Conference Recordings

Recent #MeToo and #ChurchToo movements, and high-profile abuse cases, have made power imbalance and abuse a hot topic. Christian Conciliators need to know how to navigate these serious issues. The culture demands a victim-centric approach to abuse allegations (including mandatory investigations, public exposure, and worldly justice). In contrast, this workshop aims to educate Christians Conciliators with a biblical perspective of power and abuse issues, while encouraging them to maintain a Christ-centric and trauma-informed approach to biblical peacemaking that offers hope for redemption for both victim and offender. Permission and license by Peacemaker Ministries to record this content. Visit www.peacemakerministries.org for more information.

Homework is the Conflict Coach’s secret weapon! As conflict coaches, the most productive time parties spend is often in reflecting on God’s word and how it applies to their conflict. Therefore, one of the most effective things we can do is to provide meaningful homework for their reflection. Many resources are available to you for this task! This workshop will explore options for creating quality homework assignments, including the new Homework Dashboard! You will also hear inspiring stories of how God worked through various homework assignments to bring about miracles of reconciliation.

This workshop presents an alternative model for opening the first joint session in mediation. The presenter shifted to using this model a couple of decades ago, finding that it can more effectively focus the parties on each other’s “story” than the typical beginning of GOSPEL framework. The goal of this model is to invite listening to understand and appreciating the impacts of the circumstances - one might say it is a structured storytelling. A unique aspect of this alternative model is the use of music early in the process to worship together before launching into dialogue. We will further discuss the opportunities for incorporating music into the conciliation process.

This workshop presents an alternative model for opening the first joint session in mediation. The presenter shifted to using this model a couple of decades ago, finding that it can more effectively focus the parties on each other’s “story” than the typical beginning of GOSPEL framework. The goal of this model is to invite listening to understand and appreciating the impacts of the circumstances - one might say it is a structured storytelling. A unique aspect of this alternative model is the use of music early in the process to worship together before launching into dialogue. We will further discuss the opportunities for incorporating music into the conciliation process.

The success of building rapport or what AoR calls “passport” hinges on the reconciler’s ability to effectively express empathy. It takes social currency to build agreement to work with a conflicted party. Even in some of the most stonewalled situations, accurately applied empathy can reduce anxiety and resistance enough to open the door you need to initiate open dialog and/or increase permission to remain engaged. This workshop offers a cut-to-the-chase guide to hone your expressions of empathy within a posture of transparent care. Practicing with a co-reconciler can offer early gains in building passport towards your goal of healing relationships.