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02/07/2024
2.5
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Mediation between a mother and her teenage daughter regarding increased disrespect towards the mother. I helped them agree to guidelines, boundaries, and consequences if the disrespect continues after the daughter is warned by her mother.
01/26/2024
To date, approximately 8, but case is on-going
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Young adult estranged from her parents asked me to mediate discussion of the issues that have divided them. Have done pre-mediation work with both sides, but have not yet met with parties together. Mediation is scheduled later in January.
01/23/2024
2
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
David, a Navigators minister, has been struggling in his relationship with his only son, a 17 year old teenage boy. I offered to coach him in this using Courageous Parenting resource and we met together for the first time on 1/16 after he completed the first chapter of homework. We will continue to meet, possibly with his wife next time, every other week. I recommended an additional resource from Parent Cue for him to order.
01/15/2024
5.0
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Coaching wife after abandonment by husband. Assisted with confession/forgiveness even though husband refused to communicate except through lawyers. The case has just been completed, and an evaluation will be sent.
01/15/2024
5.0 in 2023
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Coaching son regarding unresolved conflict and damaged relationship with abusive father.
01/15/2024
17.3 in 2023
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Severe marital dysfunction for many years. Mediation is ongoing to identify and resolve multiple issues.
01/13/2024
12.5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Marriage coaching which is ongoing.
01/13/2024
12
Coaching
Marriage/Family
Yes
A couple who with very difficult life circumstances. We meet with them monthly to enouragae and guide.
01/13/2024
9
Coaching
Other
Yes
Young single woman with internal conflicts. One-day intensive provided with some ongoing coaching in the future.
01/13/2024
19
Coaching
Other
No
Young single woman needing guidance through past emotional abuse and current family issues.
01/13/2024
25
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
This is a case of domestic abuse. I have been working steadily with this party and continue to do so.
01/13/2024
6
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Older couple dealing with unresolved conflict from the past.
01/13/2024
13
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Premarital coaching, then after married coaching which will continue due to issues they are facing.
01/13/2024
12
Coaching
Other
No
Young single woman struggling with work and personal issues.
01/13/2024
5
Coaching
Other
No
Single young woman with past drug addiction and current dysfunctional relationships with men.
01/13/2024
19
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Emotional abuse situation in which I am serving the wife.
01/13/2024
10
Coaching
Other
No
Currently working with a missionary couple on home assignment that is working through difficult situations on the field.
01/13/2024
25
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Pornography and other issues in the marriage. Likely ongoing. Their church is financing their work with us.
01/13/2024
13
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Couple struggling with his porn habit and physiological issues of the husband.
01/11/2024
8
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
MC Wife is divorcing her husband, who admits that he has been neglectful of his wife and his children, but who now wants to confess and be reconciled with his wife and children. We are working up a confession
01/09/2024
80+ hours
Coaching
Church/School
No
This is not a single coaching case, but I will include here many ongoing informal coaching cases that I have among Hutterite people, where my husband and I have been working as missionaries for the last 15 years. I am in regular contact with Hutterite women, who often share their struggles with me. Their life is especially challenging because when they marry, they move to their husband’s community, where they have to adjust to a different way of life and a new set of rules. There is a strict hierarchy among the group, and tensions among the women arise frequently, since they have to work very closely together in the community kitchen and garden. Most of their relationship issues circle around being judged by others and being oppressed by individuals or by the group. There is no teaching on how to communicate openly and honestly with each other, so there is a lot of distrust and envy and gossip among them. This often leads to anger and the forming of cliques, which divides the group even further. I have been teaching conflict resolution in many colonies now, and slowly, people are catching on to the peacemaking principles (even the men!). Hutterites do not hear the gospel preached in church, but we see more and more people being transformed by God’s Word, and I feel that the Lord has given me the ministry of Biblical peacemaking to help the Hutterite people better understand and live out the Gospel.
01/09/2024
35
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
This is an ongoing case where I have been coaching two brothers with the goal of mediating their offenses that developed during their childhood. Part of the problem is that the one brother feels that he was neglected by their mother, who favored the other brother over him. He is struggling with a lot of anger and bitterness towards his brother but is realizing now that he can’t have peace or move on with his life, unless he forgives his brother and also his mother, who is deceased. The other brother has acknowledged that his arrogant attitude towards his older brother has been part of the problem and has taken the first step and apologized to him for his behavior and hurtful words. I am hoping that there will be a mediation soon to address all the remaining issues.
01/06/2024
75
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
4 parties, mom/dad of son, a pastor, and wife. Broken relationships even though a close family. The parties developed a plan to relate to one another including seeing the grandkids.
01/05/2024
16
Arbitration
Marriage/Family
No
a test case
01/04/2024
85
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
The conflict started between a sister and brother-in-law, who had a falling out. Later, the whole family was affected by the conflict, mainly due to miscommunications and unfulfilled expectations. The first meeting involved the parents, their daughter, and son-in-law. They had open and honest conversations and all four parties reconciled with each other. The second meeting was only partially successful because the other daughter was not willing to reconcile with her brother-in-law. Therefore, the parties were only partially satisfied with the result.
01/04/2024
25+
Arbitration
Other
No
BE Arbitration. Award expected February 2024 as this is an ongoing case.
01/03/2024
30.5
Mediation
Business
Yes
This mediation was assigned to me by AofR as the parties requested me as conciliator. It was an employment dispute between the owner and two employees who left the company and were alleged to have taken customers and trade secrets with them. It was complicated by federal litigation with a discovery deadline and trial date within a month of my assignment. After 6 sessions of conflict coaching and an all day mediation the parties got close but were not able to reach an agreement. The litigation will proceed and they may return for further help.
01/02/2024
20
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
C had a breakdown in relationship with her grandmother and aunt following her grandfather's death. She has engaged with the coaching materials well and established reasonable relationships given the circumstances.
01/02/2024
24
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
S and J are trying to save their marriage after it was revealed that he had been unfaithful on numerous occasions. We are continuing to work with them as they address the issues.
01/02/2024
7
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Helping L navigate difficult relationships with grandchildren, daughter and son in law (soon to be 'x')
01/02/2024
12
Coaching
Other
No
S was struggling with judging family members and friends She worked through the coaching materials thoroughly. Her heart has been addressed and she feels she is free from bitterness. We are meeting on a bi-monthly basis for a check in call during 2024
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
New believer A and her unbelieving husband D; she got involved in the Trucker Convoy; this created huge problems in their marriage. She has been drinking and using marijuana. She withdrew from the process "partially satisfied". He stopped answering our follow up calls.
01/02/2024
18
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
A is dealing with an abusive husband and now a baby has been introduced to the mix. She is struggling with anger and bitterness. Temporarily separated on two occasions
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
O has been advocating for her brother (involved in a serious car crash). She is also trying to maintain relship with her mother and other family members
01/02/2024
60
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
L and M - addressing issues in marriage (his addictions and financial irresponsibility); they are now separated.
01/02/2024
6
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Working with U as she confronts the CSA from her childhood
01/02/2024
10
Coaching
Other
No
P is Hindu. I have been sharing the gospel with her through the coaching materials as it relates to her broken abusive marriage and cultural pressures being from India. We are continuing to meet monthly.
01/02/2024
10
Coaching
Church/School
No
Helping Pastor J and T address the pain of betrayal from the church they served for two decades
01/02/2024
30
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
J and JC are associate pastors in a local church. He has been abusive. They both engaged in the conflict coaching to the full extent required. He ended up taking Chris Moles' Men of Peace Program to address his abusive behaviour and attitude. There was great success through this program and their marriage has been changed. I will continue to follow up with Julie on a bi-monthly basis to ensure things are good in their marriage.
01/02/2024
8
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
S is navigating the aftermath of her son's failed marriage and her husband's criminal charges for stalking. She has engaged well with the coaching materials and we are continuing to meet for follow up and check in.
01/02/2024
40
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Pastor T and A engaged in the conflict coaching and this led to mediation in March 2023. The mediation was a success but Thomas was fired from his pastorate several months later. This caused a downward spiral on his part. He has continued to meet with my co-counsellor but has returned to old patterns. I'm continuing to meet with Alejandra for conflict coaching through these difficult times.
01/02/2024
10
Coaching
Other
No
Helping W address broken relationships and failed marriage
01/02/2024
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
M was referred by the County Mental Health in 2022. We have spent the year working through challenges in her relationship with her senior citizen father. Things have gone well and she finds her anger has been substantially addressed.
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
C has been struggling with bitterness toward her abusive sister. She has engaged with the coaching materials and has been able to establish a safe and reasonable relationship with her sister.
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
I is still working through her difficult marriage to a porn addict
01/02/2024
50
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
C and A submitted to a mediation in 2023. While there were agreements reached, Aristide did not truly engage in the process. I continue to meet with Cadeau on a monthly basis to coach her through this difficult situation. Aristide is inconsistent in meeting with my co-counsellor Dave.
01/02/2024
20
Coaching
Other
No
A is a teenaged girl. She recently revealed she was sexually abused by her adoptive father and a court case will ensue. Her adoptive mother kicked her out of the home. She is navigating a great deal of anger and bitterness. She is doing well considering the circumstances.
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Helping P address his broken marriage and losses due to his abusiveness
01/02/2024
12
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
A and H's marriage was salvaged following infidelity and separation. A mediation in 2022 has been followed up with ongoing check in calls and marital restoration work.
01/02/2024
12
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
N and I meet on a monthly basis to work through her failed marriage and ongoing co-parenting of their 14 yr old daughter with her estranged husband.
01/02/2024
15
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
H is working through her marriage issues and difficulties parenting a severely disabled child. Also addressing problems with church ldrship
01/02/2024
8
Coaching
Church/School
No
Helping L and M address their difficult marriage and former church position
01/01/2024
444+129 = 573 hours minimum
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
As a Marriage & Family Counselor, I handle conflict oriented situations every day, year round. This past year(2023) I did @ 62 cases (Marriage & Fam) and 43 Conflict Coaching situations.
01/01/2024
10+
Coaching
Other
No
Conflict coaching of Ms CC and leader of not for profit organisation
01/01/2024
7+
Coaching
Church/School
No
Individual conflict coaching of young female student leader in conflict with assistant pastor
01/01/2024
30+
Mediation
Church/School
No
3 phase mediation between a couple and their pastor including individual conflict coaching
01/01/2024
11+
Mediation
Church/School
No
2 phase mediation between two assistant pastors including individual conflict coaching
01/01/2024
1.5
Coaching
Church/School
No
Conflict coaching of parishioner unhappy with her pastor
01/01/2024
16
Mediation
Church/School
No
3 phase mediation between a senior and his assistant pastor including individual conflict coaching
01/01/2024
10+
Coaching
Church/School
No
Conflict coaching of female doctor in conflict with her pastor
01/01/2024
21+
Mediation
Church/School
No
2 phase mediation between autistic parents of autistic son in conflict with church leaders, including individual conflict coaching
01/01/2024
1-2
Coaching
Church/School
No
Conflict coaching of assistant pastor in conflict with his previous senior pastor
12/30/2023
8
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
BJS Husband and wife, owners of a counseling firm, are in conflict. She feels "missed" and "not heard" by her husband. Both have a past involving severe addictions. He is currently an elder at a church. They are responding beautifully to our coaching. God used Psalm 32:5 (I will confess my sin against myself to the Lord) to galvanize him to make a beautiful confession to her. Excited to see how their relationship develops.
12/30/2023
20
Coaching
Church/School
No
O The two paid pastors of a church are in conflict. The lead pastor apparently is driven, critical, and insensitive. I have met with the three unpaid elders several times and the paid pastors several times. Plan to meet with all of them together soon for a mediation.
12/30/2023
30
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
RJT Husband is emotionally abusive to his wife and his children. The more I listen to him, the more I see him as embodying the ksil, one of the fools in Proverbs. He is so prone to aggressive, out-of-control criticism! He believes he is being mistreated and disrespected, so he lashes out and makes demands. We see him making some changes some of the time, but are not confident that he will repent in a long-term way. His wife is benefiting greatly from Susie's coaching.
12/30/2023
24
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
I primarily coach JD, but his wife LD has recently asked to join. JD came to me overwhelmed and disenchanted with his marriage. They struggle to have children, then had 2, then triplets. JD has suffered a fantasy life that has colored his view of L. J is making good progress. They are both faithful Christians and engaged with a supportive church body. More recently J's parents have entered into a precarious stage: Mom has MS and falls; Dad is not able to support her physically and they both want to continue snow birding from NJ to FL. J's brother is nearer them, but not a Christian, dismissive and going though a divorce. EW are working on the practical issues they face and encouraging them to communicate and rely on one another as well as God and the Christian community they have.
12/28/2023
5.6
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Dispute between two brothers over multiple business issues. Previously assisted them in mediation, which resulted in an impasse. One brother sows discord with other family members and threatens libelous statements. Assisted with the formulation of responses. The case just concluded. Evaluations will be sent.
12/28/2023
8
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Husband and wife experiencing intense conflict after 10 years of marriage. Discipline of children, house renovation, finance and unwanted employments has created considerable tension as they fail to work through issues without sinful anger.
12/23/2023
1.0
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
The conflict involved family relationships between a wife and husband and the children and father
12/23/2023
2.0
Coaching
Estate
No
The dispute involved conflict between a brother and a sister involving inheritance and personal relational issues.
12/22/2023
78
Coaching
Other
No
PR; identity and relational struggles; stemming from childhood sexual abuse and unfavored son, he struggles with self-perception and projects his (false) guilt on others, resulting in relational struggles. He is growing in accepting His identity in Christ as overriding all others (including his own). He also suffers ADHD which impacts his work productivity.
12/22/2023
3
Coaching
Employment
No
Woman recently hired for a position struggling with whether to continue or quit over perceived slight form boss, and if continue, how to share with boss how his emails had impacted her. Coaching her helped her realize boss could not have known the sensitivities she was reacting to and that she was responding out of presumptions as to his motives (potentially sexual/racial discrimination). Her engagement with boss in desire to continue in new role built sound employment relationship.
12/21/2023
36.5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
CS is now in a litigated divorce process. His wife has maintained an affair and moved out. They attended a Christian conciliation mediation process, but did not complete it due to his wife's refusal to come to agreement on an ongoing schedule for their children and to discuss final resolution of finances. We have walked trough getting the children into therapy and the vagaries of his wife's stonewalling and seeming disinterest in concluding the case (she already views them as 'not married'). CS is maintaining a strong faith, working through the grief and maintaining good relationships with his children and faithful friends. He is now holding a forgiving attitude toward his wife and praying she will repent....
12/20/2023
32.5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
TC is in a litigated divorce process. He both wants separation and wants to preserve the marriage, but his wife has been unwilling to engage in marriage therapy, marital retreat or Christian conciliation. He grew up with a controlling and hypercritical father (parents divorced) and is strengthening his faith and practical walking in obedience as he suffers. He has been consistently stonewalled and is seeking to do the next right thing as he suffers.
12/20/2023
48
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
KW & BS have had an on/off relationship since grade-school. The are both Christians, both previously married and divorced. BS has struggled with infidelity for years, and recently ahs become celibate and devoted to KW. KW suffered serial sexual abuse for family members as a young child and is making good progress on noticing and controlling her reactivity and fearful suspicions of BS. Her reactivity has been a barrier to them moving forward on marriage, until recently. They are now engaged and both working on their growing relationship.
12/20/2023
27.5
Coaching
Other
No
KR suffers severe PTSD stemming from multiple TBIs incurred during his active duty service in the Marine Corps. He is often depressed which impacts his availability to work and relationships, but holds a strong faith that keeps him. He is twice divorced and has a girlfriend who seems understanding and supportive, but takes some of his limited energy. I am working in concert with his physician and the TBI clinic. Much of our work is faith oriented and focused on healthy routine, NOT overextending himself, so he can rebuild his emotional and energy reserves.
12/20/2023
17
Coaching
Marriage/Family
Yes
Pre-premarital coaching and then premarital coaching. Parties gave strong verbal feedback of how much they appreciated the coaching.
12/16/2023
12
Coaching
Employment
No
Issues with manager at work. Difficult work situation. Mental health issues involved. Lack of support in work environment. Family support nil. I believe this case is now resolved with this employer.
12/16/2023
2
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
BH (friend) asked me to coach him regarding a long-standing conflict with his brother. No miraculous breakthrough, but progress was made.
12/15/2023
53
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
A&BH came to me after suffering injury from a previous Christian therapist. WE have focused on healing through forgiveness and looking at what God is illuminating in their lives together (they also have 4 children). B suffered sexual abuse as child and is sensitive and often demurring with A. A can be very matter-of-fact which can feel harsh to B. We are working on improved deeper, more honest conversations and holding one another with the love of Christ, including tenderness, truth and forgiveness.
12/14/2023
8.05
Mediation
Church/School
No
Case involved a personal injury sustained by student at Christian school event. The case had been previously mediated and an impasse reached. Plaintiff increased their demand by 50% at mediation, shocking everyone, and with no movement towards compromise. Case resulted in an Impasse, and is going to binding arbitration.
12/13/2023
55
Mediation
Church/School
No
Virtual and onsite coaching and mediation with congregational involvement. Key parties repaired their relationships and created a 'going forward plan'. They reported to the board and all were grateful for God's mercy and grace!
12/13/2023
30
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Highly conflicted couple. Adultery discovered after a two day mediation.
12/13/2023
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
DH experiences relational struggles, particularly with his brother who suffers SMI and is often institutionalized or incarcerated. DM himself suffers Bipolar Disorder and severe effects of Lyme Disease. He is 'disabled' and receiving disability. DH has a clear identity in Christ that sustains his hope; and he suffers mightily. We focus on daily activities and how to interact with difficult and aggressive people.
12/12/2023
24.4
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Family dispute regarding finances and control of trusts. (Father-daughter) Although there was initial confession and forgiveness, old habits continued even during mediation. One of the parties could not be satisfied with any proposal unless they got everything they wanted. An Impasse resulted.
12/12/2023
4
Coaching
Other
No
Friend/next-door neighbor relationship estranged over one the dad's threatening son of neighbor over incident between neighbor's son and his daughter on school bus. Son's father sent scathing e-mail condemnation to neighbor daughter's father. Neighbor responded in kind, denigrating the other parent's parenting and son. Two months of silence and awkward avoidance ensued. Coaching of Son's Dad on living out Mat. 5:23-4, first focusing on his multiple logs and acceptance of gossip about neighbor.
12/12/2023
6
Coaching
Church/School
Yes
BL returned to see me about working to resolve church conflict. He had previously worked with me to resolve loss of his father and his wife's disenchantment with being a pastor's wife. She is now fully supportive. We looked at his communication style and sought resolution through Conflict to Peace (which his elders did not accept). Eventually the church polity refused the elder's efforts to dismiss BL as their pastor and reinforced their need to seek to resolve and make peace. The objecting elder refused again and left the church. BL continues to seek new elders and unite his mall body of hurt believers.
12/12/2023
9
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
RD is in a litigated divorce situation with an abusive spouse. He has a strong faith and is fearful that his daughter will be swayed by her mother and destroy his relationship with the daughter. They go to Court next month. He lost his father to cancer last year. He has also recently lost his job. WE are focusing on God's faithful lovingkindness, regardless of our circumstances and suffering.
12/10/2023
100?
Coaching
Other
No
Ongoing consult with AoR/ICC Case Admin on probably most every case by either ongoing email review or verbal debrief on countless cases, including one I may arbitrate.
12/10/2023
4
Coaching
Estate
No
Ongoing dispute relative to bequest payable to church by estate
12/10/2023
3
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Consult w Couple dealing with family issues
12/10/2023
20
Mediation
Business
Yes
AoR assignment for sums owed by family to Christian school
12/10/2023
25
Coaching
Other
No
RC Grievance from ICC Peace
12/10/2023
2
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Called in by mutual friends to address family dispute involving medical issues.
12/08/2023
23
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
CW lost her mother to an auto accident nearly 2 years ago. she has continued working through grief and finding her way without the mission of caring for her mom. This is complicated by her 3 siblings choosing to blame and litigate the accident. C expressed she did not want to participate or hear about the litigation, yet the mother's estate is encumbered by the litigation process. She is working to restore estranged relationships with her siblings and extended family (they have a family culture of not honestly addressing issues, but cutting off anyone they differ with. C is living out a different model. she is growing in confidence in God and who God ahs made her to be, and now wondering what God ahs for her life going forward.
12/06/2023
31
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
AM & CM are a married couple, having overcome an adulterous affair, they have a young son and have worked to adopt a 17 y/o teen girl 'in the system' with a history of multiple failed placements (she was horribly abused by her biological parents who trafficked her as a child). after about one month 'honeymoon phase' the girl started rebelling, acting out and ultimately fled. She also made false allegations of abuse (also repeated in her past placements). We have focused on grief, recovery and prayer for this lost soul who does claim Jesus as her savior. Having overcome these trials the couple is now considering another adoption or trying for another natural-born child (AM had near fatal eclampsia with their first child). They continue to hold strong together in their faith and CM has entered seminary, wondering what God has for him in the future. It is a privilege to walk with them.
12/05/2023
18
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
AS2, after reconciling with her husband, returned to work through an emergent diagnosis of stage 4 breast cancer and the whirlwind of issues that ensued with radiation, surgery and more radiation while her parents and brother remained cold and distant. Much loss and disorientation. Her husband remains a rock for her, and she is grieving, forgiving and not presenting herself to her dismissive family of origin yet willing for God to work a miracle. She is now reconsidering her professional goals and seeing God working. She quit and has now resumed radiation therapy.
12/04/2023
16.4
Mediation
Marriage/Family
Yes
Marital abuse by husband. Plan for security and stability reached and memorialized in comprehensive MOU. Parties remain together.
12/02/2023
2.25
Coaching
Church/School
No
G and K wanted to meet again following a mediation that I led last year. G hoped that he had done everything needed, but after hearing from him, I encouraged him to keep working towards peace with those who continued to wound him. I have not heard yet about the outcome.
12/02/2023
8
Coaching
Other
No
NR Young adult woman, a first generation immigrant to the US, wanted help dealing with same sex attraction. She has experienced much chaos and abuse in her childhood and adolescence. She saw clearly how her beliefs developed and wants freedom from her same sex temptation.
12/02/2023
3
Coaching
Church/School
No
K agreed to have me help her in her relationship with D, her colleague. I gave her homework from the Peacemaker and sought to help her process what she needs to communicate that isn’t yet resolved.
12/02/2023
2
Coaching
Other
No
D has run into conflict with several others in his ministry. D initially was open to working towards reconciliation, but his wife told him he’d done enough, so I will work with K and then D to probe further.
12/02/2023
1.25
Coaching
Church/School
No
R has had ongoing relational tension with a pastor who now leads the fellowship he began, J. R struggled as to how to address this conflict and with the ambiguity of the leadership structure. R has continued to be able to work collaboratively with the church since then.
12/02/2023
1
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
D has been having problems with his father-in-law, whom he called “abusive.” After having listened and asked questions, and offered counsel, D said that he had gained some very important perspective. This has led him to be able to relate with his father-in-law in a better light.
12/02/2023
5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
D desired to have me coach her regarding her strained relationship with her mother and father-in-law. Although this dispute involved a business, there was no paperwork to prove the substantive matter, so I focused on coaching her regarding her relationship with her mother, who seemed most open to working things through. I have not heard about the outcome.
12/02/2023
25
Coaching
Church/School
No
Pastor J contacted me about an ongoing between the elders at the church he now leads in Owosso and two families that left the church. The elders decided to work with Anne B. Fifer and I, and we approached the other parties, who seemed to initially agree for us to mediate. We mostly shuttled back and forth between the parties after that, coaching them and seeking to bring them together. However, we were ultimately unable to get them to come together, exhausting all of our efforts.
12/02/2023
5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
B’s son A is living with his parents but not respecting their boundaries. His parents met with me to have me help them decide on a plan of action. They came up with a plan, and I have sought to encourage them to follow through rather than giving into his bad behavior. He was not open to meeting with me. I do not believe that the son has been responding very positively.
12/01/2023
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
CW is a pastor's wife, needing help in her relationships in church and home.
11/28/2023
55
Mediation
Church/School
Yes
A senior pastor and associate pastor were deeply distrustful because of past actions by each of them. Thier conflict worsened over 2-3 years until they we unable to work together and asked for Christian conciliation assistance.
11/24/2023
25+
Arbitration
Other
No
AB Arbitration
11/22/2023
60
Coaching
Other
No
Pregnancy Distress Centre started in 2022. There was a disagreement between the board and the executive director. The ED completed all of the conflict coaching, with thoroughness. By the end of the process, she felt her heart had been changed and she was walking in full forgiveness. The Board members did not engage and were seemingly blind to their contribution to the issues. The Board prohibited a full investigation. With the ED's agreement we presented our findings of her situation to the Board but 'they didn't get it'. We closed the file at the end of November 2023.
11/21/2023
26
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
Highly conflicted couple with a resistant husband. I continue serving the wife occasionally.
11/19/2023
30
Mediation
Marriage/Family
No
A husband and wife with four young boys at home with high needs asked for help as they were "living like roommates and not like husband and wife." There wasn't any one event that led to the distance that they experienced emotionally, mentally, physically, and sexually, but many small conflicts that multiplied over time. They wanted help addressing the repeated conflicts they had had over many years about money, sex, and parenting.
11/18/2023
59
Coaching
Church/School
No
Coaching led the elders to accept a mediation process (church conciliation) occurring in 2024
11/17/2023
0.8
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
Two brief coaching sessions with wife separated from husband in DC. She moved to NC. Read my book for specific guidance.
11/17/2023
10
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
I was working through her difficult marriage. Although she had been thoroughly engaged with the materials, she withdrew in November due to a lack of time.
11/17/2023
14.5
Coaching
Marriage/Family
No
SA is struggling in conflict with her husband (occasionally) and her sister (often). Her parents are aged, unsaved and ill: Mom, angry, with Parkinson's and wheelchair-bound with a health care aid; Dad, often non-compliant with his boundaries has growing dementia. How to help them is often a source of conflict with her sister (her brother is withdrawn), and that has overflowed into her marriage. She is making good progress in separating issues from people and relying on God's grace for the tense moments.
11/08/2023
1.90
Mediation
Employment
No
The dispute involved the amount and timing of payment of compensation owed by a church to a former employee and other post termination issues.
11/08/2023
37
Arbitration
Church/School
No
Allison Pickering and I are doing an investigation regarding pastoral sexua