3

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case involving, among other things, legal and physical custody, holidays, vacations, telephone contact, and transportation.

about 1/2 hour have loaned book Conflict Resolution vs Reconciliation

Coaching

Other

No

Conflict with neighbor

Ongoing - 1/2 hour loaned Conflict Resolution vs Reconciliation Book

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Ongoing dispute with members of extended family

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching in custody matter.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Custody Case. Issues resolved were suitability standards for homes of children, people who were permitted to live in such homes, legal custody and physical custody.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Among the custody Issues. resolved were where chid would attend school, how major decisions are to be decided, dealing with IEP, physical custody, communication, holidays, information required to be given to other party.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Matter. Resolved legal custody, a number of holiday and counseling issues.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Modification of current custody order. Resolved summer custody schedule, holiday schedule, legal custody, vacations, telephone contact.. Parties unable to resolve school district or physical custody schedule..

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Custody issues. Parents able to resolve issues concerning timing of parent's communication with children and therapy for children. .Parents able to discuss other issues. .

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Conflict Coaching regarding custody matters.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Custody Action. Modification of existing court order. Issues resolved include communication issues, physical custody, and attending camp on father's custody week.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody case regarding modification of current court order. Agreed to leave unchanged provisions regarding major decisions and telephone/video calls. Resolved issues regarding transportation and pick-up, drop-off locations, and communication.

50

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Team Reconciliation Assistance for a group of Pastors in a denomination. One of the primary parties at the core of the issue had to pause the effort due to significant family concerns. I anticipate he may re-enter the effort at some point in time as he was close to reaching the point for a facilitated discussion before having to pause. The other primary party was/is ready to engage in mediation.

10

Mediation

Employment

Yes

Wrongful Termination case. We got into pre-mediation coaching but the parties were unable to agree on "do we have the right people in the room?". One side opted for Arbitration.

1/2 hour

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Conflict coaching. Case involved custody of children

8

Mediation

Business

No

Provided conflict coaching and mediation for business partners related to the sale of a condo they owned together. Dispute involved claim of money owed from operating account.

52.9

Arbitration

Other

No

AoR admin. arbitration panel of 3 - teen died while in ministry rehabilitation home. Parents filed lawsuit but remanded to arbitration due to clause in admission paperwork. Ministry handles national coverage of individual home facilities but one involved in this case has closed at this time. Ministry covered by insurance - their attorney filed Motion for Summary Judgment and Motion to Strike - pleadings submitted and decision was rendered to deny both motions. Discovery is moving forward.

over 50

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

A mediated case where there is still on-going input with an adult daughter and husband working through abuse and unhealthy relational issues with her parents. During mediation, many issues were addressed with a plan for future engagement spelled out. Discussion is currently happening with this plan.

over 60

Mediation

Employment

No

A mediated case which may proceed to arbitration if not resolved soon. A missionary was terminated from his mission organization. Upon appeal, the case was referred for mediation/arbitration. Issues are still being negotiated for potential agreement.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coaching for a mediation scheduled for 5/1-3, 2025 for a marriage abuse case. The abuser, husband is showing signs of repentance and a marriage reconciliation process has begun. Beginning coaching is currently happening.

60

Arbitration

Insurance

Yes

Case Administrator for an Arbitration issue involving claims against a Christian School for negligence in how student injury was handled. The case approached Arbitration but ultimately settled just before the Hearing. I brokered much of the discussion between the parties to preserve Arbitrator's neutrality.

15 hours

Coaching

Church/School

Yes

Spent time working with the Stafford SDA Church over a period of two months working with teaching members how to resolve conflict before it begins in their church. It was delightful and encouraging to see them accept and enjoy the process.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Provided Conflict Coaching and Mediation for couple facing severe marital conflict. Second marriage for both. A pre-nup is in place and the husband faced health issues. Helped them work through long standing issues.

25

Mediation

Other

Yes

Teen (13 yrs) was "groomed" and sexually harassed by ministry staff person - now is 24 yrs old and posted on FB negative statement re ministry. They responded at urging of their Christian lawyer to request a mediation of the situation (statute of limitations had run). Both sides had attorneys. Handling by ministry was at issue - they had not recognized or searched out the depth of the problem since staff member quickly left their employ. Teen severely impacted - attempted suicide. Her mom attended mediation with her. She wrote out her story as I requested - did beautiful job of delivering it. Ministry paid for her and mom to come to mediation in person, 3 ministry members chosen by her and mom were on other side. Upon hearing her story, apologies flowed, reconciliation occurred and financial as well as administrative changes were offered. She will remove FB comment. God was good.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Separated parents and one wants to take children overseas for 6 week holiday (back to their home country) and the other parents nervous about allowing that. They have agreed yesterday but not signed agreement yet.

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

24-003:Husband in marriage conciliation withdrew from conflict coaching citing issues with a member of church peacemaking team I offered to help client to reconcile with team member but he refused. He did agree to continue process with me. Before we could schedule a mediation, husband threatened his wife with physical harm. At this point we handed case back to the church for church accuntability and offered to provide a place for wife to escape. So far she has declined.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

25-001: Client is woman seeking to reconcile with her husband who has filed for divorce. Had several coaching calls with her and multiple conversations with husband who ultimately declined to particpate. Wife has continued with a female conciliator in conflict coaching in hopes of repairing the relationship to the point the husband will agree to participate.

4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

24-009: Conflict coaching wth wife hoping to convince husband to participate in conciliation. Also some conversations with husband to encourage participation. Husband has agreed in concept, but blames work schedule on not starting.

19

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Marital conflict due largely to husband's ADHD and one other syndrome.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital conflict due to alcoholism. I am helping the wife as her husband goes through treatment.

18

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

24-005: Marriage conciliation in conflict coaching stage. Case is ongoing. Couple is doing well but moving very slow.

30 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

This case is working with a current member of our church who struggles from a relational breakup along with her career future. This is an ongoing case and I meet with her on a biweekly basis for around 2 hours now.

12.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

C&AM had seen me to resolve marital infidelity years ago, which has been healed. Since then, AM had a problem and life-threatening pregnancy (preeclampsia), a healthy birth (boy) and an attempt to adopt a teenage girl (which went poorly and she ran away and made false accusations about 'dad' - since resolved legally, but the pain remains. AM is pregnant again and they both seek counsel as she has more difficulties (high BP). They both work high stress jobs and have learned to support teach other well and manage their stress loads (both also have challenging dynamics with their parents (both divorced and remarried). They are growing in their faith together through the challenges they face and are responsive to God and plugged in to a church family.

25.2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

KW&BS presented for relational reconciliation. They are both divorced with children for their first marriages and have struggled to resolve their allegiances to each other and their (his/BS's) children. BS has a history of co-dependency with his children and competition with his ex who abandoned the family. KW has a history of trauma stemming from childhood which rears its head when they are in conflict (she attacks and he avoids). We worked through much of these issues and they married. They are still battling patterns and dynamics, but KW is actively working on it (BS is still often avoidant). They are both engaged in the Word and church.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

A&AS presented to mediate their divorce which husband desired and wife initially did not. They have 2 children together and A (husband) has 2 from previous relationships. They have responded to the Word and Spirit and become peaceful and cooperative with each other, but are not amendable to reconciliation. We are in the final stages, having successfully worked through the custody plan and most of the financial separation agreement. They are reviewing the first draft and we will meet to deal with any corrections and some remaining details next week. I have a co-conciliator.

9.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

P&NN presented for marital reconciliation (they have been separated for years with adult children, and we discovered the PN actually divorced his wife - NN while separated in a different jurisdiction). Both seemed open at first, but PN has stalled doing his homework and, after his father's recent passing, gone silent. He has responded after prompts that he will reengage, but has not. We (my co-conciliator and I) are determining whether to keep the case open or terminate.

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This is a reopening of a coaching case with TE. she has 3 adult step-children who have teamed to oppose her and their father - making demands and shunning both. Dad has a long history of enabling and is making efforts to change his ways for the children's sake, but their opposition is strong. He is somewhat depressed and has turned to drinking to soothe himself. TE is working to remember who she is in Christ and not succumb to the hurtful, manipulative words and behaviors that are employed against her. Her faith is strong, but she comes form a significant trauma background and she benefits form encouragement in the Word.

36

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

24-007: Marriage conciliation with couple seeking to restore trust that had been lost, in part, due to alcohol abuse on the part of both parties. Mediation was concluded successfully with mutual confession/forgiveness and over the course of several months of periodic followup couple has continued to do well.

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

J&BS presented seeking to resolve longstanding marital issues, brought to a head by B (husband) hiding and lying about an ongoing (no-sexual, distant /text/ relationship with a childhood girlfriend). He has seen it as infrequent, largely political banter; while J feels betrayed, more by the perpetual lying about the relationship than the actual relationship. They early on divided roles in the marriage (J raised the children and B provided for the family. B was never content with that but felt minimized and bulldozed by J. We have been working on perspective taking and developing empathy and forgiveness. Both are carrying anger and resentment but in different ways: B is avoidant and passive-aggressive and J is aggressive. They both love each other, but need to look to the other's interest, not exclusively their own. Neither has a significant trauma history, but J's loss of her mother to cancer when she was 4y/o has her insecure in close relationships. They have not been attending church which was recommended. I'm praying and watching for the Spirit to open and move their hearts.

21

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

JD continues to benefit from semi-regular coaching as he negotiates life challenges. His wife has experienced a depressive episode and his parents health has continued to decline. His 5 children remain a challenge, with their son experiencing an autoimmune vasculitis and one of their daughters experiencing precocious puberty (9y/o). Despite these challenges and a raft of flus and colds, the marriage has repaired and they remain strong with and for one another.

39

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

KR is an ongoing client still struggling consequences of TBI in the Marine Corps and relational betrayals. He has continued to benefit from coaching on healthy practices and perspective taking in relationships. He has experienced ongoing depression (dysthymia) and is struggling to get treatment that does not interfere with his work schedule. We are exploring options with his PCP.

78.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

PR continues to advantage coaching as he navigates his life. Growing in faith, he has most recently encountered the simultaneous and mysterious death of his wife's parents and concerns about his wife's sister's boyfriend, who inserts himself and seems to be abusive. PR also struggles with ongoing false guilt over a childhood friend then adulterous brother-in-law who has not owned his impact on the family.

32

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CS struggled though a divorce this year after initial attempts at Christian mediation failed (wife's stonewalling the process). He is now through with the Court process, living separately and co-parenting his children on a 2-2-5 schedule. He continues to hold distrust with his ex and seeks help with co-parenting and the children's adjustment needs.

12

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

AH has continued to seek monthly coaching to deal with his disability and family relationships complicated by his brother's criminal activity and verbally abusive and threatening words (and SMI), his siblings alienation of him and AH's desire to bring peace and reconciliation to his family. He has continued to learn to live with his disability and has this year begun auditing and taking courses for credit through CCEF.

4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This is an ongoing case which began in December 2024 but I was approached by a father and son from my church about possibly mediating a case between the son and a sibling member. The case is ongoing and involves Conflict Coaching with both parties at the moment. I will be requesting feedback at an appropriate time.

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

24-012: Client was husband seeking help with how to convince his wife to return who had taken the children and moved home to her parents house (out-of-state). Client was not initially interested in restoring the marriage but changed his mind the process. He did a good job of recognizing several areas where he had wronged her and prepared a sincere confession but she refused to hear it.

4

Coaching

Church/School

No

Provided coaching for lead pastor and elders dealing with a contentious pastoral staff departure.

40+

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Allison Picking and I did an emergency Assistance with a couple who already filed for divorce. The woman was receptive and helped. The man was hard, deceptive, manipulative and not helped as much. She is continuing with the divorce. I believe/hope they will experience it less destructively.

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

newly married couple struggling with husband's significant anxiety. wife feels rejected and sad when she perceives her husband to be angry and stonewalling. I encouraged them with Psalm 142 - particularly v 2 and what that would look like in their marriage. We worked on a strategy together and they will contact me when needed.

1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Husband and wife contacted me as they disagreed on how to respond to their 17 year old daughter's announcement that she considers herself to be 'they' and non binary and her decision to live with her school friend's family to get away from 'religion'. The wife recently requested ongoing coaching.

more than 50 hours in 2024

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

A professional women with a high profile public role reached out for help in early 2023 as she was dissatisfied with her marriage and was having an emotional affair with another man. She does not attend church and hasn't done all of her adult life yet the Holy Spirit is on the move and she wants to obey God and grow in her relationship with Jesus. She contacts me regularly for me to pray for her and guide her in her very demanding work and life. I would estimate that in 2024 more than 6 hours of our time together was for coaching in respect of her marriage and conflict with a colleague in her workplace.

2.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Since 2020 I have been helping a couple with severe conflict in their marriage. the wife is likely a sufferer of borderline personality disorder but a brave lover of Jesus who has grown spiritually during this time. I sometimes meet with them together and sometimes just with the wife. During 2024 I met with the wife for just 2.5 hours as she is doing so much better and has been able to join a church and a small group bible study group. She reaches out to talk when the conflict with her husband is severe.

9 hours

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Husband left his wife and their jointly run business to care for his ailing mother 1,500klms away. His wife felt abandoned. She was also left to run their tyre repair business without the labour of her husband or his support. There was little communication between them. He had always been an angry man and in his sixties was becoming harder to live with his wife reported. She requested mediation but he would not agree. I provided conflict coaching to the wife for about 8 hours over a period of months and one session with her husband in which he agreed to work with me towards me facilitating a conversation but his fear and lack of privacy in his parents home got in the way. However, they were able to improve their communication and the wife visited her husband on several occasions. The wife contacts me when she feels the need for help in navigating their marriage.

20+

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Church conflict between pastor and members of the elder board. Extensive coaching of the parties was done by Saddleback Church Reconciliation Ministry team. I mentored the team through coaching and then assisted with the two-day mediation. Parties celebrated reconciliation.

19

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Highly conflicted marriage - husband vacillates regarding seeking help.

48

Coaching

Church/School

No

Church conflict involving pastor, board and staff. We conflict-coached 10 individuals to prepare them for a January 2025 mediation.

17

Coaching

Church/School

No

Conflict between two pastors; case referred by church elders. My co-conciliator and I have coached each pastor with a view towards mediation, but one pastor is participating only occasionally and reluctantly.

9

Coaching

Church/School

No

Pre-mediation work with church staff and church volunteer who are at odds with each other. Because church staff member left position and refused to mediate, case is not resolved. I have reached out to staff member and continue to hope to help in this situation.

20

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Wife struggles with years of being emotionally abused by both her parents. She and her husband have adopted two adolescent children with special needs.

20

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Throughout the year I did conflict coaching with individuals: marriage and church cases. Example: I did conflict coaching with a man who was excommunicated by an abusive pastor who retaliated when the man called this pastor to repentance. I coached a woman fleeing an abusive husband and helped her seek safety and move out.

26

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

3 cases completed throughout 2024, all similar. Separated or divorced parents wanting to agree on all parenting arrangements.

15

Coaching

Church/School

No

Ongoing conflict coaching among the Hutterite people, whom we serve as Bible translators in Canada and the US. See case description from previous year (01/09/2024) *Even though I never explicitly request any feedback, the people I am helping do express to me how thankful they are and how helpful it has been.

20

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

I just started this family mediation case. The main issues are among a mother, her oldest daughter, and her husband, the son in-law, although the whole family of 5 is affected by the conflict. So far, I have only done pre-mediation coaching. There are a lot of issues, including trauma and alcohol addiction within the family, which are affecting all relationships. Mother and son in-law had a falling out with the result of him forbidding her to be with the grandkids, which is very hard for her. At the moment, she is only willing to talk with her daughter, but not with the son in-law. I might have to meet with only the mother and daughter first to resolve their issues, of which many stem from the past and their very dysfunctional home. However, I will definitely work towards getting all the affected parties together (mother, daughter, and son in-law) for a mediation. The issues that the mother has with the the son in-law is mainly that he puts himself in a position of authority that he doesn't have, over her and the whole family. The father, who is the alcoholic and the cause of a lot of the past trauma, is not so much in the picture any more. I am open to include the other sister and the father in further discussions, should the need arise.

15

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

I have been coaching an elderly couple to help them navigate a conflict that has arisen within their daughter's family. The couple are Christians, but their daughter plus husband and two teenage children are not. They all live on the same property, so have a lot of interaction with each other. The main conflict is between the older son (18) and his mom, although the relationship to his dad is also not a good one. A few years ago, the dad was unfaithful and the parents separated. Then, after 4 years, the mom let dad move back in with them. Since then, the son has become more and more hostile towards his parents, but especially towards his mom. As grandparents, the elderly couple have always been very involved in the children's lives and have been taking care of the grandkids, especially during the parents separation. A while ago, their grandson moved in with them and they seem to have his trust. I have been working with them towards helping their daughter and son in-law to see how they as parents have hurt their children in this whole process. My goal is to eventually bring the whole family together to have an open and honest conversation so that all the issues can be understood and dealt with. I believe trust has been severely broken (especially for the children) and that needs to be acknowledged. This will hopefully help the relationship to be restored, or at least get this process started.

25

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Since the first two cases cover the required 20 hours, this submission is just for 5 or 6 conversations via email and/or Zoom, with students from the marriage counseling course Dawna & I taught for BRTS Latvia. Primarily helping some intelligent Russia women wisely navigate marriages to difficult husbands.

25

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

This is an ongoing marriage mediation, initiated by the wife. Her issues are mainly neglect, non-communication, and a suspected adulterous relationship by the husband. He denies all these allegations, saying that his wife is mentally unstable. It turned out that the woman has been on psychotics for many years and also tried to commit suicide a number of times. She is in psychiatric care right now, so we had to stop our meetings. It is unsure at this point, whether we will be able to continue with the mediation because of the woman's mental health situation. Our last meeting was on October 7, 2024.

25

Mediation

Church/School

No

I'll ask for feedback soon. We're using the RW360 feedback form. This was a priest and a pastor in conflict. The coaching and mediation went very well. I did this case alone.

22

Coaching

Church/School

No

I have been coaching a young woman who is in a conflict with her pastor. The conflict was brought on through some misunderstandings with the result of the pastor avoiding and even openly opposing the woman, who always had a ministry in the church. (I know this pastor personally and I suspect that he felt threatened by her.) Since then, no attempt to explain herself or show of love and respect for him and his position as pastor seemed to help. Only recently, he completely changed his attitude toward her and even gave his ok for her to lead her ministry again (which he resisted in the past). He still hasn't talked with her to address the issues, but at least now there is an open door again for further communication. PTL! :)

15

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

I have been doing ongoing conflict coaching for many years now among my three siblings, who are all in conflict with each other. I have done a mediation for them a few years ago with a partially satisfying outcome. In the last year, great progress has been made among my two brothers, who don't know the Lord. Right now, my focus is to help them to resolve their issues from their childhood. An added difficulty is that they live in another country and I don't see them very often. I do have phone conversations with them.

86

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

13 cases all similar completed throughout 2024. All separated or divorced parents wanting to reach agreement on how to jointly make decisions about their children and share care of their children.

29.75

Coaching

Church/School

No

Anne Fifer invited me to mediate a conflict between two pastors. The overseers wanted a neutral third party, and we began in person with both pastors in August. One of the pastors didn't begin meeting with us after completing some of his assignment until many months later. This case involves potential abuse.

1.50

Coaching

Other

No

The conflict coaching involves an individual in conflict with multiple parties involving multiple transactions and relationships. The individual appears to be genuine in his desire to resolve the conflicts based upon Scripture. The individual is challenged by a desire to "hold people accountable". The individual is challenged by the desire for "justice".

.70

Coaching

Building/Property/Construction

No

The dispute involves flooring installation in a residence. The conflict involves the quality of the work, payment for the work and replacement of defective work. The home owner made attempts to resolve the conflict but the contractor has not been responsive.

.50

Coaching

Other

No

Dispute involved conflict between siblings and conflict between children and mother. The conflict involved ownership in and operation and control of a family businesses and future inheritance issues.

.80

Coaching

Other

No

The dispute involves conflict between a franchisor and an franchisee involved in ministry to business executives. The conflict involves the contractual relationship, compensation and potential termination of the relationship.

1.50

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Dispute involving Pastor and Church members and Church elders. Dispute involved conflict between teenagers and parents of teenagers. The dispute involved gossip, judgment and condemnation. The conflict caused division among all involved.

1.50

Coaching

Employment

No

The dispute involved a ministry and a former employees. The parties were represented by lawyers. The employee was terminated for taking sensitive property from the employer. The conflict involved a breach of duty and alleged justification for the wrongful conduct.

1.0

Coaching

Building/Property/Construction

No

Construction dispute between home owner, general contractor and sub-contractor. Home owner made attempts to resolve. Contractor and sub-contractor refused to respond, address issues, accept any responsibility.

43.50

Arbitration

Employment

No

Dispute between Christian School and former employee involving allegations of discrimination, wrongful termination, etc. Involves significant emotional and anger issues.

3.50

Coaching

Other

No

The conflict involves the post-divorce relationship between the parents of a small child as related to the child being in the presence of a third party in a relationship with one of the parents. There are other issues involving lack of forgiveness, anger, bitterness, alleged manipulation and alleged control. There are other issues involving communication, judgment, condemnation and how the ex-spouses will parent going forward.

19

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Highly conflicted couple

35

Coaching

Church/School

No

I'll be asking soon. This is a church in the midwest. Scott Owen and I did a Phase 1 (teaching and lots of coaching). The key conflicted party resigned before we came and did not participate so they felt helped but probably won't have us back for mediations. (They still might).

10.

Mediation

Building/Property/Construction

No

This involved a dispute over issues between landlords and tenants which was referred to speak with me after a failed mediation the church elders attempted to conduct with the parties. We were preparing for mediation. Eventually based on the divine intervention, the tenants found alternative accommodations and mediation was not necessary. However, the parties have been invited to still speak if they would like to address any of the underlying personal issues which were involved.

25

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Woman, (E) has handicapped teen-aged child. She is navigating conflict with her para and care-giver at school. Conflict with school authorities. These have been largely resolved, although the next chapter of her child's life after she turns 18 and is no longer in the school system is her next challenge. What will E do? We are investigating solutions, including those people with whom she has reconciled at the school. Ongoing case, as E is very perfectionistic and demanding. She is learning, however to trust in God's sovereign care and control.

12

Mediation

Church/School

No

Mediated a strained relationship between two female ministry leaders in a church. They both confessed to some fears and insecurities they had around one another and created a plan for working together in the future with good communication and keeping short accounts.

52

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Ongoing dispute among the members of two Christian families involving the relationship between a son of one family and a daughter of the other family. Parties had agreed to prepare for a mediation however not all parties have yet invested the time in the process to move toward the mediation. Coaching continues.

44

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Ongoing dispute among the members of two Christian families involving the relationship between a son of one family and a daughter of the other family. Parties had agreed to prepare for a mediation however not all parties have yet invested the time in the process to move toward the mediation. Coaching continues.

12

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Marriage conflict largely due to past unhealthy ways of relating in their families.

9

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Single woman with shame and sin issues

45.3 in 2024

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Family relational conflict between parents and son/daughter-in-law which has intensified with the transfer of governance of the family business from father to son and the father's subsequent disappointment with the son's choices and performance.

100?

Coaching

Other

No

Ongoing consult with AoR/ICC Case Admin on probably most every case by either ongoing email review or verbal debrief on countless cases, including one I may arbitrate.

16 hours

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Adult daughter wanted to confront parents about some items. We established some coaching and had two short mediations between her and her parents. They were able to understand each other, establish some guidelines for going forward. The daughter still needs to work on some heart issues. The parents recognized some important heart issues.

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Christian couple married 8 years and separated for less than 1 year. Husband sought conflict coaching to determine if mediation would be a good approach to resolve marital issues. He was not certain if his wife would be open to mediation. Conflicts regarding sexual intimacy, submission to Biblical view of role of husband and wife in marriage, verbal and spiritual abuse. Case is pending based on whether wife agrees to engage in mediation.

5.85

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Party to court ordered secular mediation sought coaching on bringing his wife back to consider restoring the marriage. Significant focus on need for transparent repentance on his part for his adultery, and changes from what had been a manipulative approach to gaining her reconsideration.

23

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

MW woman married to pastor. Husband no longer pastors church but she is left with his anger, bitterness and resentment. This case is ongoing. She is also faced with conflict between her husband and her adult children. She is learning to be a peacemaker herself.

25+

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Two brothers and their families have been estranged for 3-4 years, due to one family's assessment that the other brother is controlling and critical. Harsh confrontations in the past caused further problems. I have been doing conflict coaching with both families since the spring, and am nearing the point of getting them together for mediation.

2.3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Party sought coaching on addressing spouses expressed concerns that were leading to that spouse seeking separation. Addressed the coached party's choices and what led to them. Ultimately it became clear that the party really was seeking legal advice on tactics in potential mediation, despite his signed agreement to the contrary.

15

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

A husband has been negligent and distant (formerly unfaithful), and was asked to leave the home. I have been counseling/coaching him toward repentance and reconciliation, while one of our biblical counselors has been working with his wife. He has been VERY untrustworthy in the past, making it complicated.

4.3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Parents were estranged from their daughter after the daughter lost a child to cancer. Coached parents on communications with daughter and steps to pursue reconciliation.

12

Coaching

Other

No

Ongoing conflict coaching with the board of a Christian non-profit. Most work coaching to date was in the summer and fall of 2023. The board brought in a new executive director and that leader is now assessing the need for ongoing coaching with staff and board.

16

Coaching

Other

No

Ongoing conflict coaching with the board of a Christian non-profit. Most work coaching to date was in the summer and fall of 2023. The board brought in a new executive director and that leader is now assessing the need for ongoing coaching with staff and board.

12

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

marital dispute that led to a protective order and trying to work through parenting time.

33

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

24-001:Ministry couple rebounding from a devastating church conflict wound up in a spouse swapping relationship with another couple. Deep hurts and feelings of betrayal on both sides had to be dealt with. This was a slow process but couple ultimately did very well in reconciling. They were encouraged to pursue counseling to complete the healing process beyond what was within the scope of conflict coaching and mediation.

6

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Single woman with work conflict

40+

Mediation

Church/School

No

Several church staff members approached their lead pastor and elder board with complaints against a former staff executive pastor who had resigned after the failure of his marriage. Their complaints included allegations of harshness in his supervision of them, dishonesty, and verbal and emotional abuse. I interviewed every staff member, provided conflict coaching to several of them, met with the departed executive pastor multiple times to provide him with conflict coaching, and ultimately brought him together with two staff members in two separate conciliation meetings.

At least 35 hours

Mediation

Church/School

No

Case involved a church wide conflict. There was conflict among the board and between the board and church members. I worked on this case with Patrick Drury and CRG. I believe CRG will ask them to do feedback on the conciliators in due time. On November 16, 2024 we had our last debrief with the board via zoom. We did two separate weekend site visits to the church in OH. I don't know if they are satisfied or not... I get the sense they are still highly conflicted and not yet at peace. Patrick and I reported to the board that one individual was resistant to acknowledging any wrong doing in mediation and suggested that they follow up on that.

25

Mediation

Employment

Yes

Parties were employees at a Christian organization and were unable to work together due to conflict. I did one on one coaching to prepare the parties for mediation. I spent time listening to the and sharing God's love and grace to them. We spent time discussing biblical peacemaking principles of confession and granting forgiveness. In mediation parties were able to provide clarity on the miscommunication that lead to the break down in their working relationships. Both parties were able to take ownership of what they did wrong and grant forgiveness to each other. Parties created a plan on how to work together and created a plan on how to biblically address conflict if it happened in the future.

8

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coached parents regarding conflict in the lives of their adult children.

7

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

A recently married couple in conflict with the wife's father, on whose property they lived. Complex conflict with him as landlord, partial employer, and father (& in-law)--on a rural farm where everyone is expected to do everything all the time! And (the kitchen sink) the father has a TBI, leading to little filtering of speech or emotions. Couple learning to sort "cares" (of of our control) from "responsibilities" (God's calling, step by step). Likely will see them again.

1

Coaching

Other

No

Initial consultation for an individual seeking assistance in addressing conflict with a fellow congregant and business partner.

24

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Marital and family conflict largely due to wife's/mother's trauma in childhood.

5.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Party: SB Description: The client is seeking coaching on reconciling with his estranged wife. The client conceded he had multiple extramarital relationships, but had come back to the Lord in repentance of his sin against his wife. The coaches worked with this client to understand the hurt his wife had experienced which he came to acknowledge, and he came to understand his need to offer her sacrificial love -- to accept her need to seek a divorce, but yet to offer her support for Christian counseling to help her overcome the grief and loss she is experiencing.

20 hours

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Conflict in leadership team that required two short mediations. Hours of coaching with the pastor and two meetings of a couple hours each with two core leaders. Understandings were met. The pastor had already requested forgiveness, Restoration was complicated since individuals compared notes and were holding second hand offenses.

7.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Parties; NN & PN Description: The husband is seeking to restore his marriage; the wife is seeking to "clarify" their relationship, re-establish trust, respect and communication with her husband. The wife was very tentative about re-establishing personal contact with her husband, as she felt he had dominated their relationship and she didn't feel any love or respect from him. The husband feels "abandoned" by his wife who left him and went "home" to care for her very sick father. After early coaching, the wife has agreed to establish more communication with the husband. The husband has agreed to consider her desire for "arms-length" discussions and begin to communicate his deep love for her in a way acceptable to her rather than simply requesting/demanding that she consider reconciliation. They continue to communicate offline at this point.

4

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Parties: AS & AS Description: The parties came to mediation to prepare a separation agreement and property settlement. In early discussions, the husband submits that the wife is difficult to live with and he is not willing to consider reconciliation. The wife does not feel that the husband respects or even loves her, and is critical of all her actions and decisions. The coaches have spent time with both parties reminding them of Christ's love for each of them and his forgiveness freely offered, as a basis for establishing more secure and open communication between the parties. The case is ongoing.

6.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marriage conflict

1

Coaching

Church/School

No

Coaching previous client on application of BUILT ON THE ROCK

1.5

Coaching

Church/School

No

Coaching elder on application of BUILT ON THE ROCK

18

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Conflict between church member, church member's family, with various church members, and pastor. A substantial amount of time was spent consulting with leaders also.

14.1

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Mediation commenced with a married couple. During the coaching phase, significant, unrepentant sin on the part of one spouse was discovered as well as possible abuse. Spouse was confronted. Mediation was suspended and oversight transitioned to church leadership to implement a recovery plan.

30+

Mediation

Church/School

No

I worked with a conflicted leadership team at a church in Hillsboro, Kansas. I interviewed all of the pastoral staff members and all of the elders. I then provided conflict coaching to one of the pastors and three of the elders over the course of several months. Then, in October, I facilitated three days of conciliation meetings resulting in the reconciliation of the pastor with the three elders. I provided additional training on biblical conflict resolution to the entire church leadership team.

80+

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Peter Louie and I made two onsite visits to an ethnic church. Some were very responsive and helped. The elder chairman was upset because we didn't fix the problems in the church (being unable to recognize that he was one of the problems!). Others were very teachable and grew/benefited from it. All agreed that our teaching and coaching was excellent. The only discontent was about the outcomes of the mediations that feel short of the expectations of some. We followed process well and loved people well. The mediations revealed some ugliness in the heart such that the church leaders could respond with more clarity, which they have. I'm glad we went. I think we served them well.

46 hrs (after the 40 reported last year)

Coaching

Church/School

No

3-pastor board (Vineyard) requested review of handling of family who had 2 teens in youth group -- I reported first part of case last year. Case finished end of 2024 as far as my involvement and a final report. The "apology meeting" done mid-way by the senior pastor and his wife (also a pastor) was successful in my view in conveying sorrow to the teens - mom will not let go of blaming pastor for "kicking them out of church" and senior pastor did not handle apology delivery well but his wife (pastor) did a beautiful job. So, mixed results which I leave in the Lord's hands. Wrapped up final debriefs and recommendations to board -- they have said they are following through but I am not certain they (and I) were successful in getting senior pastor to recognition of his contribution.

23

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Single women with sin and shame issues

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Couple needing guidance through life transitions.

4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Provided conflict coaching for spouse in a marital conflict situation.

15

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Marital conflict

60+

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

A couple who left a church had a conflict with the elders and pastor of the church. Did extensive coaching with all parties and three mediation meetings. Parties celebrated reconciliation.

2

Coaching

Church/School

No

Coaching denomination leader on preventing conflict through developing training and systems

4

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Church intervention between the pastor and one church member. Mediation held and each party provided a Summary of Important Conversations.

8

Coaching

Church/School

No

Coaching the pastor and church member in preparation for the mediation.

46.7

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Dispute between Christian school and family of student.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

A husband in a complicated marital dispute asked that I meet with him and his wife from whom he was separated. I discussed the matter with him at length and he told me there was too much tension now to think mediation would be helpful. He was going to try to have his wife meet with him and their pastor.

55

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

A senior pastor and associate pastor were deeply distrustful because of past actions by each of them. Thier conflict worsened over 2-3 years until they we unable to work together and asked for Christian conciliation assistance.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Feedback was given, without request, positive resolution to long-standing marital conflict with separation looming. Repentance by husband for explosive anger, torpedoing his marriage. This after one session, such is the power of the Spirit! from Scripture and study of Spiritual MRI Questions study. Then worked on practical decision-making methods for their family business, which was the typical occasion for conflict.

13

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Parties: JK & SK Description: The parties came to mediation to develop a separation agreement. The wife claimed verbal and emotional abuse throughout the marriage; the husband did not affirm the abuse, and felt the wife had maligned his personal and professional reputation with her allegations. Nevertheless, initially, the husband wanted to seek reconciliation but finally came to understand the wife would not reconcile their marriage. The parties came to agreement on a separation agreement, including distribution of assets; and came to establish better communication regarding family issues.

2

Mediation

Church/School

No

24-011: Disupute between two church families. One family informally hired the other member to perform car repairs. After significant time with no progress the family retrieved their car and took it to a mechanic. Other member was seeking reimbursement for time he claimed he had spent on the project. When the family claimed that funds were provided in advance, he stormed out.

4

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Provided coaching to a husband and wife who were dealing with the estrangement from the wife's mother for the past seven years. The estrangement was a result of conflict that came from threats made by the wife's stepfather towards various family members. Mom had contacted the daughter and expressed a desire to reconnect. I assisted the husband and wife in setting some boundaries for initial contacts as well as helped them understand the necessity to offer forgiveness to the mom and to pray for the repentance of the stepfather. Unfortunately the stepfather was not in a position to want to reengage with his stepdaughter's family.

31

Mediation

Business

Yes

This was a mediation to help resolve a business dispute between two partners who were involved in a failed business merger. The parties asked for help to resolve a conflict over alleged unpaid compensation upon dissolution of the merger. One of the participants of the mediation was very satisfied and one was critical of the Christian mediation process and the mediator, indicating that they would have preferred court. The Purchase and Sale Agreement, contained the ICC mediation clause requiring Biblical mediation. The case was settled.

14

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Provided mediation for a young couple who had a history of emotional and some physical abuse towards one another. I mediated a structured separation while both parties got counseling for their anger and emotions. I then mediated and helped oversee them reunite once they had reached specified counseling goals. A lot of individual conflict coaching went into preparation for the mediations. Some of the mediation sessions were very intense. The parties were satisfied and grateful for the mediation provided. Unfortunately they did not continue with the ongoing counseling they had each agreed to. As of this report they are still together and the abuse has not returned.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

A couple came to me for coaching regarding the way their adult son's divorce and remarriage was impacting family relationships in anticipation of upcoming holidays. Son was offended that several of his family members have maintained a relationship with his ex-wife who married his best friend. We explored the vocational responsibilities to the son and his new wife as well as the relationship of their other children and themselves to the ex-wife and her new child according to scripture.

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

CW has 3 siblings (one saved). Their mother passed when hit by an ambulance and her siblings chose to sue (CW did not want to and chose to stay separate from that action). Her siblings became angry with her, as did one of her nieces and largely alienated her. We worked on understanding their different expression of the pain of loss; staying completely separate (made difficult because she was exclusive cosigner on her mother's accounts). CW was able to make a strong, gentle appeal and to keep showing up for her siblings and nieces, making apologies for perceived affronts and seeking their good. The family anger has waned and they are on the road to a better relationship.

65

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Conflict between long time church members and second pastor of church. Confusion of authority, responsibility, and care leading to lots of conflict, disregard of others, etc. The church also had conflict and conflicting views with its denomination and governing region. The planting and long term pastor had retired, but was still part of the conflict as well. Finances, building use, loans, Christian education, ways of worship, doctrine all was part of the challenges.

17.1 in 2024

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Severe marital dysfunction for many years. Mediation to identify and resolve multiple issues.

8

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

I coached a pastor's wife whose husband was being disciplined at his church. They were navigating a separation and I coached to manage the conflicts that were arising with her children through this tumultuous time.

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This was a follow-up coaching meeting from the mediation I did with an extended family in December and January (01/04/2024). The mother wanted some advice about an upcoming family holiday. I suggested a family meeting with specific questions for everyone. The result was that the issues that the daughter and son-in-law had with them, are now completely resolved and trust has been restored. *Even though I didn't ask for feedback, the parents gave me very positive feedback, saying that they would recommend me to others anytime.

19

Mediation

Employment

Yes

Conducted a couple of coaching sessions with DJ (business owner) and RC and their attorneys prior to mediation. RC felt he was discriminated against when terminated. During the mediation, DJ felt that RC was not being honest in what he was asking for monetary wise. The two attorneys agreed on some things with a 14-day deadline. RC provided a couple of the requested items before leaving the mediation. Communication broke down sometime in September when DJ and his attorney did not respond to an email from this conciliator. The case was returned to the Administrator for possible arbitration.

20+

Mediation

Church/School

No

Served as part of a GRA team in a church with a large daycare, coming in after an attempted ministry team reconciliation had revealed significant impact of the conflict had spread through the church and community and caused significant polarization which became bigger in a public meeting. A team was then assembled and before our team was on the ground one of the two pastors involved had announced he had taken a call and was getting ready to leave. Our team taught the GaBR seminar and offered coaching for staff, leadership team, and congregation members. Many issues were apparent, some coaching led to further engagement with God's Word, confession and forgiveness was demonstrated by the team, but the remaining staff and leaders struggled with addressing their own responsibilities in the conflict (tending to self-justify instead) without ongoing accountability to the pastor who left. Recommended mediations and final report have not taken place to this point.

2.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County Court, PA

21.40

Mediation

Other

Yes

The conflict involved two ministries. The contractual relationship between the ministries was terminated. The conflict involved intellectual property issues. The conflict involved the rights of the parties to continue ministry efforts in a specific geographical area and a specific ministry area.

22.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

I did one on one coaching for a party that was experiencing relational conflict that was being impacted by trauma and severe depression. We discussed how the gospel frees us from the burden of shame and how to receive God's forgiveness. In addition we discussed to extend God's forgiveness to those who wronged him. We stopped coaching when the party started a new job and had less time. The party plans to start coaching again when he has more time.

21

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Parties were in a crisis in their marriage but were highly motivated to reconcile. One party had a history severe mental health issues that were contributing to communication barriers. I did one on on coaching with both parties to prepare for mediation. In coaching we discussed peacemaking principles of listening, loving confrontation, confession and forgiveness. In mediation both parties were able to confess and were granted forgiveness. Together parties were able to experience God's grace and compassion and create a next step plan to address decision and communication barriers that were contributing to the conflict.

.6

Coaching

Estate

No

This involves some family conflict over estate matters. It involved Conflict Coaching between myself and one of the parties from my church.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County Court, PA

36.5

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

2 pastors were in conflict, one pastor was making the accusation of spiritual abuse. I did one on one coaching with both parties to listen deeply, extend God's love and teach about biblical peacemaking principles. In mediation both parties were able to acknowledge things they did wrong and ask for forgiveness. Both parties were able to express God's love to each other and were reconciled. Parties made a plan to have ongoing contact that would help them strengthen their relationship and they created a communication plan in case there was future conflict.

14.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Marriage broke down while parties were a missionary team overseas. Agence sent them to counseling and then sent them home. Wife sought separation but husband opposed to divorce. Addressed confessions nd forgiveness in aspects of significantly varying perspectives on what transpired that undermined marriage. Parties addressed formal allocation of resources between them

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County Court, PA

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Montgomery County Court, PA

43

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Marriage conflict - requested to help by pastor. Husband elder in church but just not responding to calls to love his wife and children. Significant breeches of trust, wife was losing capacity to endure. She separated. He just could not seem to take responsibility or guidance. recommended an intensive counseling experience for him to possibly help understand his barrier or heart sin keeping him from living the Gospel he professed. Church leadership supportive of recommendation.

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

A son/brother obtained my name from AofR and requested that I mediate a family dispute between he and his siblings on behalf of his father. Not all siblings agreed to participate in the mediation. The brother asked if i would be willing to meet with one of his brothers and himself which he felt might move others to join in the process. It is still pending.

50

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Allison Pickering and I did a marriage conciliation / intensive. They were already filed for divorce and deeply wounded. We helped them both personally and they grew in their understanding of each other and accountability with others. They are still headed for divorce. The guy was pretty recalcitrant and low EQ.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County Court

2

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

24-008: Several engagements with couple to get husband to participate in conciliation but ultimately, he refused.

48

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

This married couple had been operating independently for many years and their relationship was fraught with fighting and conflict. They came to us seeking as a last ditch effort to save their marriage. We met for four days and the couple were able to find reconciliation on many of their greatest hurts and understanding was increased. They left the mediation process with a plan for how to address the remaining issues.

3.7

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

Prior agreement required reassessment of Spousal support after 5 years. Parties addressed impact of significant income changes, and needs for higher education support for their children.

19

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

2 cases - one in March-24 and one in July 24 both similar in that they were to do with divorced parents where one parent wanted to relocate to a different country or a different city, and wanted to agree how that would work so that both parents maintained their relationships with their children and would co-parent their children in terms of making joint agreed decisions about them.

40

Coaching

Other

Yes

Coaching and consulting for Mission Organization - missionary on the field accused of power abuse of other missionaries and nationals of country. Coached president and board through process.

8

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Premarital coaching

3

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County Court, PA

17

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

V and F married with adult children. Anger issues in work(family business) and at home. The husband has been reconciled with his wife and has for the first time owned his own sin against her. He is rejoicing and growing in faith and relationships with others in the family circle. Good resolution - but ongoing check-ups will be necessary.

5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Met with family of two parents and seven adult children to discuss and work through fall out from father's recent adulterous relationship.

14.7

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Conflict between Church Session and Deacon re: Deacon conduct in connection with member domestic matter and Deacon alcohol use.

40+

Mediation

Church/School

No

Served on a GRA team at a church where conflict within extended families was a significant factor in church conflict. Assisted with coaching on first visit, coaching and mediation on second visit, and was asked back for a third visit for coaching and multiple mediations with one party who was involved in conflicts with multiple people. During this third visit this party finally engaged with God's Word, allowing me to walk her through the full GaBR seminar which she had resisted during the prior two visits, and was able to begin reconciling relationships through confession and forgiveness.

160

Arbitration

Church/School

No

Actually an investigation. There was an allegation of their pastor of emotional abuse, power abuse. However, the parties wanted to reconcile and there was hope that it was an isolated situation, a misunderstanding or correctable with reconciliation and coaching or training. Turned out to be systemic and historical. After initial; interviews the staff asked to talk with us again using their personal emails and zooming from home. The investigation widened and it was determined that there was no path back for the pastor that could be kind or safe for the staff, leaders or members of the church.

10

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

Conflicted couple - interratial marriage

55

Mediation

Church/School

No

I served as a co-conciliator with Dwight. He did most of the heavy lifting, but I was involved with coaching and assisted in the mediations. We did witness repentance and forgiveness. Public statements were made. Pastor resigned, so restoration was impacted.

30+

Arbitration

Other

Yes

Ongoing arbitration proceeding between parents and Christian ministry over death of child while in custody of the ministry.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County Court

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Montgomery County Court, PA

5

Coaching

Church/School

No

Provided coaching for church leaders and individuals in conflict with the hope that they can resolve the issues and reconcile.

123

Mediation

Marriage/Family

Yes

dispute

37.8

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Conflict involving Pastor and Church leaders over doctrinal and pastoral style differences. Some leaders left and others remained. Division threatened a church split but that was avoided.

24.25

Mediation

Employment

Yes

Katie, a city ministry co-Director, requested a mediation for a fellow employee with whom she'd been in conflict. Both Katie and Daniel agreed to pre-mediation; I went through the Peacemaker with her, and Peacemaker Ministries curriculum with Daniel, then brought them together for mediation for a few sessions.

50

Mediation

Church/School

No

Coaching/Mediation for church staff of five, two of their spouses, and two church leaders. Used co-mediator Sue Knowles. Primary conflict between two pastors was reconciled.

32

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Assisted another mediator in a church conflict between two pastors which had also been impacting the staff. The conflict was years in the making, yet the pastors had kept this deeply emotional conflict from impacting the broader congregation for the most part such that it had primarily impacted them and the staff. After a day of coaching and 2 days of mediation they were able to reconcile through confession and forgiveness with each other and with multiple staff members.

20+

Mediation

Church/School

Yes

Church conflict between a pastoring couple at one church and a pastoring couple at a church plant. Mediation was triggered by an ADR employment contract clause. Assisted all parties with extensive coaching and partial mediation. Mediation was terminated after one couple left employment and took jobs in another state. The departing couple decided since the employment relationship had terminated, they were not obligated to finish mediation. They declined an invitation to debrief with the Mediators. Mediators did debrief the remaining couple and coached Next Steps.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County Court

2

Arbitration

Other

No

Selected by random draw to be Grievance Officer for complaint against reconciler. Exchanged emails with parties but did not have opportunity to interview those involved because Complaintant withdrew grievance. Wrote Grievance Proceding Determination to document .

8

Coaching

Church/School

No

Several hours of Conflict Coaching with Pete. Eventually he met personally with the other party in the conflict.

40

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Helping a couple of 15 years of marriage deal with patterns of bitterness and accusation.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County,PA

10

Coaching

Church/School

No

A conflict between two women at a church. Leslie served in women's ministry at her church and stepped in over many years to reach out to and to help another woman in need at her church. One day that other woman publicly declared that she had been hurt by her church since no one had reached out to her. Leslie was hurt and angry about how this other woman had accused Leslie publicly of not supporting her. I coached Leslie through the anger, hurt, and unforgiveness that she was holding against this other woman. After several coaching sessions, Leslie was able to see her idols and was able to forgive the other woman.

3.5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

Yes

A mother's (AW) relationship with her son has been strained for several years. The son opted not to participate in any coaching session, but the mother did. AW completed homework assignments, including writing a letter. She found out things she was not aware which caused her to reflect. They were able to go on a mother/son trip for several days and had a great time. Shortly after the trip, AW said it was like a switch popped on and he was totally different (regressed). By the end of our coaching sessions, she was able to see that she had done all God told her to do and was trying to now leave it in God's hands.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Chester County Court

3

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

This case involves a dear friend (John) and fellow church member experiencing conflict within his blended family, specifically sibling children of his wife. The conflict carries over into anger directed by one of the children toward his mom and is impacting all relationships. The case is continuing on into 2024 and feedback will be requested at that time.

24

Coaching

Church/School

No

2 pastors were in conflict and there were accusations of spiritual abuse. One party refused to do a mediation with the other party so I did conflict coaching on how to apply biblical peacemaking principles, including , how to do a loving confrontation, how to offer a confession, offer forgiveness and how to create a next step plan to move toward peace.

2.5

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Custody Case for Montgomery County Court, PA

5

Coaching

Marriage/Family

No

Coached 2 sisters to reconcile their relationship. The older sister was judgmental towards the younger sister and self-righteous. Coached her how to ask her sister's forgiveness. Prepared the sister to receive the confession from her sister.

15

Mediation

Marriage/Family

No

Non-Christian married couple seeking divorce after less than one year of arranged marriage. Incompatibility, communication challenges and family of origin expectations of the couple led to breakdown. Initially wife was open to reconciliation and willing to work on the relationship issues if her husband could show that he was more invested in the marriage. Husband not willing to own his contributions to the conflict, blamed his wife for his behavior and choices. After intakes, conflict coaching, and 2 mediation sessions, husband withdrew from mediation.

40

Mediation

Church/School

No

Conflict in the pastoral team