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Wed Nov 19 2025 08:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
4
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
4
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
4
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
4
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
4
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
4
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
4
Promoted just and fair solutions
3
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
4
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
There was empathy and reframing
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
The process felt rushed at times
Public comments about your service:
Rushia has a heart for people and helping them to see their fullness in God and working towards reconciliation is one way to assist that process.
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Tue Nov 18 2025 07:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
4
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Provided resources and solutions to commit to communication
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Public comments about your service:
BJ was very helpful with the resources he provided and the Bible based insight he would direct me to each and every time there was a possible disagreement or disconnect with my issue at hand
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Tue Nov 11 2025 08:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
It never felt like she took sides even if things seemed a bit heated. She listened to both parties and encouraged listening skills. She helped us find solutions that we both can agree on and work on. Even when things seem hopless or frustrating She stayed neutral alway in a supportive manner and bringing it back to God. She was never frustrated. She doesnt tell us what to do, or what choices to make but encouraged us to find what works best for us in a safe and supportive way.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Nothing at this time
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Sun Nov 02 2025 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
4
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
4
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
4
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
3
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Keeping the focus on the conflict's resolution not getting mired in the problems which we can address ourselves.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Unknown. The above number 3 about getting the facts is made too difficult in our particular situation with language difficulties.
Public comments about your service:
Kevin and Pam are a great team and intuitively understand the situation faced by my wife and me. The God and Scripture focus was especially helpful throughout the process since we are believers and do our best to follow our Lord's teachings in all aspects of our lives. Kevin led us expertly and put us back on the conciliatory track despite our attempts to side-track the process. He earnestly believes in the process and follows it with determination worthy of the problems faced. God Bless both Kevin and Pam as they continue their work. The process is not a panacea for problems but a road to successful relationships that we are given the choice to follow.
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Thu May 08 2025 23:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
4
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
4
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
0
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
4
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
4
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
4
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
4
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
4
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
4
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Mr Buhr promptly approached the Christian publisher with whom I was in a longstanding difficult dispute in a spiritual, professional and impartial way following which I am pleased to inform you a mainly satisfactory outcome has been accomplished.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Cannot think of anything.
Public comments about your service:
Please see my statement above. As an evangelical Christian it was good to be assisted by a sincere Christian man.
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Tue May 06 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
4
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
He was able to work us through the very emotional & volatile way we were communicating with one another and get us to place of hearing and understanding each others needs and wants. For the first time we actually felt like we were moving forward in a positive and Godly direction. He brought us to a place of being able to recognize our short comings and express that to one another.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I sincerely feel there was nothing lacking in our counsel under Trevor.
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Thu Feb 13 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
4
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
4
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
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Thu Feb 13 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
3
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
4
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
4
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
4
Promoted just and fair solutions
3
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Melissa shared meaningful scripture and allowed time to process how scripture impacts our every action. It was especially helpful to have her female presence and point of view as it created a very balanced and helpful team. I learned a lot about myself that I never knew!
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
This is out of her hands, but a longer time with us to truly see the working dynamic and assess the ins and outs of each personality. It is difficult to get an accurate picture over a few days, and without being able to observe the working relationships in the actual work environment.
Public comments about your service:
Melissa is a Spirit filled, encouraging reconciler. She cares deeply for each individual, uses scripture in a powerful way, and allows the time for all parties to process. I am very grateful for my time with her personally as well as with our group.
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Thu Feb 06 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
The one-on-one time was extremely valuable. Also, the use of biblical texts to support feedback, comments, and paths forward were very helpful and necessary.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
As we have spoken about in the past, I could have used another month of consoling before we met in person for the intensive sessions. However, knowing the amount of time given to us, I cannot complain.
Public comments about your service:
I believe God used Kevin and Pam to save our marriage. They responded to our case with love, compassion, wisdom, and discretion. We will be forever grateful for the time we spent together under their care.
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Wed Feb 05 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
3
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
4
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
4
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Dwight spent time trying to understand fully with the limited time he had with us. He was straight forward, insightful, and encouraging.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Spend six months on site! :) I know that is impossible, but I think having a better understanding of the personal dynamics and day to day experiences over a longer period of time would have been helpful in getting down to the deep roots of our issues. I guess that's not a critique, but rather an observation.
Public comments about your service:
Dwight is a welcoming, encouraging, insightful, and Spirit led reconciler. Through my interactions with him my faith was strengthened and I gained helpful insight that I will use for years to come.
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Tue Feb 04 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
4
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
4
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
I appreciated the honesty and integrity!
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I was very concerned about one specific party actually being heard and understood that had a concern with me. However, there was forgiveness so it is possible this was achieved at individual meetings.
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Wed Jan 29 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
4
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
4
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
The emphasis and incorporation of Scripture was very helpful, as well as thoroughly explaining the reconciliation process. I think meeting with each of us separately was helpful in that we each could be open without centering the other person too much. The all day reconciliation day was also the most helpful, as I think we really needed that time and to seriously devote an entire day to the process.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Maybe outlining the difference between reconciliation and reinstatement and diving more into the "idols" aspect.
Public comments about your service:
The reconciliation process offers a Christian framework rooted in Scripture with specific, measurable, and time-sensitive follow-up actions. As someone who's participated in couples counseling and therapy, I think this process helped us confront the root cause more profoundly and quickly. Pastor Alan's thoughtfulness and discretion put me at ease, and I had full confidence that he cared about each of us as people and wanted us to become stronger in our faith.
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Wed Jan 29 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
4
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
4
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
I found breaking things down into what our most important issues were to talk through was very helpful. I also thought the amount of preparation we did before the large reconciliation day was very helpful.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Maybe spend a bit less time on the stories portion of the reconciliation day and a bit more time on the issues list.
Public comments about your service:
Pastor Alan was incredibly helpful in the reconciliation of our relationship. I would highly recommend him for any type of reconciliation counseling!
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Sat Jan 11 2025 07:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
3
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
3
Was tactful
3
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
0
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
0
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
0
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
0
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
0
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
0
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
0
Promoted just and fair solutions
0
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
0
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
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Fri Jan 10 2025 05:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
5
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
5
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Just being present in all aspects
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
I'm not qualified to critique you here brother, but I don't know of anything you could have done different or better and never felt you weren't giving it your best and all.
Public comments about your service:
Our situation (marital separation) didn't allow for both parties to participate as she refused. Kevin Thornsberry however was still willing to work with me. Though it was a "one legged close" as it were - the principals, instructions, and Godly guidance are and were still able to be spoken into the situation. The lessons and applications learned have changed me and my approach to conflict profoundly as well as my my walk with God - in ways I can only pray remain lifelong and lasting. I cannot recommend Kevin strongly enough;
Present in all aspects.
Always puts God first.
Competent.
Professional.
Sincere.
Punctual.
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Thu Jan 09 2025 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
4
Was tactful
3
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
4
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
4
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
4
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
4
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Rev. Foss was especially helpful at distilling the 4 main issues that seemed to be plaguing the parties. When he shared them with the group, there was widespread consensus.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
While we were limited by time constraints, I thought that the other party needed to more deeply consider their responsibility and role in the conflict.
Public comments about your service:
Rev. Foss is an excellent listener and does a great job of lowering the temperature of the conflict. He redirects people back on task when they stray. He is able to discern issues and communicate them clearly.
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Tue Dec 24 2024 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
4
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
4
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
4
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
4
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
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Tue Dec 24 2024 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
4
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
3
Was tactful
2
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
2
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
3
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
4
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
4
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
2
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
2
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
2
Promoted just and fair solutions
3
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
3
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
He has a very calming personality that did help our church during this troubled time. We still have people that were involved in our conflict that never had to admit wrongdoing.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
In 2 years i only met with him once, he did a great job of listening however being kicked out of your church illegally more attention should have been given to the few that didn't follow God's rules or the constitution...
Public comments about your service:
Pastor came at a troubled time for our congregation and his wonderful personality helped calm the storm. He was a great calming presence as many in the congregation, the Synod knew our pastors violated Matthew and our constitution. This helped give our congregation a nice healing time as hopefully once the other pastor leaves that was involved in this mess we can move forward. Personally my family was targeted by the pastors and being a Christian institution this is very troubling that the LCMS allowed these men to remain pastors. Pastor Foss is a nice man and I appreciated his dedication to our healing...
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Fri Dec 20 2024 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
3
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
3
Was tactful
4
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
4
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
2
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
2
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
3
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
4
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
3
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
2
Promoted just and fair solutions
3
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
3
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
Kept trying to bring the parties together.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
Got it done more quickly.
Public comments about your service:
Pastor Foss did his best to get the parties together and the issues addressed.
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Thu Dec 12 2024 06:00:00 GMT+0000 (Coordinated Universal Time)
5
Listened to and seemed to understand the parties’ concerns
5
Was tactful
5
Displayed insight into the causes of the conflict
5
Promoted understanding and cooperation between the parties
5
Was willing to confront firmly when necessary
5
Enforced agreed-upon ground rules
5
Used Scripture to guide and encourage the parties
4
Seemed committed to getting all of the facts
5
Refrained from favoritism between the parties
5
Promoted just and fair solutions
4
Made sure that all problems and concerns were dealt with
5
Encouraged reconciliation in appropriate ways
Private comments about how you were helpful:
He was able to give us constructive words that gave voice to our feelings in an encouraging way. He empathized with both parties involved and did not make us uncomfortable (even though talking through everything was uncomfortable but needed done). He was non-judgmental and just accepted us where we were at, and then encouraged us by suggesting things we might choose to do differently. He brought up things we did not think of and helped us plan how to say things.
Private comments about how you could be more helpful:
We were thankful for his help. He was available to listen and talk through our problem. We give God the glory, but He used Scott to help us.
Public comments about your service:
We were able to work through a long standing problem in our family and feel like we have hope that things will be better. Scott's help was INVALUABLE. We highly recommend him as he was empathic, tactful yet firm, had a gentle way of stating truth, and showed love to both parties. Planning ahead for meeting with the other party was extremely helpful. We are thankful for how God used him to help us preserve family unity.