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Wed Nov 01 2023 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Whenever I met with Kevin, he was always kind and enthusiastic about his work and devotion to the Lord. During mediation, he was open to all perspectives and was really good at reflecting what was said in a way that allowed my partner and I to hear each other.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I honestly have no recommendations. He was great.
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Sun Oct 29 2023 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
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Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Kevin was always willing to backtrack and try to get to root of our issue even if we believed that we had properly defined the issue beforehand. Many times we realized that there were other issues that needed to be explored.
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This was by far the most effective counseling my wife and I have ever had. It was a revolutionary process and I’m not sure how it could be improved upon. The process exceeded all of my expectations tremendously.
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Wed Oct 18 2023 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
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Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
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Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
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Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
1
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
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Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
1
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
1
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
1
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
1
Promoted just and fair solutions
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Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
1
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
the reconciler did absolutely nothing that was helpful. he was biased, abusive , with a bad temper, and had self serving monologue instead of dialogue. he wouldnt listen to facts
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
he didnt give 1 word of admonishment to by abusive , cheating delusional wife and told her “your fine there is nothing wrong with you”. he broke every code of conduct and doesnt have enough self awareness to apologize . my wife cheated , told dozens of people that i molested my daughter etc etc . and told me over and over the only regret she has is that she didnt f@@@ him. (her boyfriend) and john did nothing but call me a liar and attack me.
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Tue Oct 17 2023 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
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Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
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Was tactful
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Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
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Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
1
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
1
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
1
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
1
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
1
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
1
Promoted just and fair solutions
1
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
1
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
this reconciler is completely unethical and dishonest. he did nothing but harm my family. he jumped to a bunch of completely inaccurate conclusions and then became agitated and defensive at the slightest criticism . he is way too arrogant to admit he is wrong. please never use him.
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john is not human. he completely lied about our entire situation and irrationally attack me . he did not give a single word of admonishment to my abusive, cheating , psychotic wife. he did nothing but attack one of the parties in the most unfair way imaginable.
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Sun Jul 23 2023 22:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
I waited to fill out this form after, the Lord be praised, Michael and Nancy received the Lord's Supper in Rome alongside the Confessional Lutheran Church of Italy. This was a great blessing and, as far as I am concerned, marks the true end of these sessions with Ambassadors of Reconciliation.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Together we determined that not all those problems and concerns would be dealt with. Michael and Nancy's mental condition weighed into my decision to not pursue all of the complaints and sources of conflict. We also must interpret those things in the best possible way and love covers a multitude of sins there as well. We will see whether or not that was the best decision or not, time will tell, but I am optimistic for now. That is why I gave a 4 on the second to last mark. Hardly a criticism but a decision I made with Dwight's approval. We'll see.
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Fri Jul 14 2023 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
4
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
4
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
The ability to see underling issues and encourage additional work to be done to process those issues was outstanding
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
The reconciler's expertise and experience was evident. I do not have any ideas for improvement
Public comments about your service:
Kevin is a master at his craft, his adherence to the concepts biblical reconciliation are second to none. I was thoroughly impressed at Kevin's ability to impartially guide me through the process and I would commend him to you.
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Thu Dec 22 2022 11:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
4
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Kevin displayed great stamina in learning about the numerous issues involved. He then assisted us ni categorizing those issues. Finally, he assisted us in defining the issues that needed to be addressed in the reconciliation process.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I am now lad that Kevin chose to bring his wife, Pam, into the process; however, I would have preferred to know that his wife would be joining him from the very beginning. nI addition, it would have been helpful for me to know that the spouse of the other party in the reconciliation process would also be engaged in the process.
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Kevin is a very generous soul -generous with his experience, wisdom, listening, and biblical knowledge. He looked out for the welfare of both parties in our reconciliation process. Kevin also brought in the wisdom of Holy Scripture regularly throughout the
process. Finally, Kevin is an optimist. He held out an optimistic view that was confident that a positive reconciliation could be achieved.
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Sat Jul 08 2023 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Kevin was helpful. He is great at being firm but kind. Honest in a helpful way
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
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Fri Jun 23 2023 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Trevor was patient and thoughtful, always bringing the parties back to a focus on reconciliation. In fact, I thought he did that better than myself. His legal/mediation background really served him well in this mediation.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I shared this with Trevor early in our coaching the parties - while he readily proclaimed forgiveness to the parties, it was evident that is a new practice for him. I encourage him to continue to practice this critical skill.
Public comments about your service:
Trevor served with me as a co-mediator on an ICC case. Trevor demonstrated exceptional skill as a mediator. I highly recommend him as a Christian conciliator!
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Sun May 28 2023 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
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Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
3
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Listened and heard from all parties. I appreciated the application of scripture.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Nothing for me
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Thu May 25 2023 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
4
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Dwight was so quick to speak words of forgiveness and hope when I recognized and confessed my sin. I desperately needed this and am so grateful for his pastoral heart.
The most important thing Dwight did was to call out the sin of careless talk on our entire staff. We know we do this, but in the past we have dismissed it as acceptable behavior. The call to repentance has had a profound impact on most of our team and has opened the door to healing.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Dwight tried to get Mark to bring up the issues he had expressed in their private meetings. There are so many things that impacted Mark's engagement, but a much more direct approach would likely have been more effective in getting the conversation going.
Public comments about your service:
Like any team, we have experienced conflict off and on. We have used various resources to try and work through the issues in the past. We learned helpful things, but none of them addressed the underlying sin and the ongoing hurt this was causing. None of the past efforts brought us to Jesus as the one who could heal us. The time we spent in the Word of God in our personal preparation, private sessions, and as a group, helped us to identify our sin, recognize the damage we were doing, repent, confess, and restore relationships that have been broken for a long time. Dwight patiently, carefully, and lovingly led us through a process that has helped us experience biblical reconciliation. Is everything perfect now? No, we are still on this side of heaven. But we are definitely moving in the right direction!
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Fri Apr 07 2023 14:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
He tried to assist me in getting my responses in the conflict to a more effective and workable level without putting words in my mouth. He was gently persistent in this and yet ceased when he realised I was giving all I could give in the process. He was always very encouraging and making positive suggestions as opposed to criticisms.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
My only (minor) criticism of the reconciler was that at one point in the process the other party refused to answer a question (from the reconcilers) at least six times (literally) and I believed that this shouldn't have been allowed to go on. It brought me to despair, partly because I, and other people, had been dealing with this sort of behaviour for several years. I may be wrong, but I think intervention should have occurred after the second or third attempt at obfuscation. I am not sure how reconcilers are supposed to handle this sort of behaviour, but at the time, it seemed counter-productive. Apart from this he handled a very difficult situation very well and achieved the major goal of peace.
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My experience with James Nodder has been very positive. From the outset I felt very comfortable with him and reassured by his manner that he would be a great asset in a very difficult and unpleasant situation. He was very thorough in pursuing the set work of participants, very helpful in teasing out issues and enabled me to get my contributions to the process into a much more constructive state. During the process he and his assistant were very impartial. His questions were astute, he listened really well and picked up on detail in conversation accurately. If someone asked me to recommend a person anda process to handle a difficult relationship problem, I would have no hesitation in recommending James and Peacemakers. I will ever be grateful for his skill, commitment and compassion which brought an intractable problem of several years duration to a a workable solution.
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Wed Apr 05 2023 23:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
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Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Reconcilers were attentive, caring, and were clearly concerned with a reasonable outcome for both parties. The reconcilers asked thoughtful questions, and listened attentively. Most importantly, I appreciated when the reconcilers were clear and honest about what offers of compromise were made.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I'm not entirely sure, as noted above I think the reconcilers went above and beyond in trying to encourage honest and reflective communication between the parties while also being honest about the path. I don't think there is anything the reconcilers could have done better,
Public comments about your service:
Conflict to Peace are lovely, caring mediators who at every step instilled a sense of respect and understanding. I felt truly heard and cared for by Diane and Ron at Conflict to Peace and would happily and heartily recommend them to anyone seeking resolution with others.
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Thu Dec 29 2022 07:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
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Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
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Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
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Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
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Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
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Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
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Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
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Refrained from favoritism between the parties
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Promoted just and fair solutions
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Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
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Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
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Fri Dec 23 2022 08:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
3
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
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Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
4
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
It was particularly helpful that the reconciler had a video-call meeting with each party separately, several days before the first joint meeting, to go over any concerns that we had. I also appreciated the chance to do a caucus meeting and have some advice on how to apologize. I think the reconciler made a very good observation in saying that it would take me some time to fully process my thoughts on this relationship. It also seemed wise when the reconciler said my sister and I could agree to disagree on certain issues and just not talk about them for now if they were too hurtful.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Having two three-hour meetings over a weekend was quite intense for me. I think it was necessary, but it was nevertheless intense. Maybe it would be easier in the future if it were shorter meetings separated by a week. I think we should have made more use of the caucus on the second and third meetings. I could hear myself in my head explaining the situation to myself, but then I realized that my sister didn't understand some things I was thinking because I hadn't said them out loud!
I also felt at some points like the reconciler was taking the other party's side too much in suggesting that it sounded like it would be appropriate if our dad were restricted to only supervised visitation with our sister Maria, as Hannah was petitioning for. This was a touchy political issue in our family, and I was threading a needle in asking the court for minimal restrictions on visitation and also telling our dad that it we could work through it if supervision were required -- and I also had been in conversation with another sister whom I'd previously been estranged from who was working with me to help our dad, and we had chosen this political position together. I just think the reconciler should have remained neutral on that point, as it was very complicated.
I also felt a little pressured when I started reading the book "Mending the Soul", which the reconciler and Hannah had recommended to me. When I ordered it, I really was enthusiastic about learning and understanding, but at some point as I was flipping through it, I was reminded of a time when I was young and my mom gave me a stack of gospel tracts to read, with the implication that I needed to be saved, although I thought I already was saved, so I stuck the tracts under the couch. Maybe I felt wary of being controlled. In the book there were things about how an abusive person can be very manipulative and that it's often inappropriate for them to even ask for forgiveness -- it seemed kind of hopeless and bitter, and gave me the impression that I was supposed to accept the accusations that my dad was completely in the wrong and irredeemable, when I saw some room for growth on both sides of the conflict.
At the same time, I think it was necessary for the reconciler to take my sister's side more in order to help her feel safe. I think Hannah did feel safe with the reconciler, and I saw her open up a lot more than she had before in the last two years. So maybe it was worth it.
Public comments about your service:
The reconciler gave generously of her time and did her best to make both parties feel safe and understood. It's a very worthwhile process, and I would recommend it to anyone who is involved in a family conflict.
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Tue Dec 13 2022 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
4
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
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Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I would have liked Kevin to insist that we be required to look at one another during discussion and not allow continuous note taking. Eye contact and reading of body language are important and helpful in understanding each other.
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Sun Sep 25 2022 04:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Kevin has a great memory of various scriptures and was able to help us turn to them when the timing was right. He was clear in setting expectations and ensuring we all abided with the "ground rules" we all agreed to. He listened well and took good notes, so that at the end, when working up our end-contract, he was able to produce a document that we both immediately agreed to.
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I recommend Kevin. He is patient, encouraging, a great listener, thorough, and seeks God through the reconciliation process. He was gifted in helping us turn to God in the process and letting God transform our hearts through the process.
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Sat Sep 17 2022 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
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Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
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Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
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Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
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Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
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Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
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Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
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Refrained from favoritism between the parties
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Promoted just and fair solutions
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Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
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Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
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Sat Sep 17 2022 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
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Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
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Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
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Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
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Refrained from favoritism between the parties
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Promoted just and fair solutions
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Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
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Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
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Sun Sep 04 2022 07:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Anita made sure that we created safe, ground rules before we started our time together. I found that to be very helpful. It helped me feel safe as I shared personal stories. She did a great job at asking questions and listening. I felt heard and cared for in all of our sessions together. She brought Scripture into our time and seemed to when it was the perfect time to do so. Overall my time with Anita was excellent. She is honest, kind, patient and trustworthy.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I really don't have a lot to say about what she could improve in. We did have one session where I was triggered by something she said. We talked about it the following week and resolved it I appreciated her willingness to acknowledge where she was wrong and what she needed to grow in. It was a beautiful experience. So I guess just increasing her awareness of trauma and how what she says could be triggering would be something to improve on.
Public comments about your service:
I am so blessed by Anita's gifting. She is an amazing listener, asks insightful and thoughtful questions and brought everything back to Jesus in all of our sessions. She is determined to help bring reconciliation and does so in a grace-filled way. I would absolutely recommend Anita!