Coaching at a Glance
Almost everyone can benefit from this training, since all of us at times give advice to others on responding to conflict. This training is especially helpful for church leaders, since the church is meant to be a place where its members can seek help in applying God’s message of reconciliation to their personal conflicts.
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Who Should Attend?
Everyone will Benefit!
This practicum is ideal for anyone who advises others in conflicts. Thus, pastors, principals, elders and other lay leaders, teachers, business owners, executive and mid-level managers, counselors, social workers, human resource managers, and parents all benefit from this training. But in reality, anyone who has the opportunity to advise others on dealing with a specific conflict will enjoy this training.
You will learn how to assist people in conflict. You’ll study key Scripture passages and acquire new tools for remembering the basic principles and applying them in everyday conflicts. Past participants report how they used these tools and principles to help others resolve everything from family squabbles to complicated lawsuits.
Getting to the Heart
A Special Training Feature
A special feature of this training includes “Getting to the Heart of Conflict,” wherein participants will learn how to recognize the idolatry that often underlies conflict. As part of this module, students do an actual self-examination to learn about their own idolatrous temptations, and are invited to take part in a private confession and forgiveness exercise. Ministry leaders will find this training extremely practical and useful for coaching others.
The Coaching Process
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The coach assists the person to check his mindset in three ways:
First, the coach draws out the person’s story through active listening.
Second, the coach notes emotional responses and repeating themes and patterns that give insight to a person’s heart.
Using what he learns, the coach then leads the person to embrace a Christ-centered perspective about himself, the other person, and the situation.
Under Be Reconciled to God, the coach applies 2 Corinthians 5:20, where the Apostle Paul writes: “We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God.”
Here the coach guides the person to be reconciled to God using three approaches:
First, the coach applies appropriate Scripture verses. He doesn’t depend on his personal wisdom, but instead points to God’s Word for direction.
Next, the coach helps the party to uncover his or her idols. With patience, the party is then moved to repent before God.
Third, the coach proclaims God’s forgiveness. This good news from the Gospel provides comfort and encouragement to the party, empowering him or her to live out reconciliation with others.
The coach prepares the party for reconciliation to others.
He teaches and encourages the person to initiate contact with the other person and go for reconciliation.
Next, he prepares the party to confess, to forgive, or to restore the other person.
Before sending the person off to reconcile, the coach prays with the person and encourages him or her for reconciliation.
“I personally was brought to repentance and confession through the work of a fellow student in these sessions. This has not only shown me the effectiveness of what you have assembled, but has led me to want others to experienced the release that I feel. This is the cross of Christ and the resurrection applied in real time to me. The downward path I've been on for about 4 years is revealed for what it was. The darkness that I saw encroaching on me was flowing from my own heart! I was cornered by the way you expressed gods word and grateful to be so cornered. The Holy Spirit, that insightful hound from heaven, set things up to restore me through your work and through my fellow students. I'm light, I am airy, I am joyful and have vowed to be very diligent so as not to allow this idol to impose it's shadow on my soul ever again.”
A Former Participant
With registration, approximately 4 weeks before the practicum participants will be provided the following resources to begin their learning:
Conflict Resolution vs. Reconciliation by Ambassadors of Reconciliation
These books provide practical guidance on personal peacemaking and living a lifestyle of reconciliation. The practicum builds on these basic teachings, helping students understand more fully how to apply these concepts to their own relationships as well as helping others.