followup they are still struggling.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Couple received coaching regarding conflict with his parents.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Premarital coaching

6.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

M&JT presented with concerns and frustration with their adult daughter who lives across the country with her uncle. The daughter is angry, demanding and has cut off her siblings. Both parents are compassionate, but behaving co-dependently and are learning and exercising appropriate boundaries with good success. They are both more deeply considering their relationship with God and open to biblical guidance and personal devotions.

11

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

M&RT are separated with one daughter living with her mother at her grandparents' home. The mother is focused on homeschooling and their daughter's 'gymnastic career'. He works nights and odd hours and not able to provided daily support for their daughter. They asked for the path to resolution and reconciliation. She has not seemed seriously considering the possibility of reunification, but it is early in the process. He is demanding and rigid in his thinking (believing as head of the family he is owed blind obedience - supported by his church leaders ethics), lacking empathy and kindness. They have made progress in communication and regular father-daughter time. Praying!

35.5

Coaching

Other

No

KR suffers TBI with depressive symptoms and is negotiating complex relationship dynamics. His ex-wife has been hospitalized twice in 2025 due to schizophrenia decompensations. He has coached his adult daughter and in-laws to provide support. He was abandoned by a long-term girlfriend which sent him into a reactive depression. He has recovered well and has met someone new who is a faith-filled Christian. His interpersonal relationships are currently stable and he continues to do well at work.

12

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

AH continues to deal with severe disability and coping with pain, low energy and nausea. He has improved his patience and anger control with parents (with whom he lives). He is more active in fellowship, attending church (when energy allows) and taking courses from CCEF. He continues to seek relief and resolution of his illness (yet to be fully diagnosed).

14

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

B&KS married this year and have ongoing challenges with her PTSD reactions to fears and suspicions due to his previous history of infidelity and his co-dependence with his adult daughter. She feels he prioritizes his children above her. They paused our work with successful resolution in May 2025 and have just recently reengaged with renewed struggles.

18

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

JD is responding well to relational coaching, including one session including his wife. They have 5 children (3 are triplets). And JD has aging parents who are encountering increasing health and memory challenges. He is a faith-filled man, responsive to scriptural encouragement.

15

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CR continues to respond to biblical coaching to overcome his avoidant behaviors with his wife (who is anxiously attached). He is working on the origins of his avoidance (his parents instability and failure to provide reliable care for him as a child) - he has forgiven them and remains eager to form a deeper relationship with them, but they have not grown and are as of yet not able to participate as he desires. He is planning on taking a break in coaching for a few months, then reengaging.

33.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CS continues to struggle and grow post-divorce with a contentious ex-wife. He now has a thoughtful girlfriend who is attentive and encouraging to him and his children. Most recently the divorce attorneys are involved as the ex-wife has decided to violate the Court ordered custody plan. He has a slow growing faith and is open to biblical encouragement.

4

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

T&ME are returning clients (both divorced with histories of PTSD) who are periodically triggered by his children's and his ex-wife's demeaning and hurtful words and behaviors. At these times they can differ with how to deal effectively with them amidst their disappointment and hurt. They remain responsive to biblical counsel, regroup well and quickly with forgiveness and renewal. I remain available to them as they desire.

82

Coaching

Business

No

PR has been growing in his family relationships and now is focusing largely on his entrepreneurial business with occasional returns to family when issues emerge. He battles ADHD and intrusive negative thoughts stemming form childhood PTSD. He is responsive to scripture and growing, gaining victory over his thoughts and exercising initiatives to grow his business.

32

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

EH&DJ presented for a mediated divorce. He is a faith-filled Catholic and she is considering Christianity, but is not a believer. He presents as very particular and avoidant and she as affable and somewhat disorganized. They made several agreements, but nearing completion she stalled and failed to respond in good faith to him or the mediators and changed her mind on previous agreements. After reaching out one last time for a coaching call to see what she might need to meet and complete her homework, she responded that she was "considering her options." He expressed frustration and intent to pursue litigation should she not engage in good faith. The mediators pit the case on hold with instructions on how they could reopen the case with us.

more than 2 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

On-going coaching of woman in divorce process, including coaching about possible mediation to resolve specific issues.

.25

Coaching

Church/School

No

Prospect Case: Church elders reached out for help with a pastor who resigned and has since questioned the church's honoring it's pre-employment agreements for severence/retirement benefits. Church has proposed conciliation to pastor but we have not heard if he has responded.

6

Coaching

Church/School

No

I did a bunch of conflict coaching sessions with several individuals. Encouraging them towards mediation. In some of the cases, one party wants mediation but other party does not.

12.2

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Long term marriage with extensive property to divide and complete home situation involving planning for continued extended joint ownership. On 4th agreement draft that parties continuhye to tweak

23.05

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Marriage separation agreement, support and parenting 3 children. Husband former alcoholic. Wife unhappy with who he became sober - not sufficiently fun. Wife had affair and seeking divorce. Amicably worked out agreement for all aspects, that husband hopes wife will reconsider before she proceeds

2

Coaching

Church/School

No

A Chinese Christian in Europe seeking help on how to address gossip about him in his church. Reviewed Mt 5:23-24, Mt 18:15, Rom 12:18, PAUSE, NVC, needs/heart. He will follow up with me if he would like to talk further after reading some materials.

14

Coaching

Church/School

No

Ongoing consultation with the lay leaders of this church after we mediated the dispute with the Christian childcare center the church sponsored and hosted. Discussions have included how to respond to the planned resignation of the pastor and guidance on their search process.

0 in 2025

Coaching

Other

No

Ongoing conflict coaching with the board of a Christian non-profit. Most work coaching to date was in the summer and fall of 2023. The board brought in a new executive director and that leader is now assessing the need for ongoing coaching with staff and board.

14 hours in 2025

Coaching

Church/School

No

Continued coaching of the lay leadership as they deal with related issues of church health and pastoral fitness. Later moved to advise and counsel regarding approaches to filling their pulpit after the resignation of the pastor.

11

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Carolyn contacted me to ask for help setting boundaries with her husband as she moves towards separation. I coached both of them, focusing on an apology with him and on the book Emotionally Destructive Marriage with her. We met for mediation once and I have followed up

2.0

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Conflict coaching with husband. Wife filed for divorce. Husband has been willing to accept responsibility. Husband wants reconciliation. Wife does not want reconciliation. Financial/property issues to be resolved. Trying to get dispute into mediation if necessary.

2.0

Coaching

Building/Property/Construction

No

Dispute between homeowners and a/c installer. Coaching homeowners on appropriate way to discuss and request resolution of dispute with a/c installer. Homeowners want to glorify God in resolution process.

.50

Coaching

Business

No

Dispute between business owners. One of the owners wife/former employee also involved in the conflict. Emotionally charged due to length and closeness of professional and personal relationships. All have expressed interest in mediation and resolving conflict biblically. Conflict coaching with lawyer who represents business to move resolution to mediation.

3.60

Coaching

Building/Property/Construction

Yes

Dispute between home owner and architect/designer. Work not properly completed due to contractor. Owner paid a significant amount of money. Lawsuit filed. Conflict coaching fellow church member. He has been willing to accept responsibility. He does not have any resources. Trying to get dispute into mediation.

3

Coaching

Other

No

LE had a conflict with her husband's friend; the friend apparently believed that LE had said something unhelpful to his daughter. LE had apologized, but the friend refused to forgive. We looked at Scripture on apology and forgiveness, and she had some more text exchanges with him, leading to peace for her.

27

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Couple in the late 50s, newly married. Severe conflicts.

50

Arbitration

Business

No

An author and her publisher had a dispute regarding payment after they terminated their relationship. I don't know whether feedback was requested by the ICC. At least one party was not happy with the outcome; I hope they were both satisfied with the process. I thought we gave them good process.

3.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Allison Pickering and I did an intake with a couple. Matt wanted to work on the marriage, but Christy wanted a separation as it had been 20+ years with little change. I helped work on editing a proposal; the party did not opt to continue with us.

100

Mediation

Church/School

No

We just finished. Feedback will be requested within a couple weeks. This is just one of many cases this year.

4.25

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Case 25-020: Wife reached out as when husband moved out of the house and divorce was discussed. We met with the couple and I had one meeting with the husband. He agreed to participate in the process, but later backed out after ongoing conflict with the wife.

50

Mediation

Other

No

I'm not sure how to answer this question as all requirements are in the Certification Wizard and I only recently completed the process.

16

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Husband and wife owned business together. Husband seeking divorce. terms of separation nd parenting amicable. much of mediation focused on how to unravel their joint ownership of business and adequate support. Complete agreement reached

41

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Parties: SQ&IQ; Description: This couple came to mediation to work through a marital settlement agreement. During the early coaching and mediation session, both felt a need to come closer together, and seek reconciliation. Many of the early sessions focused on confession and forgiveness of the hurts and sins against each other and on seeking mutual reconciliation. However, due to litigation that the husband was facing personally and in his business, he felt the need to shield his wife from further liability, and decided to pursue a marital separation agreement. The parties finally agreed on a parenting plan, and equitable distribution of marital assets and business interests.

5

Coaching

Church/School

Yes

John from Pioneers contacted me about serving a missionary whose organization was in conflict. I offered to provide her with pro bono conflict coaching but said full blown mediation would need more people involved. I coached Ginny through a few sessions, with homework, which she found helpful. The organization eventually found a mediator to help with the whole organizational conflict.

28

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Parties: DJ&EH; Description: The parties came to mediation to finalize a marital separation agreement. Both parties had already been counseled by attorneys, and had draft agreements that had many open and divisive issues to finalize. The parties had very distinct and different cultural approaches to resolving their conflicting issues. To date, some issues have been resolved on co-parenting, but there are open issues that are ongoing regarding legal decision making, school choices, and property distribution.

1.00

Coaching

Church/School

No

Conflict coaching with church leaders regarding appropriate way to raise concern with pastor and other leaders. Church leaders concerned about legal issues and liability. Church leaders concerned that raising issue may create legal liability. Church leaders considering hiring a lawyer.

4

Coaching

Church/School

Yes

This case is ongoing. A conflict between a church member and the pastor involving a group text. The church member interpreted the text as a dismissal from service on a committee. Further text communication followed. The coaching involved prayer, gathering the details of what happened, and preparing the member to initiate a peacemaking conversation. The church member would like me to be present to facilitate the conversation as needed.

3.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Case 25-016: Man seeking help to prepare to make an appeal to his mother to reconcile with his sister. He developed a plan he felt good about and discussed it with his mother. She has not taken any action.

19.5

Coaching

Other

No

We interviewed 3 parties to access whether mediation was a good fit for them and made recommendations to the board for the non-profit.

12

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

I facilitated a mediation between the lead pastor of a church and his former church administrator. The administrator had been on staff for almost 30 years before the pastor arrived at the church. There were many personality and work style differences during their tenure together. After appoximately 3 years the administrator resigned and retired. I was approached by the pastor to help them reconcile some unresolved issues and to hopefully improve their relationship. I worked with both parties through extensive coaching before bringing them together, along with their spouses, for mediation. The mediation proved to be successful. The healing is still a work in progress.

18 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Adult son and daughter-in-law had blow up with his parents. The conflict was 30 years in the making. Parents feel son married the wrong girl 30 years ago. Began working with mother and son. Then worked with each couple separately. Finally, worked with all four together. Agreements for future signed by all parties. They reported a great Thanksgiving together.

12.4

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Coached husband and wife to prepare them for mediation with RECONCILE. Consulted with and provided guidance and support to peace advocates serving the couple. The case was terminated because the husband refused to participate in good faith and follow the peace advocates' guidance. Meeting with husband, peace advocate, and pastor at husband's request to explain termination decision.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

The husband is doing an internship with a church in preparation for future ministry. The church recommended, and paid for the couple to work with us in order to cover issues that would likely come up in marriage and ministry.

12.2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coached both husband and wife to prepare them for participation in the RECONCILE ministry. Evidence emerged revealing abusive conduct by the husband, disqualifying them from RECONCILE participation. Consultation with the church leader regarding the situation. Preparation and delivery of a comprehensive confrontation letter to the husband, urging a change. Report to church leadership.

28

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

S&IQ came for a mediated separation, then shifted to resolution and reconciliation, then back to separation. There were issues each had with each other which they mad good progress in confessing and forgiving, but the overriding issue was him being sued by a business partner. He wanted to protect his wife from financial loss and responsibility. They agreed upon a separation agreement that included a custody plan for their 3 children and a financial separation agreement. We believe they will return to continue resolution and reconciliation and not proceed with a divorce once the dust has settled over his lawsuit and he is able to reestablish his private entrepreneurial business.

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Mother of severely handicapped young adult needed encouragement to walk through conflict caused by not receiving the allowed help and services for her daughter. Conflict occurred in the refusal of said services. We walked through how to make a good appeal in honestly and forthrightness without abusive speech.

20

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Adultery. Couple reconciled.

8 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This is an ongoing family case regarding a conflict between several sisters. The main issue for the one sister that I coached was that she felt left out from any and all family decisions and also many family gatherings. The reason for this was unclear. However, after the sister recognized her own part in this conflict and started to extend much grace towards her other sisters, some of the problems could be addressed and the relationship between them became more relaxed.

4 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Husband (Paul) and wife separated years ago. Husband wants to reconcile. Coached him only. They have had conversations and she's warming to the idea.

14.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Case 25-007: Couple reached out after wife relapsed into heroin use after dropping suboxone use during pregnancy. Husband was understandably angry. Couple continued in coaching until baby was born. Not sure if they are expecting to return.

13

Coaching

Church/School

Yes

Haley contacted me about the possibility of leaving her church because of how the leaders had been responding to a conflict involving fellow members and friends Don and Rasha. I met initially with all of them. We decided to best course of action was for me to appeal to a higher authority because the church didn't want to follow its by laws, so I had a few conversations with the church's oversight member, Andrew Ford. I continued to coach the parties separately as I saw the need. All 3 ended up leaving the church with their families despite the coaching, and one is still looking for a church now. They were satisfied with the process even though it didn't yield the result they hoped for.

20+

Mediation

Church/School

No

Provided conflict coaching, conciliation, and mediation between a church's lead pastor, a former church staff member, and her husband (an elder in the church).

4.75

Coaching

Church/School

Yes

Case:25-014: Pastor's wife seeking help with bitterness following the forced resignation of her husband. She did well and learned to experience the grief without letting it fester into bitterness.

6 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Charlie married for 38 years. Wife rages at him. He wanted to separate. Coached him alone. He is remaining at home as she is getting help with anger management elsewhere.

12

Coaching

Business

No

The CRG asked me to lead phase 1 for this Christian camp-related conflict case. I met with the chief of the board, then with two parties, and finally again with the board. Once we came up with a proposal for phase 2 which would have involved mediation, the camp decided it didn't have the funds to continue.

.80

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Conflict coaching with husband. Wife filed for divorce. Husband wants reconciliation. Lawyers hired/involved. Husband wants to glorify God in process. Husband wants to use Christian conciliation.

.50

Coaching

Business

No

Dispute between service provider and customer. Conflict coaching with service provider regarding Christian conciliation process, mediation and arbitration and ICC Rules. SErvcie provider wants to glorify God in the resolution process.

3

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case involving, among other things, legal and physical custody, holidays, vacations, telephone contact, and transportation.

9

Mediation

Employment

Yes

A family employment case - Husband owner and wife and adult daughter employees. Wife sought conciliation to save their marriage as while wh was a wonderful husband at home, he was a tyrant a work and particular demeaning at work to daughter and wife who were trying to help him keep business from failing. Very positive engagement and husband receiving concerns that he had refused to listen to at work.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Dustin and Maria have young children and have been experiencing conflict in their marriage as they enter into ministry and fundraising. I gave each of them homework, either related to forgiveness or anger, and followed up with them a few times to continue coaching them. Dustin will continue with counseling.

54.1

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Complex spousal dispute. Parties separated. 20 plus issues for resolution. Full reconciliation and resolution. Marriage rebuilding plan in place. Reunited.

10

Coaching

Employment

No

I broke this case into a second part, which is between Jenna and Wissam, Ahmed, Daniel and Kathy. I consulted and worked with Pastor Raouf and her counselor, Kirk regarding approaching Wissam, who she accused of various offenses. She was satisfied that we prepared to confront him, but that he was unwilling and ended up leaving the church as a result. However, Jenna, Daniel, and Kathy were not satisfied with the outcome of their conflict, and Jenna wasn't satisfied with the outcome with Ahmed. Ultimately, she did not want to continue and then the process got taken over by human resources once she wanted a written employment complaint filed for Daniel and Kathy. I spoke with Daniel and Kathy's area supervisor, who recommended escalating the complaint to human resources. I then spoke with the appropriate person in human resources.

10.2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching husband and wife on biblical responses to engage complex marital conflict involving allegations of spousal abuse and mental illness, including extensive interaction and cooperation with their church pastors. Case is open.

about 1/2 hour have loaned book Conflict Resolution vs Reconciliation

Coaching

Other

No

Conflict with neighbor

Ongoing - 1/2 hour loaned Conflict Resolution vs Reconciliation Book

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Ongoing dispute with members of extended family

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching in custody matter.

47.75

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Case 25-004: Couple seeking help because wife had discovered the husband had lied about vaping and pornography use. Couple completed conflict coaching and did well in a 3 day mediation. Conducted 3 post mediation follow-up and couple still doing well.

26.6

Arbitration

Business

No

I was administering this arbitration between former business partners that came into dispute over fulfillment of contingent terms in their buy out agreement.

60+

Arbitration

Business

No

Complex business arbitration matter with a panel of arbitrators--phase 1 on the issue of liability concluded in August 2025, phase 2 on the issue of damages continued to 2026.

4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Pre-marriage counseling and preparation for marriage after one of the parties had suffered an abusive husband for 40 years. Parties happily married now.

1.30

Coaching

Other

No

Conflict between policy organization and elected officials and others. Conflict coaching with policy organization regarding appropriate way to raise issues in conflict and to pursue resolution. Policy organization wants to maintain, preserve and improve relationships. Policy organization wants to glorify God in process

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Custody Case. Issues resolved were suitability standards for homes of children, people who were permitted to live in such homes, legal custody and physical custody.

16

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Catholic couple married 11 years seeking separation. Couple in conflict over parenting, step children, control issues, and religion. Separation case proceeded to near to final drafting of separation agreement when the husband tragically passed away in a fatal car accident along with two of the children. The case was then permanently suspended.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Among the custody Issues. resolved were where chid would attend school, how major decisions are to be decided, dealing with IEP, physical custody, communication, holidays, information required to be given to other party.

13.9

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Wife seeking separation and parenting mediation. they had two children and one minor step child.. Husband had become intensely vindictive and controlling when things did not go his way. Wife open to trying to make it work. While their first draft of agreement being considered, Husband with their three children in car in a head on vehicle collision,that resulted in death of himself and two of the three children

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Matter. Resolved legal custody, a number of holiday and counseling issues.

14

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Wife sought divorce after discovering husbands pornography and then her own affair with kids soccer coach. Husband desired reconciliation, but wife already filed and they were trying to work our resolution to avoid need for litigation. Reached formal agreement.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Modification of current custody order. Resolved summer custody schedule, holiday schedule, legal custody, vacations, telephone contact.. Parties unable to resolve school district or physical custody schedule..

3.1

Coaching

Church/School

No

Coached church leaders on biblical response to and shepherding duties in connection with conflict involving two church families whose daughters had inappropriate sexual contact and interaction while at the church. Prepared and presented a proposal for the peacemaking process.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Custody issues. Parents able to resolve issues concerning timing of parent's communication with children and therapy for children. .Parents able to discuss other issues. .

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Conflict Coaching regarding custody matters.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Custody Action. Modification of existing court order. Issues resolved include communication issues, physical custody, and attending camp on father's custody week.

17

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Parties: MH&CH; Description The parties came to mediation to prepare a Marital Separation Agreement, in anticipation of filing for divorce. The Husband admitted, but did not repent of, his current adulterous affair. The wife seemed resigned to the dissolution of her marriage. We coached them on issues regarding co-parenting, and worked through and finalized a marital separation agreement that included custody, child support, and equitable distribution of assets and debts.

19.7

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Parties focused on separation and parenting, with goal of both having good relationship with children despite separation - Adultery involved. Resolved in formal agreement.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody case regarding modification of current court order. Agreed to leave unchanged provisions regarding major decisions and telephone/video calls. Resolved issues regarding transportation and pick-up, drop-off locations, and communication.

Approximately 19 hours

Arbitration

Business

No

Served as arbitrator for ICC case involving dispute over breach of construction contract. Served through pre-arbitration hearing and arbitration hearing and prepared arbitration order.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Met with a man whose family was going through probate on the estate of his grandparents. The main issue was that his sister, who was the trustee, was trying to enlist him to help her pressure their parents to settle things the way she wanted them settled. The man did not want to get between his sister and parents because of negative past family experiences. He needed help in communicating this to his sister and parents. Overall he learned how to manage these situations and appreciated the coaching. He was able to encourage them to get help from a trusted person to mediate their differences.

50

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Team Reconciliation Assistance for a group of Pastors in a denomination. One of the primary parties at the core of the issue had to pause the effort due to significant family concerns. I anticipate he may re-enter the effort at some point in time as he was close to reaching the point for a facilitated discussion before having to pause. The other primary party was/is ready to engage in mediation.

8

Coaching

Church/School

Yes

I met with a pastor and his elders to provide conflict coaching and consultation on a situation with one of the families in their church. The wife and husband of the family had some serious issues. The wife approached the leadership of the church for help. The husband was offended and defensive. This set off a rather lengthy conflict between the elders and the husband. I helped them in knowing how to approach the man in a biblical fashion. I also assited them as the developed and executed a plan to resolve the issue.

10

Mediation

Employment

Yes

Wrongful Termination case. We got into pre-mediation coaching but the parties were unable to agree on "do we have the right people in the room?". One side opted for Arbitration.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

A couple was struggling to connect after the birth of 4 babies in 5 years. Difficulty in communicating and finding time for their marriage. Misunderstandings towards one another.

1/2 hour

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Conflict coaching. Case involved custody of children

2.6

Coaching

Business

No

Coaching of small business owners on guiding conflicted employees toward reconciliation.

1.5

Coaching

Church/School

No

Met by zoom with an out of state associate pastor who was having difficulty negotiating his written responsibilities with the responsibilites that were implied by the elders and other staff. I provided assistance on how to approach them, frame the issues, and talk through the misunderstandings. I emphasized how he could turn it to working together to understand rather than debate. He was very appreciative.

8.25

Coaching

Church/School

No

This case carried over from last year. Anne Fifer and I were working with one pastor, in hopes that the second one would also engage. As it related to a sexual harassment complaint, we needed to treat this delicately. Ultimately the second one quit and didn't want to continue, so we met with a key board member and the first pastor to conclude.

20

Coaching

Church/School

Yes

Two pastors had a conflict -- one alleged that the other had assaulted him. We conflict-coached both pastors until one left the church and the process. It was not really resolved. This case began in 2024 and was reported in that year also.

3.3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Coaching a couple regarding biblical engagement of conflict with the husband's brother. Consultation with couples' church leaders on their responsibility and involvement.

3.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Case 24-005: Couple previously received pre-mediation help but were not ready to move t mediation. (See Case 25-001). Performed a couple of interventions/mediations around high tension situations in the marriage. Still hoping to see couple devote time to preparing for an effective mediation.

3

Coaching

Church/School

No

A pastor's wife struggled with conflicts at her church directed towards her husband. The local overseeing church body had been involved and sin charges made towards him by the congregation of plagiarism. We worked through bitterness, anger, and forgiveness. ongoing...

45 hours

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

This was a family mediation in two parts that I started at the end of last year. (See description to the Marriage/Family Coaching Case of 12/20/2024) The first mediation, on January 11 2025, was between a mother and her daughter. The daughter felt being caught in the middle of a fallout that happened between her mother and her husband 6 months earlier. Since then, the mother had distanced herself from the family. During the 6-hour mediation, mother and daughter were able to resolve their issues, but both realized that there needed to be a second meeting between the mother and her son in-law. In this meeting, we also covered past issues stemming from their dysfunctional family situation. After months of coaching and encouraging the mother, she finally agreed to a second mediation, between her and her son in-law. I would have liked for the daughter to be present as well, but all three parties thought that this was not necessary. This mediation was challenging because of much resistance by the mother in-law, but it ended with the son in-law taking the first step; showing grace towards his mother in-law and apologizing for his words and actions. Both parties forgave each other in a long and moving embrace. It was beautiful to watch! :) I encouraged the mother to seek long-term counseling for her abusive past, but she was not open to it.

28.25

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Parties: SM&WM; Description: The parties came to mediation to prepare a separation agreement, including custody, child support and property settlement. The wife was very distressed by the prospect of seeking divorce, and often asked for individual caucuses to discuss how to better communicate with the husband in the hope that he would consider reconciliation. The husband seemed intent on divorce, and did not want to reconcile. The parties reached agreement on custody, but were not able to finalize financial matters such as child support or property distribution. The case remains open.

28.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Long Marriage, 3 children. Husband alcoholic throughout marriage. Now sober for a hear and wife couldn't stand his ne personality sober. Many sessions working on parenting and some on finances, but much focused on addressing the new dynamic between them with him now sober. Ultimately wife withdrew from mediation to reconsider.

24 (in 2025)

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Ongoing dispute among the members of two Christian families involving the relationship between a son of one family and a daughter of the other family. Parties had agreed to prepare for a mediation however not all parties have yet invested the time in the process to move toward the mediation. Coaching suspended but marriage went forward.

15

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching two Christian families in conflict over the planned marriage of their son and daughter, respectively. When the case started, the goal was mediation but one family had difficulty following the reading and discussion schedule. Nonetheless, the wedding went forward and both families were happy with the progress in their relationship.

0.7

Coaching

Employment

No

Coached husband to support and guide his wife, who was enduring sexual harassment in her employment with a non-profit ministry.

8

Mediation

Business

No

Provided conflict coaching and mediation for business partners related to the sale of a condo they owned together. Dispute involved claim of money owed from operating account.

5 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This was a middle aged woman asking for help about a long-term conflict with her sister. The woman had experienced much trauma growing up, and later when her dad and her husband were both killed in car accidents. The pressing issue for the two sisters now was the fight over their parents' inheritance. We talked about the 4 steps of peacemaking (PMM) and I gave her some materials for further studies. In the end, the woman realized that she needed to own her part of the conflict (her resentment towards her sister from a young age onward) and take the first step towards reconciling the relationship with her, before she could address the tangible matter of the inheritance with her sister.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Met with a young engaged couple to help them navigate the influence and pressures surrounding their upcoming marriage by each of their parents. We talked about how to communicate thier desires and decisions without being offensive. We also talked about how to show grace and compassion even when deciding to not go along with what they are being pressured to do. They utilized the tools and found it successful.

2.25

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Case 25-001: Wife reached out after husband filed for divorce. Husband refused to participate in conciliation but wife pursued conflict coaching. The wife requested a meeting in which she could deliver a confession to the husband which I facilitated. Husband offered forgiveness but has not agreed to participate. Divorce has been largely stalled since then. We still pray for the opportunity to work with him.

25

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Two couples on a church leadership team struggled to resolve a conflict between the wives. The men were best friends, but the wives had difficulties working together. There were differences of philosophy in ministry to women that were complicated by personal hurts. Mediation between the ladies had a measure of success, but there were other issues between the husbands that complicated the outcome.

20+

Mediation

Church/School

No

Provided conflict coaching, conciliation, and mediation to a church's lead pastor, several of the church's elders, and a former elder and his wife who left the church over their conflict.

5.5

Mediation

Church/School

No

I did multiple peacemaking cases with Jenna Maddox, this one focusing mainly on her relationship with Pastor Raouf. Jenna told this pastor about a leader in the church who had wronged her, but she didn't feel that this pastor took her seriously, which led to her being hurt and withdrawing from fellowship. I prepared both of them to meet, then brought them together for mediation.

46.3 in 2025

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Completion of family relational and family business conflict mediation (primarily father-son). Partial reconciliation was reached, primarily due to the father's resistance to unqualified acceptance of his role and responsibilities and his objection to the mediator's confrontation of that resistance. He expressed his disappointment that I had not helped him straighten his son out as he had expected when he agreed to mediation. Mother, son, and daughter-in-law report that the process moved the family to a much better place and brought hidden agendas, motives, and issues into the open, which was helpful to the healing process. The case was disappointing because so much more could have been accomplished had the father been willing to be honest about the conflict and his role. At the last meeting in April, God brought the parties to the best place possible given their attitudes,

4

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

P&NN never engaged in conciliation in good faith. They have been separated for years and she agreed to participated at their children's request; he has been extremely slow in communicating with her and with the conciliators. He was not focused on relational repair, but his pastoral requirement to have a reconciled marriage to be considered fora call. Ultimately the conciliators terminated the case due to his unresponsiveness.

52.9

Arbitration

Other

No

AoR admin. arbitration panel of 3 - teen died while in ministry rehabilitation home. Parents filed lawsuit but remanded to arbitration due to clause in admission paperwork. Ministry handles national coverage of individual home facilities but one involved in this case has closed at this time. Ministry covered by insurance - their attorney filed Motion for Summary Judgment and Motion to Strike - pleadings submitted and decision was rendered to deny both motions. Discovery is moving forward.

4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marriage conflict over work schedules and expectations. Still ongoing conflicts, but much improved. They are praying together now.

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching a pastor through his process of providing marriage counseling to a couple in his church who have separated. The pastor did not feel equipped to do this counseling without some guidance. The work stopped when the pastor took a 13 week sabbatical and it has not resumed, but the pastor did express satisfaction with our guidance on his process.

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Several consulting calls with a Maine pastor who sought our guidance on his providing ongoing counseling of an estranged married couple in his church. Normally he did not provide longer term counseling so he felt ill equipped to provide this guidance to the couple, but they trusted only their pastor to help them work through the issues. In each of our calls, we discussed their progress and how to further encourage them in their pursuit of reconciliation. The pastor left on a sabbatical and the counseling calls stopped.

over 50

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

A mediated case where there is still on-going input with an adult daughter and husband working through abuse and unhealthy relational issues with her parents. During mediation, many issues were addressed with a plan for future engagement spelled out. Discussion is currently happening with this plan.

9.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Preparing for future ministry and wanted to address issues in his life and their marriage.

over 60

Mediation

Employment

No

A mediated case which may proceed to arbitration if not resolved soon. A missionary was terminated from his mission organization. Upon appeal, the case was referred for mediation/arbitration. Issues are still being negotiated for potential agreement.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching for a mediation scheduled for 5/1-3, 2025 for a marriage abuse case. The abuser, husband is showing signs of repentance and a marriage reconciliation process has begun. Beginning coaching is currently happening.

60

Arbitration

Insurance

Yes

Case Administrator for an Arbitration issue involving claims against a Christian School for negligence in how student injury was handled. The case approached Arbitration but ultimately settled just before the Hearing. I brokered much of the discussion between the parties to preserve Arbitrator's neutrality.

15 hours

Coaching

Church/School

Yes

Spent time working with the Stafford SDA Church over a period of two months working with teaching members how to resolve conflict before it begins in their church. It was delightful and encouraging to see them accept and enjoy the process.

3.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Parties: NN & PN; Description: The parties sought coaching individually to understand how best to approach the other spouse to initiate reconciliation, after they had physically separated. The wife felt her health and emotional needs were not respected; and the husband felt the wife had not respected his "call" to the local ministry. The wife felt diminished and disregarded after the husband had sent her a separation agreement. The husband felt she had abandoned him, and that he should set a legal boundary to their separation. Neither party wanted to "own" their contribution to the issues, even after being reminded of the principles that they should consider the "interests" of the other, and to "get the log" out of their own eye. Neither came back for further coaching.

4.2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Parties initially seeking mediation in separation and parenting. After initial pre-mediation coaching parties decided to pause their focus on separation and instead work on resolving their issues.

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Met with and coached a man on multiple occassions on how to help his wife and mother navigate their differences and poor communication with each other. The mother and wife did not want to come for coaching. He felt very much in the middle and did not want to dishonor either of them. Overall he learned how to better manage these situations and appreciated the coaching.

17.5

Coaching

Other

Yes

Coaching of a non-profit ministry on communicating and responding to claims of fraud in connection with services provided. Claims not pursued after March but not formally abandoned.

25 hours

Coaching

Other

No

This was a cross-cultural conflict between a friend of mine and her Egyptian tenants. Tensions rose between them over a period of several years. My goal was for the parties to gain a better understanding of cross-cultural issues, which lead to much tension between them. I also helped my friend see that her desire to "fix this family", had become her idol. In the end, because of grave misconduct and involvement in criminal activities of the Egyptian family, they were asked to move out. However, the parties parted on good terms, resolving their issues and reconciling with each other.

20+

Mediation

Church/School

No

Provided conflict coaching, conciliation, and mediation to a church elder and church staff member to resolve long-standing conflicts between them. The process led to the voluntary and amicable resignation of the church staff member and the elder from their respective positions.

1.4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coached daughter on biblically engaging conflct with father in dispute over lifetime care commitment and promised property transfer.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Provided Conflict Coaching and Mediation for couple facing severe marital conflict. Second marriage for both. A pre-nup is in place and the husband faced health issues. Helped them work through long standing issues.

3.7

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Husband being sued for divorce. He souight coaching on how he may approach wife in effort to have her consider reconciliation, or at least consider perhaps a Marriage Intensive counseling event before she goes forward.

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Party: SB: Description: In previous sessions, the client was seeking coaching on reconciling with his estranged wife. The client conceded he had multiple extramarital relationships, but had come back to the Lord in repentance of his sin against his wife. In this session, the client returned for additional coaching on how to ask forgiveness, offer sacrificial settlement terms, and also how to ask and motivate her to attend marital counseling before seeking divorce.

25

Mediation

Other

Yes

Teen (13 yrs) was "groomed" and sexually harassed by ministry staff person - now is 24 yrs old and posted on FB negative statement re ministry. They responded at urging of their Christian lawyer to request a mediation of the situation (statute of limitations had run). Both sides had attorneys. Handling by ministry was at issue - they had not recognized or searched out the depth of the problem since staff member quickly left their employ. Teen severely impacted - attempted suicide. Her mom attended mediation with her. She wrote out her story as I requested - did beautiful job of delivering it. Ministry paid for her and mom to come to mediation in person, 3 ministry members chosen by her and mom were on other side. Upon hearing her story, apologies flowed, reconciliation occurred and financial as well as administrative changes were offered. She will remove FB comment. God was good.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Separated parents and one wants to take children overseas for 6 week holiday (back to their home country) and the other parents nervous about allowing that. They have agreed yesterday but not signed agreement yet.

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

24-003:Husband in marriage conciliation withdrew from conflict coaching citing issues with a member of church peacemaking team I offered to help client to reconcile with team member but he refused. He did agree to continue process with me. Before we could schedule a mediation, husband threatened his wife with physical harm. At this point we handed case back to the church for church accuntability and offered to provide a place for wife to escape. So far she has declined.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

25-001: Client is woman seeking to reconcile with her husband who has filed for divorce. Had several coaching calls with her and multiple conversations with husband who ultimately declined to particpate. Wife has continued with a female conciliator in conflict coaching in hopes of repairing the relationship to the point the husband will agree to participate.

4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

24-009: Conflict coaching wth wife hoping to convince husband to participate in conciliation. Also some conversations with husband to encourage participation. Husband has agreed in concept, but blames work schedule on not starting.

At least one hour in 2025 - more previously

Coaching

Church/School

No

Coached pastor and elders concerning dispute between former staff member and volunteer. Most of parties are satisfied with results, but former staff member declined to meet with me and is not satisfied.

19

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Marital conflict due largely to husband's ADHD and one other syndrome.

2.50

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Conflict coaching with husband and wife regarding marital conflict. Conflict involved financial, child raising and relational issues. Both expressed desire to resolve conflict Biblically. They ended up disengaging.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital conflict due to alcoholism. I am helping the wife as her husband goes through treatment.

1.70

Coaching

Church/School

No

Conflict coaching with church leaders in conflict with other church leaders and pastor over removal of another pastor. Conflict involved use of building, governance, credentialing, and preaching issues.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Husband received coaching for doing conflict well with his wife's emotional and physical abuse.

60+

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Church conflict between pastor, elders, and staff

18

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

24-005: Marriage conciliation in conflict coaching stage. Case is ongoing. Couple is doing well but moving very slow.

30 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

This case is working with a current member of our church who struggles from a relational breakup along with her career future. This is an ongoing case and I meet with her on a biweekly basis for around 2 hours now.

12.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

C&AM had seen me to resolve marital infidelity years ago, which has been healed. Since then, AM had a problem and life-threatening pregnancy (preeclampsia), a healthy birth (boy) and an attempt to adopt a teenage girl (which went poorly and she ran away and made false accusations about 'dad' - since resolved legally, but the pain remains. AM is pregnant again and they both seek counsel as she has more difficulties (high BP). They both work high stress jobs and have learned to support teach other well and manage their stress loads (both also have challenging dynamics with their parents (both divorced and remarried). They are growing in their faith together through the challenges they face and are responsive to God and plugged in to a church family.

25.2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

KW&BS presented for relational reconciliation. They are both divorced with children for their first marriages and have struggled to resolve their allegiances to each other and their (his/BS's) children. BS has a history of co-dependency with his children and competition with his ex who abandoned the family. KW has a history of trauma stemming from childhood which rears its head when they are in conflict (she attacks and he avoids). We worked through much of these issues and they married. They are still battling patterns and dynamics, but KW is actively working on it (BS is still often avoidant). They are both engaged in the Word and church.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

A&AS presented to mediate their divorce which husband desired and wife initially did not. They have 2 children together and A (husband) has 2 from previous relationships. They have responded to the Word and Spirit and become peaceful and cooperative with each other, but are not amendable to reconciliation. We are in the final stages, having successfully worked through the custody plan and most of the financial separation agreement. They are reviewing the first draft and we will meet to deal with any corrections and some remaining details next week. I have a co-conciliator.

9.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

P&NN presented for marital reconciliation (they have been separated for years with adult children, and we discovered the PN actually divorced his wife - NN while separated in a different jurisdiction). Both seemed open at first, but PN has stalled doing his homework and, after his father's recent passing, gone silent. He has responded after prompts that he will reengage, but has not. We (my co-conciliator and I) are determining whether to keep the case open or terminate.

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This is a reopening of a coaching case with TE. she has 3 adult step-children who have teamed to oppose her and their father - making demands and shunning both. Dad has a long history of enabling and is making efforts to change his ways for the children's sake, but their opposition is strong. He is somewhat depressed and has turned to drinking to soothe himself. TE is working to remember who she is in Christ and not succumb to the hurtful, manipulative words and behaviors that are employed against her. Her faith is strong, but she comes form a significant trauma background and she benefits form encouragement in the Word.

36

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

24-007: Marriage conciliation with couple seeking to restore trust that had been lost, in part, due to alcohol abuse on the part of both parties. Mediation was concluded successfully with mutual confession/forgiveness and over the course of several months of periodic followup couple has continued to do well.

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

J&BS presented seeking to resolve longstanding marital issues, brought to a head by B (husband) hiding and lying about an ongoing (no-sexual, distant /text/ relationship with a childhood girlfriend). He has seen it as infrequent, largely political banter; while J feels betrayed, more by the perpetual lying about the relationship than the actual relationship. They early on divided roles in the marriage (J raised the children and B provided for the family. B was never content with that but felt minimized and bulldozed by J. We have been working on perspective taking and developing empathy and forgiveness. Both are carrying anger and resentment but in different ways: B is avoidant and passive-aggressive and J is aggressive. They both love each other, but need to look to the other's interest, not exclusively their own. Neither has a significant trauma history, but J's loss of her mother to cancer when she was 4y/o has her insecure in close relationships. They have not been attending church which was recommended. I'm praying and watching for the Spirit to open and move their hearts.

21

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

JD continues to benefit from semi-regular coaching as he negotiates life challenges. His wife has experienced a depressive episode and his parents health has continued to decline. His 5 children remain a challenge, with their son experiencing an autoimmune vasculitis and one of their daughters experiencing precocious puberty (9y/o). Despite these challenges and a raft of flus and colds, the marriage has repaired and they remain strong with and for one another.

1.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

How to handle devastating family conflict that erupted over Christmas. After coaching, he decided a good next step was to talk with his younger brother about how to approach older brother. Used angle questions from RW360 training

39

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

KR is an ongoing client still struggling consequences of TBI in the Marine Corps and relational betrayals. He has continued to benefit from coaching on healthy practices and perspective taking in relationships. He has experienced ongoing depression (dysthymia) and is struggling to get treatment that does not interfere with his work schedule. We are exploring options with his PCP.

60+

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Family conflict between the elder parents and their son & his wife.

78.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

PR continues to advantage coaching as he navigates his life. Growing in faith, he has most recently encountered the simultaneous and mysterious death of his wife's parents and concerns about his wife's sister's boyfriend, who inserts himself and seems to be abusive. PR also struggles with ongoing false guilt over a childhood friend then adulterous brother-in-law who has not owned his impact on the family.

32

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CS struggled though a divorce this year after initial attempts at Christian mediation failed (wife's stonewalling the process). He is now through with the Court process, living separately and co-parenting his children on a 2-2-5 schedule. He continues to hold distrust with his ex and seeks help with co-parenting and the children's adjustment needs.

12

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

AH has continued to seek monthly coaching to deal with his disability and family relationships complicated by his brother's criminal activity and verbally abusive and threatening words (and SMI), his siblings alienation of him and AH's desire to bring peace and reconciliation to his family. He has continued to learn to live with his disability and has this year begun auditing and taking courses for credit through CCEF.

2

Coaching

Employment

No

Jenna doesn't feel cared for, and feels team leaders are defensive to her comments. I encourage her to reflect on her contribution, consider how to speak the truth in love. She decided to write a letter, get feedback, then share with her team leaders in person

4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This is an ongoing case which began in December 2024 but I was approached by a father and son from my church about possibly mediating a case between the son and a sibling member. The case is ongoing and involves Conflict Coaching with both parties at the moment. I will be requesting feedback at an appropriate time.

6 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This case involved a Hutterite couple who had been having severe marriage problems for some time now. This was affecting the family and the whole colony (Hutterites practice communal living, so their lives are very much connected.) The husband's family asked me to speak with the daughter in-law, who they saw as the main culprit. However. because there was also much hostility between the mother and daughter in-law, I coached both women in separate sessions with the result that they were willing to reconcile with each other. I also left them with some peacemaking materials. The wife realized that she needed to take the first step in restoring the relationship with her husband.

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

24-012: Client was husband seeking help with how to convince his wife to return who had taken the children and moved home to her parents house (out-of-state). Client was not initially interested in restoring the marriage but changed his mind the process. He did a good job of recognizing several areas where he had wronged her and prepared a sincere confession but she refused to hear it.

3

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

A man preparing to marry is in conflict with his parents and his sister for being critical and controlling. The engaged couple, whom we had coached, presented their thinking and their desires well. The parents and the sister were not repentant, but they recognized that the son and his fiancee see them as critical and controlling.

4

Coaching

Church/School

No

Provided coaching for lead pastor and elders dealing with a contentious pastoral staff departure.

1.0

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Conflict coaching with wife. Wife wanted to preserve the marriage. Coaching regarding Christian conciliation process.

40+

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Allison Picking and I did an emergency Assistance with a couple who already filed for divorce. The woman was receptive and helped. The man was hard, deceptive, manipulative and not helped as much. She is continuing with the divorce. I believe/hope they will experience it less destructively.

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

newly married couple struggling with husband's significant anxiety. wife feels rejected and sad when she perceives her husband to be angry and stonewalling. I encouraged them with Psalm 142 - particularly v 2 and what that would look like in their marriage. We worked on a strategy together and they will contact me when needed.

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Husband and wife contacted me as they disagreed on how to respond to their 17 year old daughter's announcement that she considers herself to be 'they' and non binary and her decision to live with her school friend's family to get away from 'religion'. The wife recently requested ongoing coaching.

more than 50 hours in 2024

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

A professional women with a high profile public role reached out for help in early 2023 as she was dissatisfied with her marriage and was having an emotional affair with another man. She does not attend church and hasn't done all of her adult life yet the Holy Spirit is on the move and she wants to obey God and grow in her relationship with Jesus. She contacts me regularly for me to pray for her and guide her in her very demanding work and life. I would estimate that in 2024 more than 6 hours of our time together was for coaching in respect of her marriage and conflict with a colleague in her workplace.

2.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Since 2020 I have been helping a couple with severe conflict in their marriage. the wife is likely a sufferer of borderline personality disorder but a brave lover of Jesus who has grown spiritually during this time. I sometimes meet with them together and sometimes just with the wife. During 2024 I met with the wife for just 2.5 hours as she is doing so much better and has been able to join a church and a small group bible study group. She reaches out to talk when the conflict with her husband is severe.

9 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Husband left his wife and their jointly run business to care for his ailing mother 1,500klms away. His wife felt abandoned. She was also left to run their tyre repair business without the labour of her husband or his support. There was little communication between them. He had always been an angry man and in his sixties was becoming harder to live with his wife reported. She requested mediation but he would not agree. I provided conflict coaching to the wife for about 8 hours over a period of months and one session with her husband in which he agreed to work with me towards me facilitating a conversation but his fear and lack of privacy in his parents home got in the way. However, they were able to improve their communication and the wife visited her husband on several occasions. The wife contacts me when she feels the need for help in navigating their marriage.

20+

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Church conflict between pastor and members of the elder board. Extensive coaching of the parties was done by Saddleback Church Reconciliation Ministry team. I mentored the team through coaching and then assisted with the two-day mediation. Parties celebrated reconciliation.

19

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Highly conflicted marriage - husband vacillates regarding seeking help.

48

Coaching

Church/School

No

Church conflict involving pastor, board and staff. We conflict-coached 10 individuals to prepare them for a January 2025 mediation.

17

Coaching

Church/School

No

Conflict between two pastors; case referred by church elders. My co-conciliator and I have coached each pastor with a view towards mediation, but one pastor is participating only occasionally and reluctantly.

9

Coaching

Church/School

No

Pre-mediation work with church staff and church volunteer who are at odds with each other. Because church staff member left position and refused to mediate, case is not resolved. I have reached out to staff member and continue to hope to help in this situation.

20

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Wife struggles with years of being emotionally abused by both her parents. She and her husband have adopted two adolescent children with special needs.